Why do single moms and divorcees message me...

[Anonymous]

When I say "no single moms or divorcees" on my dating profiles?

Also, why do they get mad IRL when I find out that they are single moms or divorcees and I say politely "thanks, but I'm not interested".

I'm being respectful and giving them a concrete answer. Would they rather me just pump them then ghost on them?

[Anonymous]

Why don't you date divorcees?

[Anonymous]

If you're honest and clear about your dating criteria, they should respect that. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you date divorcees?

I'm 31 , not 51. I don't need any extra drama or baggage. If I was a divorcee, then I would be ok with it. I would rather date a widow than a divorcee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you date divorcees?

I'm 31 , not 51. I don't need any extra drama or baggage. If I was a divorcee, then I would be ok with it. I would rather date a widow than a divorcee.

Oh, good luck with that - dating a widow!

When you grow up, you'll figure out that mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you date divorcees?

I'm 31 , not 51. I don't need any extra drama or baggage. If I was a divorcee, then I would be ok with it. I would rather date a widow than a divorcee.

Oh, good luck with that - dating a widow!

When you grow up, you'll figure out that mess.

OP you sound a bit immature. I get not wanting to date someone who has kids, but there are plenty of people in there 30s who... ya know what? Never mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you date divorcees?

I'm 31 , not 51. I don't need any extra drama or baggage. If I was a divorcee, then I would be ok with it. I would rather date a widow than a divorcee.

I'm the same age and I wouldn't want to date a divorced man either. As for why they ignore your preference some people always believe they are the exception to the rule.


That and dating sites can be messy in that they show people a bunch of matches, and some people just message anyone they are matched with and don't go over the profiles carefully.

[Anonymous]

At 31, if you were such a great catch, you wouldn't be trolling all the dating websites.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 31, if you were such a great catch, you wouldn't be trolling all the dating websites.

Not OP, but this is false and very outdated thinking.

So many hurt single moms and divorcees responding here.

[Anonymous]

Probably because they don't think you really mean it.

[Anonymous]

It might help if you put that qualification in caps so that folks don't miss it, and perhaps mention it twice, like.... NO SINGLE MOMS OR DIVORCEES. I REPEAT, NO SINGLE MOMS OR DIVORCEES. Widows are fine.

Hope that works for ya.

[Anonymous]

Heh.
Before I chose to take myself from single to single mom in my 30s, I'd put an age limit of 45 for men, and was getting tons of messages from men in their mid-fifties or older. I remember finding it traumatizing.

I haven't been on any of them since.

[Anonymous]

I'm a 32yo single mom and don't see anything wrong with OPs choice not to date women like myself. We all have our preferences and dealbreakers.

I think people just don't read profiles or have low self esteem and want rejection. I have had guys lie about their ages at least twice, both by 8 years, when I was dating online. How pathetic.

[Anonymous]

PP here (single mom). Don't put it in caps, that reads as bitter. I think it's better to say it in a positive light..."I'm interested in meeting never married, childless women like myself" vs what you don't date. When guys list what they DON'T like, my first thought is emotional baggage. Not sexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 31, if you were such a great catch, you wouldn't be trolling all the dating websites.

Not OP, but this is false and very outdated thinking.

So many hurt single moms and divorcees responding here.

I'm not a single mom or divorcee. Happily married for 11 years.

If he was so great, he would easily be in a relationship, great woman wanting him or married. More to him than just being selective. There are plenty of women around that age without kids, etc. but his attitude sucks. I didn't plan to marry someone divorced or with kids, but did and he's a great husband and father.