I can’t say this to my kid’s face, of course, but...

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Our DD was waitlisted at Wake Forest. I don’t think they accepted anyone from wait list that year. People who get into popular schools from waitlist pull strings.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t tell you how many middle class HAPAs have told me that they deserve Ivy admission because they work harder. They are very snobby about any other schools. Only the best will do. I hope OPs DC gets in somewhere he likes but over shooting can have some very sad results.

Why is it only HAPAs? DCUM is full of these people -- 100%. And those DCUMers whose kids don't make it, they come to this board bitterly dissing those who do. Hang it up. Your insecurity - and lower IQ/EQ - is showing.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t tell you how many middle class HAPAs have told me that they deserve Ivy admission because they work harder. They are very snobby about any other schools. Only the best will do. I hope OPs DC gets in somewhere he likes but over shooting can have some very sad results.

OP didn't overshoot, his counselor said his list was balanced and appropriate. I think that's part of the issue, is that his list was deemed appropriate and yet he only got into a safety and waitlisted and not even at his reach schools.

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Anonymous wrote:Emory isn't a safety school for "everyone" though. A lot of people would be thrilled to go there.

You need to tell us the schools or comparable schools if you truly want educated opinions on this.

You have reading comprehension issues. Emory is a Reach for everyone.

Didn't used to be. Was a highly competitive school. Not a most competitive school.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t tell you how many middle class HAPAs have told me that they deserve Ivy admission because they work harder. They are very snobby about any other schools. Only the best will do. I hope OPs DC gets in somewhere he likes but over shooting can have some very sad results.

Pure fabrication. No hapa parents think they deserve to get into lottery schools. Hapa kids often have one foot in the white world. Those born in the US become complacent as any other US-born kids. if PP is going to lie, she needs to go beyond stereotypes and gossips she hears in her insular tribe.

[Anonymous]

I went to a safety school. I got straights As and graduated with honors. I got my pick of graduate schools and was fully funded. Your son can have a fabulous time in college and learn. Admittance to a safety to ends with a degree if you want it to!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to a safety school. I got straights As and graduated with honors. I got my pick of graduate schools and was fully funded. Your son can have a fabulous time in college and learn. Admittance to a safety still ends with a degree if you want it to!

Fixed it.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a safety school. I got straights As and graduated with honors. I got my pick of graduate schools and was fully funded. Your son can have a fabulous time in college and learn. Admittance to a safety to ends with a degree if you want it to!

Do you remember how long it took you to get over feeling back about just getting into your safety? Asking for a "friend"

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a safety school. I got straights As and graduated with honors. I got my pick of graduate schools and was fully funded. Your son can have a fabulous time in college and learn. Admittance to a safety to ends with a degree if you want it to!

Do you remember how long it took you to get over feeling back about just getting into your safety? Asking for a "friend"

I meant feeling bad, not "back." There is just a lot of disappointment and such over here and no amount of, "it'll be fine, you'll see" helps. So wondering in the real world, how long does it really take to start feeling not just okay, but happy with the ultimate decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a safety school. I got straights As and graduated with honors. I got my pick of graduate schools and was fully funded. Your son can have a fabulous time in college and learn. Admittance to a safety to ends with a degree if you want it to!

Do you remember how long it took you to get over feeling back about just getting into your safety? Asking for a "friend"

I meant feeling bad, not "back." There is just a lot of disappointment and such over here and no amount of, "it'll be fine, you'll see" helps. So wondering in the real world, how long does it really take to start feeling not just okay, but happy with the ultimate decision.

IMO, the term safety school is horrible. Your child needs to apply to colleges that he/she would be happy with. These kids are being set up for disappointment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a safety school. I got straights As and graduated with honors. I got my pick of graduate schools and was fully funded. Your son can have a fabulous time in college and learn. Admittance to a safety to ends with a degree if you want it to!

Do you remember how long it took you to get over feeling back about just getting into your safety? Asking for a "friend"

I meant feeling bad, not "back." There is just a lot of disappointment and such over here and no amount of, "it'll be fine, you'll see" helps. So wondering in the real world, how long does it really take to start feeling not just okay, but happy with the ultimate decision.

IMO, the term safety school is horrible. Your child needs to apply to colleges that he/she would be happy with. These kids are being set up for disappointment.

Agree, HORRIBLE. It should be based on an algorithm. If you pick schools from this category, you're 15% of getting in; this category you're 30%; this category you're 60% and so on. Get rid of labels altogether.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Emory isn't a safety school for "everyone" though. A lot of people would be thrilled to go there.

You need to tell us the schools or comparable schools if you truly want educated opinions on this.

You have reading comprehension issues. Emory is a Reach for everyone.

Didn't used to be. Was a highly competitive school. Not a most competitive school.

Things change.

[Anonymous]

Any good news for OP's kid?

[Anonymous]

All my stress about my kid’s applications has gone away because his top choice is a public university whose accepted students average sat scores of 1200 while his is 1560. Figure it doesn’t get much safer

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Anonymous wrote:All my stress about my kid’s applications has gone away because his top choice is a public university whose accepted students average sat scores of 1200 while his is 1560. Figure it doesn’t get much safer

He can be a big fish in a small pond. One of my kid’s HS friends ended up at a lower ranking university. She graduated in 3.5 years, premed. She’s now sitting on 4 med school offers, including one at an ivy med school.