What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?

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Anonymous wrote:Our families don’t know we officially got married a week before our destination wedding.

Isn't this basic logic? Like, doesn't everyone have to go to city hall or wherever to get their marriage license?

The day you get your license is not the day that you exchange vows. Even if it is a non-religious service, it still must be done in front of an authorizing official

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Anonymous wrote:That I was a mistress for two years.

Why did you start/stop? Did the wife know?

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Anonymous wrote:I had a pretty bad eating disorder in my 20s. Had to be hospitalized for a brief time. I am now your typical overweight suburban mom and I LOVE that I love my body as it is. However, when someone shares the (very rare) photo of me from that time, I'm always complimented on how good I look (while I'm in intensive impatient program at 5'7 and 95 lbs).

Sad statement about the norms pushed to us by the media /fashion industry.

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

She knew our deal, yeah, and didn't seem to object to it. It happened a few times because he was short on rent a few times. I wouldn't say they had a healthy relationship. She slept with two more of our housemates as well.

She must have had the hots for you otherwise she wouldnt have done it.

In retrospect, I think she was a pretty screwed up girl. The guy was kind of an ass to women, but he was a lot of fun to hang out with if you were one of his male friends. Once, when he won big on sports bets, he flew me and another guy out with him to Vegas for the weekend.

Did he hook you up with escorts there too?

He paid for certain things in the back room of the strip club, let's just say.

And a month later, he couldn't make his rent again because he lost money on sports bets. He was a fun guy, but not someone you'd want your sister dating.

Why do you think that you are any better than him? He footed the bill, that is all.

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

He pimped out his girlfriend, instead of covering his own adult commitments, and you act like some neutral 3rd party.

You were the John.

Poor woman. I hope her self esteem/options are better now.

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

He pimped out his girlfriend, instead of covering his own adult commitments, and you act like some neutral 3rd party.

You were the John.

Poor woman. I hope her self esteem/options are better now.

Naaaaah. He is in the ok in this situation- he didn’t owe any money and the gf prob wanted to sleep with him anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:I took my very elderly parent to a lawyer to have their will written and made sure I was the executor. When they died about a year or so later, I made my siblings think they were all getting their fair share of our parent’s estate, which they somewhat are, but in reality, I’m getting more than my siblings.

I’ve been surprised at how easy it has been to hide various small amounts of money that add up to me getting thousands more than my siblings. One sibling has been sniffing around a bit and asking questions, but I think she’s too dumb to figure it out. Bonus points for getting to stick it to my one really annoying sibling.

Is this just greed on your part or do you feel you deserve more, for example, for taking care of them?

My sibling who is very annoying married a man who allows her to stay home and “take care” of their kids. She does absolutely nothing in terms of work, even though my parents spent tons of money sending her to a private college and grad school. I’m divorced with kids, work hard, and have been fired twice in the last few years. I need the money way more than she does. She’s getting plenty and there’s no need for her to know that there’s more that I’m keeping for myself.

That was your parents’ call not yours.

You are a thief.

+100 you are an envious thief. I hope the money you stole was worth the karma that's coming for you.

In the big scheme of things, it’s not really that much money. I’ve taken a very small amount extra in proportion to the division of assets we’re all getting. And no one will ever know because, like I said, it’s just small extra amounts here and there that won’t show up in any of the paperwork, which no one is really going to check anyway.

My sibling is a very difficult person who did nothing at all to help with our parents. She’s already getting a huge amount money from the estate, so these small extra amounts won’t make any difference at all.

Yeah I have a sibling who tells herself the same story. It isn’t true. It’s just to justify her thievery to herself.

Are you sure no one is going to check your paperwork? Don’t you have to turn in a final accounting of everything to the probate court and get permission before you can distribute funds to the beneficiaries?

Nope, the state doesn’t care as long as they get paid their taxes. I don’t have to get permission from the state to distribute the money and from what my friends who have been executors tell me, the state never checks on anything and I don’t really have to officially “close” the estate with the court. I have friends who tell me that their parents died years ago and they simply distributed everything among the family and they never had to turn in any final documents to the state.

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

She knew our deal, yeah, and didn't seem to object to it. It happened a few times because he was short on rent a few times. I wouldn't say they had a healthy relationship. She slept with two more of our housemates as well.

She must have had the hots for you otherwise she wouldnt have done it.

In retrospect, I think she was a pretty screwed up girl. The guy was kind of an ass to women, but he was a lot of fun to hang out with if you were one of his male friends. Once, when he won big on sports bets, he flew me and another guy out with him to Vegas for the weekend.

So who gets off by taking advantage of a “screwed up girl”, sold by the hour to her partner’s friends.

You are pretty screwed up, that is for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:That I’ve had sex in Central Park, multiple times, in broad daylight.

What were the logistics of this?

Probably the ramble!

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Anonymous wrote:In college, one of my roommates couldn't come up with his rent one month. He told me I could sleep with his girlfriend if I covered his rent that month. I took him up on the offer. It happened a few times.

Not sure why she did it, but I didn't see it as any of my concern.

Did she know of this deal beforehand? Did she want to do it? How did it happen multiple times?

She knew our deal, yeah, and didn't seem to object to it. It happened a few times because he was short on rent a few times. I wouldn't say they had a healthy relationship. She slept with two more of our housemates as well.

She must have had the hots for you otherwise she wouldnt have done it.

In retrospect, I think she was a pretty screwed up girl. The guy was kind of an ass to women, but he was a lot of fun to hang out with if you were one of his male friends. Once, when he won big on sports bets, he flew me and another guy out with him to Vegas for the weekend.

So who gets off by taking advantage of a “screwed up girl”, sold by the hour to her partner’s friends.

You are pretty screwed up, that is for sure.

Meh. If your roommate offered to let you sleep with her Ryan Gosling lookalike, uou would do it too.

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Anonymous wrote:I took my very elderly parent to a lawyer to have their will written and made sure I was the executor. When they died about a year or so later, I made my siblings think they were all getting their fair share of our parent’s estate, which they somewhat are, but in reality, I’m getting more than my siblings.

I’ve been surprised at how easy it has been to hide various small amounts of money that add up to me getting thousands more than my siblings. One sibling has been sniffing around a bit and asking questions, but I think she’s too dumb to figure it out. Bonus points for getting to stick it to my one really annoying sibling.

Is this just greed on your part or do you feel you deserve more, for example, for taking care of them?

My sibling who is very annoying married a man who allows her to stay home and “take care” of their kids. She does absolutely nothing in terms of work, even though my parents spent tons of money sending her to a private college and grad school. I’m divorced with kids, work hard, and have been fired twice in the last few years. I need the money way more than she does. She’s getting plenty and there’s no need for her to know that there’s more that I’m keeping for myself.

That was your parents’ call not yours.

You are a thief.

+100 you are an envious thief. I hope the money you stole was worth the karma that's coming for you.

In the big scheme of things, it’s not really that much money. I’ve taken a very small amount extra in proportion to the division of assets we’re all getting. And no one will ever know because, like I said, it’s just small extra amounts here and there that won’t show up in any of the paperwork, which no one is really going to check anyway.

My sibling is a very difficult person who did nothing at all to help with our parents. She’s already getting a huge amount money from the estate, so these small extra amounts won’t make any difference at all.

Yeah I have a sibling who tells herself the same story. It isn’t true. It’s just to justify her thievery to herself.

Are you sure no one is going to check your paperwork? Don’t you have to turn in a final accounting of everything to the probate court and get permission before you can distribute funds to the beneficiaries?

Nope, the state doesn’t care as long as they get paid their taxes. I don’t have to get permission from the state to distribute the money and from what my friends who have been executors tell me, the state never checks on anything and I don’t really have to officially “close” the estate with the court. I have friends who tell me that their parents died years ago and they simply distributed everything among the family and they never had to turn in any final documents to the state.

What state is this? Seems like one that enjoys enabling thieves like you.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a pretty bad eating disorder in my 20s. Had to be hospitalized for a brief time. I am now your typical overweight suburban mom and I LOVE that I love my body as it is. However, when someone shares the (very rare) photo of me from that time, I'm always complimented on how good I look (while I'm in intensive impatient program at 5'7 and 95 lbs).

Sad statement about the norms pushed to us by the media /fashion industry.

I had bulimia in college. Went through counseling and outpatient treatment. Told no one. My future MIL saw photos of me from this time (for something wedding related) and commented on
how “chubby” I was. Decided then and there that I’d never tell her anything personal, to include announcing pregnancies early or anything health-related.

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Anonymous wrote:Our families don’t know we officially got married a week before our destination wedding.

Isn't this basic logic? Like, doesn't everyone have to go to city hall or wherever to get their marriage license?

The day you get your license is not the day that you exchange vows. Even if it is a non-religious service, it still must be done in front of an authorizing official

We did this too and the ceremony was fake. No one cares. I think I mentioned it to a few people and no one was scandalized.

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Naaaaah. He is in the ok in this situation- he didn’t owe any money and the gf prob wanted to sleep with him anyway.

This PP was definitely the john. He is as bad as the guy who pumped out his gf.

[Anonymous]

I'm divorced and in my early 60s, and my kids keep rooting for me to find another guy. I've dated some pretty great guys, financially solvent, interesting jobs, with all their hair and teeth, the whole package. My kids have met them and were really impressed each time. But I've been caregiving for the past 25 years and now I just want to live alone.