How do I respond to the hate

[Anonymous]

My FIL is very very vocal in person and on Facebook about his conservative beliefs. He is recently posting every few min something hate filled about Islam. His most recent upload stating that not just extremist but ALL Muslims are hateful and Islam will destroy the west. My husband says don't respond but I can't not say anything.

We've sat quietly as he tears down our current president, makes brass judgements regarding womens rights and abortions, is racist towards anyone who doesn't look or believe like himself, spreads fear and hate towards refugees and now Muslims.

I don't even have words for how angry I am at him and how he could think these things. I just want to yell - you make me ashamed to be a part if this family and you shouldn't even call yourself a Christan. ( he always uses that as an excuse....its the Christian beliefs)

My father's side is Muslim. My mother's Hindu. I was raised Christian. I now align myself with do good and be a good person.

Sorry of this post is all over the place. I'm just so upset. Part venting part asking for tactful responses to his hate.

[Anonymous]

Block him on Social media, step 1.

[Anonymous]

What does your husband say? Let him deal with his dad. Block him on social media, and keep the kids (if you have any) away from him. If he asks why, tell him. Don't engage beyond that. Done.

[Anonymous]

Remind him that the common denominator is not religion (or race, or ethnicity, or immigration status) - the common denominator is sex & gender. Ask FIL if as a man, he should be accountable for all the shit other men do. Many no birthright citizenship for males? Or no men allowed to purchase any weapons? Because really, at the end of the day, that's the one factor you can count on almost all the time.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you should respond. What are you trying to accomplish with a response? Changing his mind?

Block him, unfriend him, set it so you don't see his stuff. Move on.

[Anonymous]

remind him that people like Jim baker and Jerry Falwell were good Christians...Remind him about all of the good catholic priests that abused little boys...

and don't let him forget about the good Christians and the crusades

let him know that Christianity is just as violent a religion as islam...

I think the saying is is hate the sin, but live the sinner....

[BE_Jack]

Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. Ignore or block him and be glad that we live in a country where everyone is allowed to rant, regardless of their background.

[Anonymous]

I just smile and nod and delete every chain email I get from them. I'm not going to be able to change my inlaws ways and I need to still have a good relationship with them for 30+ years, so I sit quietly. When questioned I just answer that I'm not into politics. I know that I would be furious with DH if he tried to argue with my family and so I do the same and am civil and nice with his. DH does tell his family though that we shouldn't be talking about politics when it gets too heated though.

[Anonymous]

I wish there was a no button, the red circle with the slash. I don't want to argue with these types of idiots who post ignorant bs, but don't want to just let it go either.

[Anonymous]

I doubt this story. You would divorce your spouse if it were true.

Kind of like my kid blaming all this horror on a mentally unbalanced pos when in fact his BELIEFS are what motivated him. It must be a mass imbalance too because it's a common theme amongst those people.

But go ahead and spin your stories. Pretend it isn't what it really is.

JIHAD IN AMERICA AGAINST AMERICANS.

If that were not true, they would not be murdering people they didn't even know.

[Anonymous]

I logically know I can't change his mind but sure would like to. If at the very least show him how claiming to say all these things in the name of God is so far from being true.

It angers me that he knows my heritage his grandchildren heritage and chooses to act like this.

How anyone can have such small minds and hateful views....I just can't deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Everyone has a right to have an opinion and it's ok to be an opinion completely opposite of yours. If you don't like it, don't respond. Simple as that.

[Anonymous]

Hateful indeed! I hope your husband realizes what a crazy man his father is, and I hope he totally has your back.
As such, you should BOTH unfriend him on social media.
As such, neither of you should have much contact with him in person.
Is he local? Don't see him except on major holiday like Christmas.
Is he far away? Perfect excuse never to visit.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you can change his views, just be the better person and block him from FB and walk away if he says those things in person.

[Anonymous]

I think your FIL has something there about the current President...