Mid Life crisis or affair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH had a mid-life affair. I actually bought him protection so he wouldn't bring anything home with him. I refused to get a divorce. I didn't want someone else getting someone I had worked so hard on and spent so much time with.

Didn't you want to be with someone who wanted only you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH had a mid-life affair. I actually bought him protection so he wouldn't bring anything home with him. I refused to get a divorce. I didn't want someone else getting someone I had worked so hard on and spent so much time with.

You "worked so hard on" ??? what does that even mean? I appreciate you just dealing with your dh's mid-life affair in a sensible manner, but I don't know what you are meaning, here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH had a mid-life affair. I actually bought him protection so he wouldn't bring anything home with him. I refused to get a divorce. I didn't want someone else getting someone I had worked so hard on and spent so much time with.

You "worked so hard on" ??? what does that even mean? I appreciate you just dealing with your dh's mid-life affair in a sensible manner, but I don't know what you are meaning, here.

If working hard on something means allowing my husband to fuck another woman, he can keep that hard work because I'm moving on! You're crazy as shit to turn a blind eye to that dysfunction.

[Anonymous]

40 year old man here. Sounds like a mid-life crisis. Right about now is the tiem we realize our bodies need more work to stay fit than before, and also we start seeing friends who are having health issues.

The Mini is probably a compromise car that's fun to drive, but not a woman-getter.

[Anonymous]

It's not called "mid life crisis" any more, it's " mid life surge".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH had a mid-life affair. I actually bought him protection so he wouldn't bring anything home with him. I refused to get a divorce. I didn't want someone else getting someone I had worked so hard on and spent so much time with.

You "worked so hard on" ??? what does that even mean? I appreciate you just dealing with your dh's mid-life affair in a sensible manner, but I don't know what you are meaning, here.

I understand what she means - and its nothing to do with the affair, its all the years of work supporting and bolstering the guy as he climbs his career ladder and becomes the person he dreamt of becoming.
Its not that uncommon folks. It may not be the feminist dream, but its a reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not an affair. No mistress would bee boop around town in a Mini Cooper.

I would. I have always dreamed of owning a Mini Cooper.

[Anonymous]

Woman here. Nothing wrong with a mini Cooper.

[Anonymous]

I hope that poster bought some condoms for herself too then.

[Anonymous]

The Mini Cooper is the car I want for my midlife crisis.

But I'm a woman.

[Anonymous]

Aww, OP. He sounds adorable. I think it's benign.

[Anonymous]

mid forties DH here, hoping the fact that I haven't had a mid life crisis yest means I am going to live for a long time.
When I do finally have one I hope my DW buys me condoms

[Anonymous]

How funny, a couple years ago when my husband turned 40, he grew a beard and bought a special edition Mini with some kind of racing engine. No affair or Crossfit, but he does drive that thing like he thinks he's Jason Bourne. Kinda scary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How funny, a couple years ago when my husband turned 40, he grew a beard and bought a special edition Mini with some kind of racing engine. No affair or Crossfit, but he does drive that thing like he thinks he's Jason Bourne. Kinda scary.

Hilarious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH is 41 and recently joined Crossfit, grew a beard, and bought a Mini Cooper.

Nothing else in his behavior is out of the ordinary, but I can't help but wonder. Do men typically make a lot of changes in their 40's?

Could totally be nothing. Keep an eye out for other red flags, but don't jump to conclusions.

For example:

1) more (and then less) interest in sex ... this as he gets interested in somebody else, then they hook up and he doesn't want to have sex with you.
2) issues with phone/computer (being secretive, not open, if this is a chane from before)
3) being short tempered and irritable (again, if this is a change from before).

Evaluate your relationship ... are you actually close? Are you still going on dates, having non-kid time? Do you LIKE him? Does he LIKE you?

Opposite for me on 1. Before AP and I hooked up had no interest. Now I wanna fuck all the time. Awoke a sleeping beast I guess.