Military families and kid friends

[Anonymous]

Would you be less inclined to facilitate a friendship with military children because you know they won't be around long? Particularly older children (3rd-4th grade) because friend groups and routines are already established? Is it too much work?

[Anonymous]

That's silly! If your kid likes a kid, great, who cares if someday the kid might move. Other kids move too and it might be nice to keep in touch after or whatever. My son goes to a school that is k-12 but a lot of kids leave for public high school. I'm keeping him and he might make friends that will leave and he will learn to deal with that. Plus, by the way, you actually don't get to pick your kids' friends.

[Anonymous]

As a general rule, the DC area is often transitory even for non-military personnel. So unless you're also going to screen out kids of State Department, FBI, Secret Service, large contractors, etc., then there's no reason to specifically consider kids of military personnel.

Additionally, if the parent is more senior, the DC area is often the final stop, anyway, before retiring and working for a defense contractor in the area.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe this is your actual question. Very sad really on how shallow you are.

[Anonymous]

We're military and we have lived places where people tell their kids not to bother making friends with the military kids because they'll just leave. Two kids actually told my child that their mothers told them this when my kid moved to a new street in third grade.

[Anonymous]

I'd be less likely to facilitate a friendship with a military brat because I don't support the military.

[Anonymous]

Of course not! And how do you think that would make military kids feel? My 6 yo has had 2 best friends so far... One moved to India a few years ago, but we get to see them when they visit for a few weeks each year... The kids still get along great. The other moved for a year but will be back.
Life is uncertain. Make and enjoy friends while you can. Anyone can move.

[Anonymous]

No way, military families are easier. We are retirees so we can easily access the base for bowling, swimming and more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be less likely to facilitate a friendship with a military brat because I don't support the military.

I hope you're joking, but if not, hats off to your open-mindedness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be less likely to facilitate a friendship with a military brat because I don't support the military.

You don't have a problem living in a country that has been defended by the military though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be less likely to facilitate a friendship with a military brat because I don't support the military.

You suck. You can not support their actions and still respect the people involved as friends.

OP, from the other side, as a military wife, I fall into this trap sometimes - we'll only be here three years, why bother? Don't fall prey to it - let them make friends with whoever.

[Anonymous]

Kids pick their friends. We just invite over who they click with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd be less likely to facilitate a friendship with a military brat because I don't support the military.

You don't have a problem living in a country that has been defended by the military though.

I do, actually and we're moving out of the country in seven years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be less likely to facilitate a friendship with a military brat because I don't support the military.

You don't get what supporting the military is. You support the troops who are doing their job that they are paid to do, just like you do your job you are paid to do. You may not support the choices our president and military leaders make, but the troops are just following orders, not making the decisions. You do suck for not supporting our troops.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd be less likely to facilitate a friendship with a military brat because I don't support the military.

You don't have a problem living in a country that has been defended by the military though.

I do, actually and we're moving out of the country in seven years.

And, you don't think your new country will have a military or rely on the US military? Can you go sooner?