Single Mom - only one child & the future

[Anonymous]

I'm 30, single Mom and beginning to sink in that I may not ever have a "family." My child's Father never wanted to marry and was abusive, so that wasn't a viable family ever. I don't know if I should just give up or keep looking. It seems like every guy I date claims they want a family but actually doesn't care.

[Anonymous]

Focus on your kid.

[Anonymous]

You have a family. I have one that looks like yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have a family. I have one that looks like yours.

+1. Cherish the family you have now. Maybe it will grow in the future, maybe not.

[Anonymous]

To answer your question, are you extremely good looking? If not, I'd give up on the idea that you will meet a guy and marry him. DC is already a tough dating town for women but looks go a long way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have a family. I have one that looks like yours.

+1. Cherish the family you have now. Maybe it will grow in the future, maybe not.

This. You ARE a family, just not one that looks like what the media shoves down everyone's throats all day. Sure, in an ideal world, everyone would have a helpful, attentive partner that adores them and whatever the going number of kids that's fashionable is, but it's really not the norm, nor is it necessary.

Find the happiness you want in the life that you have. Things may come together in another way later, or they may not. Don't make it the determining factor in living and creating a life for you and your child - your family - that makes you both happy and loved.

[Anonymous]

It does sound like you have a beautiful little family. Being a single parent must be incredibly hard, but what a wonderful opportunity to focus on yourself and your child and to craft your life the way you want it to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a family. I have one that looks like yours.

+1. Cherish the family you have now. Maybe it will grow in the future, maybe not.

This. You ARE a family, just not one that looks like what the media shoves down everyone's throats all day. Sure, in an ideal world, everyone would have a helpful, attentive partner that adores them and whatever the going number of kids that's fashionable is, but it's really not the norm, nor is it necessary.

Find the happiness you want in the life that you have. Things may come together in another way later, or they may not. Don't make it the determining factor in living and creating a life for you and your child - your family - that makes you both happy and loved.

Uh... what? Now the media is intentionally making people feel bad by portraying two parents? That's "shoving it down your throat"? What's it like to be such a sensitive, put-upon, offended little snowflake at everything in the world? It does, in fact, usually take a sperm and egg to make a child so get over yourself, PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have a family. I have one that looks like yours.

+1. Cherish the family you have now. Maybe it will grow in the future, maybe not.

+2. Please do this. My brother didn't. He was divorced, so desperate for a family, that he married a completely crazy abusive woman. All the kids are suffering, and I doubt my brother will live another 10 years. It's "that" bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a family. I have one that looks like yours.

+1. Cherish the family you have now. Maybe it will grow in the future, maybe not.

+2. Please do this. My brother didn't. He was divorced, so desperate for a family, that he married a completely crazy abusive woman. All the kids are suffering, and I doubt my brother will live another 10 years. It's "that" bad.

What prevents him from leaving?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a family. I have one that looks like yours.

+1. Cherish the family you have now. Maybe it will grow in the future, maybe not.

+2. Please do this. My brother didn't. He was divorced, so desperate for a family, that he married a completely crazy abusive woman. All the kids are suffering, and I doubt my brother will live another 10 years. It's "that" bad.

What prevents him from leaving?

He's mentally ill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To answer your question, are you extremely good looking? If not, I'd give up on the idea that you will meet a guy and marry him. DC is already a tough dating town for women but looks go a long way.

What? if she's not extremely good looking she should give up on meeting someone? OP, don't take this advice seriously. You will meet someone, of course. If you're serious about it and really want more children, you should try online dating That could speed things up...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a family. I have one that looks like yours.

+1. Cherish the family you have now. Maybe it will grow in the future, maybe not.

I'm 10 yrs into the future. My DD just finished ES. I'm still single and still happy. I do sometimes go out on dates now that she's older but there aren't too many men who want a single mom with FT custody. The single dads want to have fun and cannot fathom 24/7 custody. The men with no kids either want more kids (not something I can give them) or don't want kids (including mine). I'm content with my life and being a single parent 24/7/365 is time and energy consuming anyway. Concentrate on your child OP.

[Anonymous]

My 31 year old BIL has no problem dating single moms. He does want a kid or two of his own though.

[Anonymous]

I know single mothers who have met their forever partner. It happens! I would say enjoy your family and enjoy your life as it is now.