What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced and in my early 60s, and my kids keep rooting for me to find another guy. I've dated some pretty great guys, financially solvent, interesting jobs, with all their hair and teeth, the whole package. My kids have met them and were really impressed each time. But I've been caregiving for the past 25 years and now I just want to live alone.

PS. I have tons of savings and friends, so it's not like my kids would ever have to support me financially or emotionally, before one of the aggrieved adult children in this forum inevitably goes there.

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

She knew our deal, yeah, and didn't seem to object to it. It happened a few times because he was short on rent a few times. I wouldn't say they had a healthy relationship. She slept with two more of our housemates as well.

She must have had the hots for you otherwise she wouldnt have done it.

In retrospect, I think she was a pretty screwed up girl. The guy was kind of an ass to women, but he was a lot of fun to hang out with if you were one of his male friends. Once, when he won big on sports bets, he flew me and another guy out with him to Vegas for the weekend.

When someone offers you sex with a third party, for money, you are talking to a PIMP.

Evolved humans do not sell (or buy) other people--even for short periods of time.

What do you not get about that??? (The attractiveness of the third party has NOTHING to do with it, if you were gifted with a brain or conscious, rather than just a penis.)
So who gets off by taking advantage of a “screwed up girl”, sold by the hour to her partner’s friends.

You are pretty screwed up, that is for sure.

Meh. If your roommate offered to let you sleep with her Ryan Gosling lookalike, uou would do it too.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced and in my early 60s, and my kids keep rooting for me to find another guy. I've dated some pretty great guys, financially solvent, interesting jobs, with all their hair and teeth, the whole package. My kids have met them and were really impressed each time. But I've been caregiving for the past 25 years and now I just want to live alone.

PS. I have tons of savings and friends, so it's not like my kids would ever have to support me financially or emotionally, before one of the aggrieved adult children in this forum inevitably goes there.

Don’t think this is a big or bad secret. Just tell the kids you are not ready or not interested.

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Anonymous wrote:I took my very elderly parent to a lawyer to have their will written and made sure I was the executor. When they died about a year or so later, I made my siblings think they were all getting their fair share of our parent’s estate, which they somewhat are, but in reality, I’m getting more than my siblings.

I’ve been surprised at how easy it has been to hide various small amounts of money that add up to me getting thousands more than my siblings. One sibling has been sniffing around a bit and asking questions, but I think she’s too dumb to figure it out. Bonus points for getting to stick it to my one really annoying sibling.

Is this just greed on your part or do you feel you deserve more, for example, for taking care of them?

My sibling who is very annoying married a man who allows her to stay home and “take care” of their kids. She does absolutely nothing in terms of work, even though my parents spent tons of money sending her to a private college and grad school. I’m divorced with kids, work hard, and have been fired twice in the last few years. I need the money way more than she does. She’s getting plenty and there’s no need for her to know that there’s more that I’m keeping for myself.

That was your parents’ call not yours.

You are a thief.

+100 you are an envious thief. I hope the money you stole was worth the karma that's coming for you.

In the big scheme of things, it’s not really that much money. I’ve taken a very small amount extra in proportion to the division of assets we’re all getting. And no one will ever know because, like I said, it’s just small extra amounts here and there that won’t show up in any of the paperwork, which no one is really going to check anyway.

My sibling is a very difficult person who did nothing at all to help with our parents. She’s already getting a huge amount money from the estate, so these small extra amounts won’t make any difference at all.

Yeah I have a sibling who tells herself the same story. It isn’t true. It’s just to justify her thievery to herself.

Are you sure no one is going to check your paperwork? Don’t you have to turn in a final accounting of everything to the probate court and get permission before you can distribute funds to the beneficiaries?

Nope, the state doesn’t care as long as they get paid their taxes. I don’t have to get permission from the state to distribute the money and from what my friends who have been executors tell me, the state never checks on anything and I don’t really have to officially “close” the estate with the court. I have friends who tell me that their parents died years ago and they simply distributed everything among the family and they never had to turn in any final documents to the state.

Is this what your probate lawyer is telling you? You might want to get a second opinion from another probate lawyer in your locality. The above does not sound right for most US states unless you are talking about a very small estate, with no real estate or financial instruments. I’m not a lawyer, but it would be worth your while to get advice from another lawyer just to confirm that you are getting good advice.

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

She knew our deal, yeah, and didn't seem to object to it. It happened a few times because he was short on rent a few times. I wouldn't say they had a healthy relationship. She slept with two more of our housemates as well.

She must have had the hots for you otherwise she wouldnt have done it.

In retrospect, I think she was a pretty screwed up girl. The guy was kind of an ass to women, but he was a lot of fun to hang out with if you were one of his male friends. Once, when he won big on sports bets, he flew me and another guy out with him to Vegas for the weekend.

So who gets off by taking advantage of a “screwed up girl”, sold by the hour to her partner’s friends.

You are pretty screwed up, that is for sure.

PP here. In this thread, you learned that sometimes people in their early 20's don't always make the wisest decisions. I'm glad I could be of service.

Would I do something like that again? No. But most people learn life lessons as they get older.

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I married our former nanny. We live 3k miles away now, our friends don’t know that.

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Anonymous wrote:I married our former nanny. We live 3k miles away now, our friends don’t know that.

Ycch.

There is a reason you don't want people to know how you met.

What, exactly, would cause her to trust you? Or was it just in her financial interest to feign love with her boss?

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Never told my child’s father that I got pregnant or had a baby. Money has never been an issue; it’s just me & my kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Never told my child’s father that I got pregnant or had a baby. Money has never been an issue; it’s just me & my kid.

For now. But one day that kid will wonder about the father. The kid may even investigate on their own & seek him out.

My best friend from childhood did this when she was in her early 20s. Once she found her bio dad, her mom confessed that she never told him about the pregnancy. My friend and her mom had a very strained relationship for a few years due to that.

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Anonymous wrote:That I was a mistress for two years.

Why did you start/stop? Did the wife know?

I started bc he was in a position of trust and power greater than me and I grew to love and trust him completely fully believing it would never turn sexual, until it did. By that time I was already emotionally dependent. Yes his wife knew. It stopped because I freed myself of emotional dependency on him.

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Anonymous wrote:That I’ve had sex in Central Park, multiple times, in broad daylight.

What were the logistics of this?

Probably the ramble!

It was the ramble once! That was just one of multiple times though.

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Anonymous wrote:No one knows the name of my mental illness; they all know I have periods of depression and that occasionally it is debilitating. They know I'm very emotional, etc. But no one knows the truth, and I hope they never do.

I work very hard to hide the part of me that I hate.

I love my children deeply, but hate myself just as much.

Are you bipolar? There’s a limited number of names of mental illnesses and they’re not very esoteric.

No it's not bipolar. There's an incredible seen in ER called "Sailing Away". It's a scene with Sally Field (who is bipolar in the series by the way), that sums up my feelings about my mental illness so well. It's just sad to have been born with such a messed up brain. It's a painful way to have lived my life.

Hit send too soon. It's the scene of Sally Field and her daughter on a balcony in a hotel. She talks about how she watches other people leading normal lives, and how she tried to live one, too, but couldn't make it work. It's very touching to me, and if I had one wish it would be to end mental illness for everyone.

Sally Field was in ER? You mean the TV series?

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Anonymous wrote:I was prosecuted for bigamy

Who won?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a performer on a paid adult web site and built up a decent following. Started when I was 45.

What made you stop?

What kind of work did you do - without being too specific!

Not PP but “paid adult website” is sufficient.

PP here. You should be able to guess well enough from that word. And I stopped because it wasn’t something I wanted to be broadly known and there was getting to be a lot of me out there, and still is since the internet is forever. Maybe someone I knew might figure out it was me.

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Anonymous wrote:That I’ve had sex in Central Park, multiple times, in broad daylight.

What were the logistics of this?

Probably the ramble!

It was the ramble once! That was just one of multiple times though.

Are you a gay man?