Promiscuous Women?

[Anonymous]

It seems that a lot of men steer clear of promiscuous women when it comes to long-term romantic relationships.

So for men:

What is your definition of a promiscuous woman?

If the number of sex partners is one of the aspects of your definition of a promiscuous woman, what is the threshold number?

Are there any mitigating/redeeming factors that you would consider that would allow you to enter into a long-term relationship with a promiscuous woman?

For women who have been labeled as “promiscuous”:

Has this been a problem in attracting men with whom you wanted to have a long-term romantic relationship?

Did you ever “settle down” sexually?

How?

[Anonymous]

Really? This is gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really? This is gross.

+1

[Anonymous]

Let's talk about promiscuous men.

[Anonymous]

What is this anti-woman bullshit? For some men, a woman who slept with even one man is too "promiscuous" for his judgment. Accept no labels, women. This is how we end up with mindsets that allow for "honor killing."

[Anonymous]

I am a woman from Denmark who has lived and worked in DC and it was something i encountered, there. American men seemed so worried about this aspect of a woman's life, whereas it is much less important in Denmark.

[Anonymous]

A Catholic man I once dated called me promiscuous because I didn't wait for marriage to have sex. No, my "promiscuity" wasn't a problem in attracting a good man with whom I wanted to have a long term relationship (and if you didn't catch the context clues, it was not with the man who called me promiscuous).

I don't know what you mean by "settle down" sexually. If I was promiscuous because I had sex before marriage, I suppose I settled down the second I was married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems that a lot of men steer clear of promiscuous women when it comes to long-term romantic relationships.

So for men:

What is your definition of a promiscuous woman?

If the number of sex partners is one of the aspects of your definition of a promiscuous woman, what is the threshold number?

Are there any mitigating/redeeming factors that you would consider that would allow you to enter into a long-term relationship with a promiscuous woman?

For women who have been labeled as “promiscuous”:

Has this been a problem in attracting men with whom you wanted to have a long-term romantic relationship?

Did you ever “settle down” sexually?

How?

A promiscuous woman can be defined as one who gets highly defensive when asked to define the term.

[Anonymous]

Men avoiding "promiscuous women" and instead marrying the good girls could be why there are so many threads from men whining about not getting laid often enough.

[Anonymous]

I think my number is comparable to my husband's - double digits but under 20 - and I slept with him on the first date. I had 3 long term relationships before my husband and slept with all of them pretty early on. So my slutty ways have never been a problem and in fact I've quite enjoyed myself. Any guy who would hold it against me is not a guy I would be interested in anyway, so it all works out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men avoiding "promiscuous women" and instead marrying the good girls could be why there are so many threads from men whining about not getting laid often enough.

But that implies there is such a thing as a "promiscuous woman" and we all agree there isn't such a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men avoiding "promiscuous women" and instead marrying the good girls could be why there are so many threads from men whining about not getting laid often enough.

But that implies there is such a thing as a "promiscuous woman" and we all agree there isn't such a thing.

That's why "promiscuous women" was in quotes. Because it's a pretend issue. Men arbitrarily create a non-issue to reject women, choose someone who isn't compatible, then complain that they chose poorly. Women limit their experiences to live up to those arbitrary and unimportant standards, and shame other women who choose differently. It's kind of a fucked up system.

[Anonymous]

Threads like these are designed to get people to argue. I have never asked a woman about partner count and never will. in fact, when women have volunteered this number I have considered it unnerving because to me it appears that she is expecting some kind of reaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men avoiding "promiscuous women" and instead marrying the good girls could be why there are so many threads from men whining about not getting laid often enough.

But that implies there is such a thing as a "promiscuous woman" and we all agree there isn't such a thing.

No, we don't all agree that there's no such thing as s promiscuous woman. That's just incorrect - and I AM a woman. And not an overly religious one who saved themselves for marriage, either. There are promiscuous people of both genders, absolutely. The problem is the double standard that, societally, it's somehow a positive for a man (or at least not a negative) and it's a negative when it's true about a woman. Just because you don't like the way the term is used doesn't mean it simply isn't true. Overweight people should not be "fat-shamed" - this does not mean you can go around saying there are no overweight people. It's simply not true.

[Anonymous]

DH here: I actually think promiscuous women are sexy. So it's not universally seen as a negative. Having said that, extreme promiscuity often seems correlated with other issues that are negatives, such as abuse, substance issues, etc., so it can be a red flag in a potential long-term partner until you can rule those issues out. But if it turns out a woman just likes sex a lot and has a healthy view of it, it's not an issue.