Did you fall in love with your AP?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's your situation, op? Why are you asking the question?

DH has been having an affair and is in love with the AP. He told me he doesn't love me anymore nor does he find me attractive.

I'm sorry, op. I'm sure that hurts. Are you seeing a counselor for support through this? I understand the instinct to try to understand what's happening, but focusing on your own next steps would be more productive. Do you have children together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and no, I didn't love my spouse. That's why I had an affair in th first place.

Are you the one who was asking about why spouse didn't want to go to counseling? If so, you have nothing to salvage.

Sounds like the same one looking for a pi too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's your situation, op? Why are you asking the question?

DH has been having an affair and is in love with the AP. He told me he doesn't love me anymore nor does he find me attractive.

I'm sorry. What are your next steps? Sounds like he's ready to divorce. If not, you should be. Don't be a doormat.

We're in the process of a divorce now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's your situation, op? Why are you asking the question?

DH has been having an affair and is in love with the AP. He told me he doesn't love me anymore nor does he find me attractive.

I'm sorry, op. I'm sure that hurts. Are you seeing a counselor for support through this? I understand the instinct to try to understand what's happening, but focusing on your own next steps would be more productive. Do you have children together?

We have one child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's your situation, op? Why are you asking the question?

DH has been having an affair and is in love with the AP. He told me he doesn't love me anymore nor does he find me attractive.

He is delusional. He will leave you or you will kick him out and in a few months he will be miserable. He will realize he is miserable with himself and no woman is going to fix that.

[Anonymous]

I feel in Love with with AP and he fell in love with me. Even when he broke it off with me he said I Love You over and over because he said it was the last words he wanted me to hear. He would not divorce because he did not believe in it so he is with his wife whom he also loves. Complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's your situation, op? Why are you asking the question?

DH has been having an affair and is in love with the AP. He told me he doesn't love me anymore nor does he find me attractive.

There we go. What you actually needed to get out.

So. Are you two divorcing? What's the plan? Do you need some sympathy from the folks here to tell you your dh is an asshole?

Of course people fall in love with their ap. Or they fall in lust. Sometimes they stay in love with their spouse. Sometimes not.

What do you want to do?

Why so harsh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Honey, you've got a free pass to give him a taste back of that shit. If he's in love with her, she deserves a man that is trustworthy and slimy. Let her wash the shit stains out of his underwear and his appeal will die down over time.

Meh, thats why washing machines were invented. Unless you still use a scrubbing board and Borax.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry Op, how long has he been having an affair? Did he tell you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Honey, you've got a free pass to give him a taste back of that shit. If he's in love with her, she deserves a man that is trustworthy and slimy. Let her wash the shit stains out of his underwear and his appeal will die down over time.

Meh, thats why washing machines were invented. Unless you still use a scrubbing board and Borax.

+1

[Anonymous]

I fell in love with my AP. It was supposed to be a fling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry Op, how long has he been having an affair? Did he tell you?

He won't tell me, he said the timing isn't important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:AP = adoptive parent

AP = Advanced Placement

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:AP = adoptive parent

AP = Advanced Placement

AP = Angina Pectoris