Single Mom - only one child & the future

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have a family. I have one that looks like yours.

+1

For many years, it was just me and my kid. Then, I married in haste and repented at leisure with a man who claimed to want to parent, but really didn't. I ended up having a second child by accident. It freed me from the marriage, but over the last decade my ex has caused so much trouble and pain to me and my kids. I cherish my second child, but think I was an idiot for believing I could perfect what my older kid and I already had simply by adding a husband & stepfather.

[Anonymous]

A mom and a child is a family. Congratulations on your family, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, here's an alternative perspective. My DD's nanny is 25 y.o., and about 4 years ago someone abandoned their 1.5 y.o. daughter with her. She became that child's foster parent, and just last week was finally able to formally adopt her. At her age, as an adoptive single parent, she has a long road ahead of her with respect to relationships, finishing school, etc. But she's an amazing mom (way more responsible than I was at her age), and she says that her DD is the best thing that ever happened to her.

I think life works out in many different ways, and no one's is perfect. We struggled for years to have children. I'm happy now, but I often mourn the life I thought I would have...so your feelings are understandable.

I don't think your chance for a partner is over...but I do think you already have a family.

What an amazing story.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's necessarily the end. I've seen many men marry women with kids and many women marry single dads with kids. They usually go on to make more kids. Of course none of this is in DC, maybe you could try relocating at some point. Might have better luck elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's necessarily the end. I've seen many men marry women with kids and many women marry single dads with kids. They usually go on to make more kids. Of course none of this is in DC, maybe you could try relocating at some point. Might have better luck elsewhere.

It happens a lot more in the DC area than you think.