Promiscuous Women?

[Anonymous]

Who actually is honest about the number? Bhahahaha

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men avoiding "promiscuous women" and instead marrying the good girls could be why there are so many threads from men whining about not getting laid often enough.

But that implies there is such a thing as a "promiscuous woman" and we all agree there isn't such a thing.

No, we don't all agree that there's no such thing as s promiscuous woman. That's just incorrect - and I AM a woman. And not an overly religious one who saved themselves for marriage, either. There are promiscuous people of both genders, absolutely. The problem is the double standard that, societally, it's somehow a positive for a man (or at least not a negative) and it's a negative when it's true about a woman. Just because you don't like the way the term is used doesn't mean it simply isn't true. Overweight people should not be "fat-shamed" - this does not mean you can go around saying there are no overweight people. It's simply not true.

Disagree. Promiscuity is subjective--some people would consider anyone who's slept with anyone outside marriage to be promiscuous, others wouldn't consider someone with dozens of partners to be promiscuous. It's just a social construct, and not one that anyone can agree upon. So no, you can't point at someone and intone "there be a promiscuous woman".

I'm the poster you're responding to, and I see your point, but you don't think weight, or success, or every other societal label doesn't have the same subjectivity? There are people who covet thigh-gaps on women - for them, any build above a size 4 or so is overweight. On the other hand, the average American woman is around a size 12, and a plus size model just made the cover of the SI swimsuit edition, so others clearly have a different opinion about what constitutes "overweight."

In some cities in the country, making $100K/year would be considered successful - for others, that's barely middle-class.

My point is, ALL of these are subjective, but there is a point at which the vast majority of the population would agree: those people on "My 600 lb life" are overweight, Bill Gates is successful, and Magic Johnson was promiscuous. These are extreme examples, but you see my point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men avoiding "promiscuous women" and instead marrying the good girls could be why there are so many threads from men whining about not getting laid often enough.

But that implies there is such a thing as a "promiscuous woman" and we all agree there isn't such a thing.

We all don't agree.

Sluttiness is not empowering to women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men avoiding "promiscuous women" and instead marrying the good girls could be why there are so many threads from men whining about not getting laid often enough.

But that implies there is such a thing as a "promiscuous woman" and we all agree there isn't such a thing.

We all don't agree.

Sluttiness is not empowering to women.

Calling women sluts is not empowering to women. It is the opposite of empowering women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men avoiding "promiscuous women" and instead marrying the good girls could be why there are so many threads from men whining about not getting laid often enough.

Yeah, duh - men are so screwed up!!

[Anonymous]

I had a college roommate who was promiscuous. I think if you kick out your roommate so you can engage in sexual relations, or are too drunk to kick our your roommate first, that's pretty slutty and worthy of shaming. Would her partners have considered her promiscuous? No. It's all relative.

[Anonymous]

I had a slutty college roommate too. She used abortions for birth control because the pill was "too difficult" to remember to take and guys don't like condoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a college roommate who was promiscuous. I think if you kick out your roommate so you can engage in sexual relations, or are too drunk to kick our your roommate first, that's pretty slutty and worthy of shaming. Would her partners have considered her promiscuous? No. It's all relative.

I'm pretty conservative when it comes to these things, but you really lost me at "worthy of shaming."

I disagree with you. NO woman is "WORTHY OF SHAMING."

Are you so perfect that you can judge others? Based on your post, I guess not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men avoiding "promiscuous women" and instead marrying the good girls could be why there are so many threads from men whining about not getting laid often enough.

Yeah, duh - men are so screwed up!!

You're pretending men here are trying to marry virgins or something. That is not true in any obvious way. I and my friends married random girls who wished to date us, period. I don't think any of us screened them based on nunber of previous partners.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had a college roommate who was promiscuous. I think if you kick out your roommate so you can engage in sexual relations, or are too drunk to kick our your roommate first, that's pretty slutty and worthy of shaming. Would her partners have considered her promiscuous? No. It's all relative.

I'm pretty conservative when it comes to these things, but you really lost me at "worthy of shaming."

I disagree with you. NO woman is "WORTHY OF SHAMING."

Are you so perfect that you can judge others? Based on your post, I guess not.

I would never kick out a roommate so I could get laid. Sorry, I am too respectful of a person. She lost my respect. You must be defensive because you can relate to her promiscuous ways?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It seems that a lot of men steer clear of promiscuous women when it comes to long-term romantic relationships.

So for men:

What is your definition of a promiscuous woman?

If the number of sex partners is one of the aspects of your definition of a promiscuous woman, what is the threshold number?

Are there any mitigating/redeeming factors that you would consider that would allow you to enter into a long-term relationship with a promiscuous woman?

For women who have been labeled as “promiscuous”:

Has this been a problem in attracting men with whom you wanted to have a long-term romantic relationship?

Did you ever “settle down” sexually?

How?

A promiscuous woman can be defined as one who gets highly defensive when asked to define the term.

As in...Pass Around Patty??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men avoiding "promiscuous women" and instead marrying the good girls could be why there are so many threads from men whining about not getting laid often enough.

But that implies there is such a thing as a "promiscuous woman" and we all agree there isn't such a thing.

We all don't agree.

Sluttiness is not empowering to women.

Calling women sluts is not empowering to women. It is the opposite of empowering women.

Acting slutty is not empowering, and calling other women slutty isn't either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tina fey, carrie underwood also a virgin at marriage

Tina Fey never said she waited until marriage. She said she was a virgin until she was 24. She got married in 2001 when she was 31.

They had virgin vaginas, maybe. You guys are so funny!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a college roommate who was promiscuous. I think if you kick out your roommate so you can engage in sexual relations, or are too drunk to kick our your roommate first, that's pretty slutty and worthy of shaming. Would her partners have considered her promiscuous? No. It's all relative.

I'm pretty conservative when it comes to these things, but you really lost me at "worthy of shaming."

I disagree with you. NO woman is "WORTHY OF SHAMING."

Are you so perfect that you can judge others? Based on your post, I guess not.

I would never kick out a roommate so I could get laid. Sorry, I am too respectful of a person. She lost my respect. You must be defensive because you can relate to her promiscuous ways?

Not the PP, but I don't think any woman is worthy of shaming either. I don't think that what she did was respectful, but the respectful way for you to deal with that would be to say, "Hey Sara, that was pretty messed up when you locked me out of our room to have sex with Travis. I live here too. If you're going to have sex with people, please do it at their place, not here." Respect = communication and transparency.