Let's have the abortion talk here. Right here. This thread.

[Anonymous]

Ready?

Go.


I think it sucks that women have been shamed into silence about their abortions, thereby preventing us from sharing valuable experience and wisdom with each other.

There. Your turn.

[Anonymous]

I'll stay there where I was.
Bye

[Anonymous]

Chickenshit troll into inflicting pain. Thought so.

[Anonymous]

Bye....

[Anonymous]

Chickenshit! Bok bokbok!

[Anonymous]

I had an abortion 10 years ago. I never felt particularly ashamed of it, but I didn't exactly broadcast it to the world, either. Then a friend of mine was telling me in a bar how he was pro-life and he wouldn't be able to relate to any woman who had an abortion. I told him that I'd had one and we had an honest talk about it (he wasn't a jerk, he just never talked to anyone who had had one). At the end of the discussion, he was still pro-life, but perhaps a little less judgmental about the reasons women have them. Since then, I've become pretty open about having had an abortion. My husband knows I had one, my friends know, basically when the issue comes up, I acknowledge that I've had one. When you're honest and open about it, most people, even those who disagree with you, are respsectful. And for those who are not, I've got thick skin and a sharp tongue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ready?

Go.


I think it sucks that women have been shamed into silence about their abortions, thereby preventing us from sharing valuable experience and wisdom with each other.

There. Your turn.

Who shamed you into silence about your abortions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bye....

I posted this but I didn't realize there was an abortion debate going on on another thread. I still think this is an incredibly stupid thread to ignite here, though. I thought the OP was the troll.

[Anonymous]

I think when folks say they don't know anyone who's had an aboriton I will start replying that they don't know of anyone who's had an abortion.

I am likewise pretty open when it comes up because I know I wasn't the only woman in that waiting room, and it's something we ought to be able to talk about, however we feel about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bye....

I posted this but I didn't realize there was an abortion debate going on on another thread. I still think this is an incredibly stupid thread to ignite here, though. I thought the OP was the troll.

Well, the "debate" was in a thread where someone posted looking for specific info, and it seemed like a better idea to move it away from someone's personal request for help. Hence I started this. I think a) it's important to talk about, and b), if someone wants to troll here, they aren't hijacking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Who shamed you into silence about your abortions?

Oh c'mon. It's everywhere. You can look up multiple threads just on this board alone where women who work up the chutzpah talk about their abortions, even on an anonymous internet forum, are derided for not being sad enough, derided for considering it at all, told they should have kept their legs shut or used birth control, etc.etc. etc. You can look up threads where people wondered if they should disclose past abortions to their doctors. Their DOCTORS! I'm waiting for someone to accuse the posters in this thread of not having properly processed their grief as evidenced by their posting at all. It's an OLD trope.

And that's just one anonymous internet forum.

...and not to discount that some folks really do grieve, and really do mourn, and perhaps even regret, and that's OK. But it's also normal and OK to NOT regret an abortion, and NOT be particularly sad.

[Anonymous]

I would never in my life have one. Especially since I am now a mother.

I don't care if another woman has one. It's her choice, her decision, her ethics and morals, not mine.

I have to admit that I do judge woman who have had multiple abortions, mostly because I think they should find another form of birthcontrol.

Five out of the seven women I know had them, have serious regrets. They all said it was too easy to get one done, and there wasn't the support after to help them cope. My other two friends had no regrets at all, and are quite happy with their choices, but still wish there was something more for them afterwards.

[Anonymous]

a woman that has an abortion and doesn't regret it and doesn't feel sad for it is like assassins that, besides being in jail and/or waiting for their execution don't feel any regret for the murders they've committed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Who shamed you into silence about your abortions?

Oh c'mon. It's everywhere. You can look up multiple threads just on this board alone where women who work up the chutzpah talk about their abortions, even on an anonymous internet forum, are derided for not being sad enough, derided for considering it at all, told they should have kept their legs shut or used birth control, etc.etc. etc. You can look up threads where people wondered if they should disclose past abortions to their doctors. Their DOCTORS! I'm waiting for someone to accuse the posters in this thread of not having properly processed their grief as evidenced by their posting at all. It's an OLD trope.

And that's just one anonymous internet forum.

...and not to discount that some folks really do grieve, and really do mourn, and perhaps even regret, and that's OK. But it's also normal and OK to NOT regret an abortion, and NOT be particularly sad.

The people that I know who've had abortions do wonder who the child would have become. Most people wish they felt they had more options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:a woman that has an abortion and doesn't regret it and doesn't feel sad for it is like assassins that, besides being in jail and/or waiting for their execution don't feel any regret for the murders they've committed.

OMG...you're right! It's exactly the same thing! You're clearly brilliant, and America is so lucky to have people like you. Hopefully you have 20 offspring who are exactly like you to share with the rest of us!