What kind of personality/personality disorder is this?
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Anonymous
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Diagnose or help me understand this type of personality --
Someone who has a very superficial amount of attention to or interest in the problems of others -- will listen to an anecdote of important happenings in another person's life but only be able to make "canned" or pre-programmed comments and sounds bored. Someone who does not seem to have a lot of empathy for others' struggles -- either individuals or groups, unless those groups are ones this person is a part of. Missing an "empathy" chip. Does not seem to try to understand other's situations or pain, even on an intellectual level. "I just don't understand eating disorders." But doesn't make any attempt to educate self. But if a situation if explained point by point, and you spell out your needs in great detail, will be there for you on some level. Definitely not a "sociopath." Family man, great deal of responsibility. Workaholic x 1000. Looks at life in "shoulds" - a daughter should act a certain way; this is not how an X person should act. Any insights? Maybe I am expecting too much? |
Anonymous
| Doesn't sound like a personality disorder. Maybe a little Asperger-y. Or just being a guy. |
Anonymous
| Just self-centered. Oversized ego. American. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
Sorry. I'm not exactly Nathan Hale or Betsy Ross, but I take issue with that. |
Anonymous
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Not amused by the "American" joke either.
The guy could be mildly Aspie, and was raised with a lot of rules and expectations laid out that he holds onto pretty rigidly. |
Anonymous
Seriously, I think this poster is correct. Not sure about oversized ego but certainly self-centered, typical American now days. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like my brother. |
Anonymous
| Just really not interested in hearing about it. JRNI personality disorder. |
Anonymous
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Not trying to be glib or dismissive here, but sounds like whatever it is it's not going to change, so I would either cut this person out of my life if it's affecting you that much, or stop trying to change them and change your reaction to them.
FWIW sounds like a lot of surgeons I know. |
Anonymous
| I do this. I got my own sh*t to deal with. Deal with your own issues. |
Anonymous
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I'm a naturally empathetic person, myself, but I don't think this is a "personality disorder". Not everyone aspires to take the world's problems on, or keep everyone else safe around them and under their wing.
Seeing as they DO help when requested, I don't find anything weird or pathological abut the fact that they don't feel the need to constantly research and rescue people. They just sound like an independent person who concerns themselves with their own life and their own issues. |
Anonymous
| Aspergers and/ or they just have to learn empathy via explaination., which sounds like it is working. In my family, no one was given empsthy, you just had to "toughen up" and just deal. It's taken me years to understand the concept of empathy, for myself and for others, and I have to practice all the time. It's harder if you don't learn when you are young. |
Anonymous
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Pragmatic. This person has had to deal with the same stuff that others complain about incessantly and he doesn't have a lot of patience for it. Just buck up and deal is the mindset.
To some degree I understand the viewpoint. Although empathy is important too. |
Anonymous
| It is called a man. |