What would you think of an 18 year old...

[Anonymous]

who goes to college, but lives at home with her parents and if she is not in class, spends all of her time at home? (aka no friends, boyfriend, etc.)

[Anonymous]

I would think she's a homebody, maybe a bit shy, likes a quiet life. She's very young. No telling when or if she'll blossom.

[Anonymous]

I think it's only important what the student thinks. Is she happy? Would she be happier if she lived in a dorm and developed her independence? Is she holding back or are her parents hanging on?

[Anonymous]

I would be damn thrilled to have a good straight laced kid like that!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's only important what the student thinks. Is she happy? Would she be happier if she lived in a dorm and developed her independence? Is she holding back or are her parents hanging on?

It is my niece. She is the same age as my daughter and it's just interesting to me to see the difference!!

She tried dorm living the first semester at a school 3 hours from home, hated it, transferred back to a university close by and is living at home for the semester. But I think she's trying the dorms again in the fall. Parents are happy to have her, but yeah...it's her that's holding back.

[Anonymous]

I'd think she's sad - that she's not getting the quintessential college experience. It COULD be okay to live at home IF she were making friends in her classes, joining clubs, having fun, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd think she's sad - that she's not getting the quintessential college experience. It COULD be okay to live at home IF she were making friends in her classes, joining clubs, having fun, etc.

But everyone is not the same. Some people do prefer a quiet life and limited socializing, even when young. And being so young, she might jump right into college life next year. She's pacing herself. And I say that as someone who didn't look back after being dropped off at the freshman dorms. I loved the social side of college life, going out everywhere, meeting loads of people, etc.

[Anonymous]

How are the grades? I think most freshman underestimate how hard college really is, especially in the first two semesters.

The flip side, the student is not putting themselves in room and board debt (or the parents are not putting themselves in the same debt).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are the grades? I think most freshman underestimate how hard college really is, especially in the first two semesters.

The flip side, the student is not putting themselves in room and board debt (or the parents are not putting themselves in the same debt).

Avoiding that monster debt is BRILLIANT.
Think about it.
The "experience" is way overblown.

[Anonymous]

Introvert

[Anonymous]

I would wonder why she's not working. Its ok to be an introvert and a homebody but she should be working.

[Anonymous]

My niece did the same thing. hated being away from home, hated dorm living

switched to a local college and commuted

She's now married with a great career.

Why is this an issue?

[Anonymous]

No issue if she is happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would wonder why she's not working. Its ok to be an introvert and a homebody but she should be working.

Getting decent grades in school IS working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My niece did the same thing. hated being away from home, hated dorm living

switched to a local college and commuted

She's now married with a great career.

Why is this an issue?

Knew someone like this too. Worked great for her. Everyone is different.