Mid Life crisis or affair?

[Anonymous]

My DH is 41 and recently joined Crossfit, grew a beard, and bought a Mini Cooper.

Nothing else in his behavior is out of the ordinary, but I can't help but wonder. Do men typically make a lot of changes in their 40's?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is 41 and recently joined Crossfit, grew a beard, and bought a Mini Cooper.

Nothing else in his behavior is out of the ordinary, but I can't help but wonder. Do men typically make a lot of changes in their 40's?

Could totally be nothing. Keep an eye out for other red flags, but don't jump to conclusions.

For example:

1) more (and then less) interest in sex ... this as he gets interested in somebody else, then they hook up and he doesn't want to have sex with you.
2) issues with phone/computer (being secretive, not open, if this is a chane from before)
3) being short tempered and irritable (again, if this is a change from before).

Evaluate your relationship ... are you actually close? Are you still going on dates, having non-kid time? Do you LIKE him? Does he LIKE you?

[Anonymous]

Cross fit, Mini Cooper and a beard is the saddest midlife crisis description I've ever heard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cross fit, Mini Cooper and a beard is the saddest midlife crisis description I've ever heard.

Lol . The Mini Cooper is an odd one.

[Anonymous]

Cross fit, Mini Cooper and a beard is the saddest midlife crisis description I've ever heard.

but also one of the tamest and, in my opinion, nothing to worry about. Hookers, blow and gambling? now that's a different story.

i mean, I'm 45. In the past year I've started dance classes again (after a 20 year hiatus), tried a few new hairstyles, and bought a pair of Manolos. Is that a midlife crisis?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cross fit, Mini Cooper and a beard is the saddest midlife crisis description I've ever heard.

Hahahah! This is exactly what i was thinking!

[Anonymous]

It's not an affair. No mistress would bee boop around town in a Mini Cooper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not an affair. No mistress would bee boop around town in a Mini Cooper.

Maybe he's having an affair with a younger man.

[Anonymous]

My mean and low libido wife has caused me to start thinking about an affair. But buying a Mini Cooper really wouldn't help foster an affair very much.

A more significant factor is how you feel about your marriage and sex life. Maybe try asking him how he feels about it too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mean and low libido wife has caused me to start thinking about an affair. But buying a Mini Cooper really wouldn't help foster an affair very much.

A more significant factor is how you feel about your marriage and sex life. Maybe try asking him how he feels about it too?

If it get's to that point, work it out or compromise or get divorced. No one "caused", those actions are solely on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cross fit, Mini Cooper and a beard is the saddest midlife crisis description I've ever heard.

Hahahah! This is exactly what i was thinking!

Me too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mean and low libido wife has caused me to start thinking about an affair. But buying a Mini Cooper really wouldn't help foster an affair very much.

A more significant factor is how you feel about your marriage and sex life. Maybe try asking him how he feels about it too?

In fact, it would throw cold water on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cross fit, Mini Cooper and a beard is the saddest midlife crisis description I've ever heard.

Lol . The Mini Cooper is an odd one.

Maybe he's gay?

[Anonymous]

My DH had a mid-life affair. I actually bought him protection so he wouldn't bring anything home with him. I refused to get a divorce. I didn't want someone else getting someone I had worked so hard on and spent so much time with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH had a mid-life affair. I actually bought him protection so he wouldn't bring anything home with him. I refused to get a divorce. I didn't want someone else getting someone I had worked so hard on and spent so much time with.

Smart.