| This question is for men and women. I'm just curious if you fell in love with your AP. If you did, were you still in love with your spouse? |
| What's an AP? |
You again.
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Affair partner. |
| I've answered this so many times ... What is the real question behind the question? |
What's the question? |
| Someone just had this thread within the last few weeks, OP should do a search. |
| What's your situation, op? Why are you asking the question? |
DH has been having an affair and is in love with the AP. He told me he doesn't love me anymore nor does he find me attractive.
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Honey, you've got a free pass to give him a taste back of that shit. If he's in love with her, she deserves a man that is trustworthy and slimy. Let her wash the shit stains out of his underwear and his appeal will die down over time. |
| AP = adoptive parent |
There we go. What you actually needed to get out. So. Are you two divorcing? What's the plan? Do you need some sympathy from the folks here to tell you your dh is an asshole? Of course people fall in love with their ap. Or they fall in lust. Sometimes they stay in love with their spouse. Sometimes not. What do you want to do? |
Why do you think this bothers people? It's real life... if you care about someone stuff like this doesn't bother you. People get that a person comes with underwear to wash & they need care & get sick. It doesn't make the person less attractive. |
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Yes, and no, I didn't love my spouse. That's why I had an affair in th first place.
Are you the one who was asking about why spouse didn't want to go to counseling? If so, you have nothing to salvage. |
I'm sorry. What are your next steps? Sounds like he's ready to divorce. If not, you should be. Don't be a doormat. |