I can’t say this to my kid’s face, of course, but...

[Anonymous]

Sucks.
What's meant to be though is usually the outcome.
I've learned if you have to fight so hard for something it's the universe telling you to go a different route.
Stay optimistic things change.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a safety school. I got straights As and graduated with honors. I got my pick of graduate schools and was fully funded. Your son can have a fabulous time in college and learn. Admittance to a safety to ends with a degree if you want it to!

Do you remember how long it took you to get over feeling back about just getting into your safety? Asking for a "friend"

I meant feeling bad, not "back." There is just a lot of disappointment and such over here and no amount of, "it'll be fine, you'll see" helps. So wondering in the real world, how long does it really take to start feeling not just okay, but happy with the ultimate decision.

IMO, the term safety school is horrible. Your child needs to apply to colleges that he/she would be happy with. These kids are being set up for disappointment.

Agree, HORRIBLE. It should be based on an algorithm. If you pick schools from this category, you're 15% of getting in; this category you're 30%; this category you're 60% and so on. Get rid of labels altogether.

Jesus Christ.

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Anonymous wrote:All my stress about my kid’s applications has gone away because his top choice is a public university whose accepted students average sat scores of 1200 while his is 1560. Figure it doesn’t get much safer

He can be a big fish in a small pond. One of my kid’s HS friends ended up at a lower ranking university. She graduated in 3.5 years, premed. She’s now sitting on 4 med school offers, including one at an ivy med school.

Most public universities have 30k students. It's not a small pond at all.

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Anonymous wrote:All my stress about my kid’s applications has gone away because his top choice is a public university whose accepted students average sat scores of 1200 while his is 1560. Figure it doesn’t get much safer

He can be a big fish in a small pond. One of my kid’s HS friends ended up at a lower ranking university. She graduated in 3.5 years, premed. She’s now sitting on 4 med school offers, including one at an ivy med school.

Most public universities have 30k students. It's not a small pond at all.

I think with his stats, he’ll naturally rise to the top.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like any Ivy League kid.

Maybe schools rejected him because they assumed it was his safety school.

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Anonymous wrote:All my stress about my kid’s applications has gone away because his top choice is a public university whose accepted students average sat scores of 1200 while his is 1560. Figure it doesn’t get much safer

He can be a big fish in a small pond. One of my kid’s HS friends ended up at a lower ranking university. She graduated in 3.5 years, premed. She’s now sitting on 4 med school offers, including one at an ivy med school.

Most public universities have 30k students. It's not a small pond at all.

It’s a figure of speech mean intellectual big fish.

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*meaning

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Anonymous wrote:We had this situation. My suggestion is to really work the waitlists and consider hiring a college counselor to coach working the waitlist. He may get a spring admit.

How could a college counselor help work the waitlist? If there is a counselor that has connections at a particular school, then maybe I could see how someone might be able to put a thumb on the scale. Otherwise, I'm not sure how that would work.

That happened at my high school. The college counselors knew the Deans of Admission and could call them up and pull for kids.

Wow, in case anyone was confused and thought college admissions were a meritocracy

I wonder how many who try to enter through that door bemoan higher ed not being a meritocracy. I wonder how many are critical of what they see as special preference for URM, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. Remember I gave you a partial list. He was also rejected by one foundational school and one match.

He did ED1 to one of the one of the schools I listed as rejection but did not do an ED2.

sounds like GDS speak

Foundational is what my dd's college guidance called them. She went to NCS.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s a foundational school?

GDS term for safety

I keep reading this thread, and you are the second person to allege this. I just posted that NCS calls them foundational schools. I don't know if GDS does or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sucks.
What's meant to be though is usually the outcome.
I've learned if you have to fight so hard for something it's the universe telling you to go a different route.
Stay optimistic things change.

I would love to be able to embrace this attitude. But I just can’t seem to get there. I’d be more likely to blame it on bad luck, try to get over it but I wouldn’t be optimistic. I wish I knew how to be like you, haha! But I just don’t think the universe has any grand plans, or any plans at all. Things just happen, or don’t, and you gotta deal with the outcomes.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s a foundational school?

GDS term for safety

I keep reading this thread, and you are the second person to allege this. I just posted that NCS calls them foundational schools. I don't know if GDS does or not.

Yes, NCS calls them foundational schools. My DD got into 2 foundational schools and WL or rejected at every target/match and reach school. Hoping to get off of a WL. Not a great outcome after working so hard for 4 years.

[Anonymous]

What’s a hapa?

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Anonymous wrote:Sucks.
What's meant to be though is usually the outcome.
I've learned if you have to fight so hard for something it's the universe telling you to go a different route.
Stay optimistic things change.

I would love to be able to embrace this attitude. But I just can’t seem to get there. I’d be more likely to blame it on bad luck, try to get over it but I wouldn’t be optimistic. I wish I knew how to be like you, haha! But I just don’t think the universe has any grand plans, or any plans at all. Things just happen, or don’t, and you gotta deal with the outcomes.

Resilience, adaptability, perspective

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Anonymous wrote:All my stress about my kid’s applications has gone away because his top choice is a public university whose accepted students average sat scores of 1200 while his is 1560. Figure it doesn’t get much safer

He can be a big fish in a small pond. One of my kid’s HS friends ended up at a lower ranking university. She graduated in 3.5 years, premed. She’s now sitting on 4 med school offers, including one at an ivy med school.

Most public universities have 30k students. It's not a small pond at all.

I think with his stats, he’ll naturally rise to the top.

There’s hundreds of kids with those stats at every public university