Sibling has a baby; when to visit?

[Anonymous]

What time frame do you think is reasonable to visit after a sibling has a baby? Sibling lives a 5 hour car ride away. First baby for her. We have 3 small kids who either would need to come along or we need to figure out arrangements for them.

[Anonymous]

Ummm why not ask her? I enjoyed visitors right away. My best friend pretty much didn't want visitors for 2 weeks because she was trying to figure everything out and didn't want the stress of a guest. Everyone is different.

[Anonymous]

She wants us to come right away but we cannot because of logistics. She is mad, so I was wondering if we are being unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Without more detail it is hard to say. But if my sister asked me to come I would be there ASAP. If kids are small then they don't really have any cant miss activities. So either take them or leave them home with spouse.

[Anonymous]

What does 'right away' mean? If she wants you to go, I'd go as soon as you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does 'right away' mean? If she wants you to go, I'd go as soon as you can.

While they were still at the hospital. The soonest I can go is next week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does 'right away' mean? If she wants you to go, I'd go as soon as you can.

While they were still at the hospital. The soonest I can go is next week.

So.then go next week. Geez. Shes probably hormonal and stressed and thats why she acted mad that you couldn't be there right away. So go next week. How on earth did this require a post?

[Anonymous]

I visited about 16 hours after the baby was born. Then again two days later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I visited about 16 hours after the baby was born. Then again two days later.

Was it a 10 hour round trip?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I visited about 16 hours after the baby was born. Then again two days later.

Was it a 10 hour round trip?

Do you even want to visit? You just sound nasty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does 'right away' mean? If she wants you to go, I'd go as soon as you can.

While they were still at the hospital. The soonest I can go is next week.

I think next week is soon enough. If you had said you couldn't make it for 4 months, and that would be unreasonable. But you can't usually know exactly when a baby is coming so it's hard to plan to be there right then!

[Anonymous]

Could you go up and back for an overnight just you without DH and kids?

[Anonymous]

OP, send flowers at the hospital right away if you haven't for having her first baby and Mother's Day.

[Anonymous]

I went to the hospital but we are close. I would take the kids and go. What's preventing that?

[Anonymous]

I never went right away, never really went until there was a reason (Xmas, Thanksgiving etc). I don't live close to my family so it didn't make sense.