how do you go over your kids' grades together?
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Anonymous
| Report card and standardized testing came back. We're supposed to "discuss" with our kids. Grades are on a scale of 1-4 (DD has mostly 3s), comments from main teacher and special teachers, and then percentiles (she's in 80%-95% depending on subject- mostly up in math percent and a point or two down in the others). |
Anonymous
| Whoops forgot to say 3rd grade |
Anonymous
| We don't but we're in MCPs where grades are pretty much meaningless. |
Anonymous
| What's the question here? Why do you need to ask this? How did your parents "discuss" your report card with you? |
Anonymous
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Well, we're not turning this into a religious experience if that's what you want to know! DS brings it back without looking at it, I open it, show it to him, and agree that none of it's a surprise, and that he should work harder in math. |
Anonymous
| I sit with DS (middle school at Landon) in a restaurant (usually Woodmont Grill in Bethesda) and I ask him what grade he thinks he got in each course, without showing him. I then show the grades and we discuss how he got each one and how he can improve. Its become a "thing" we do together. |
Anonymous
| Yes. DD has been in private since pre-K, now in 5. We started with discussing comments only in pre-K. In 2nd grade, we started discussing the actual marks (E, S, U) and in 4th when A, B C, etc started. I don't mean this as a humble brag, but school is generally easy for her. She gets the occasional B, but almost always As. We decided that this marking period, we won't even discuss the letter, but go back to focusing on comments. |
Anonymous
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DD is in 3rd and has learning differences. I tell her something the teacher mentioned that she's doing particularly well. She works hard and doesn't need additional discussions about how she struggles.
My younger child is in K and I don't think he knows about his report card. I don't discuss it with him at all. |
Anonymous
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Report cards -- I show it to each kid, and we discuss any problems (they are in elem school in mcps so really none as a prior poster said - they basically get all Ps which is average), and goals for the rest of the year.
Indiv Papers -- Once a week they bring home a folder from school with graded papers, and I look it over with them and give them postive feedback (generally and specifically) and I also note any problem areas and we discuss and come up with strategies. This is way more useful than the report cards imo because I can see if they are struggling in anything and can encourage them to talk to the teacher and/or help them myself. I also often notice careless grading by the teachers which is really not encouraging to me as a parent ... and I notice when my kids are "phoning it in" which is usually not noticed by their teachers. Ready for the accusations of my being a helicopter parent. I consider myself involved. |
Anonymous
You know many parents never discussed anything with their kids, including report cards. OP, I would not put too much stock into the "grades." They don't really mean much at this point, but it looks like your DD is doing well over all. I would just let her know it came, let her review it and ask any questions. Then get her perspective on what's she's studying--what interests her and why, what she finds difficult, etc. |
Anonymous
How typical. |
Anonymous
I ask if she P'd all over it. 
Yes, I am a horrible mom. |
Anonymous
Ha ha! That's great, at least you know how to make your kids laugh! |
Anonymous
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I care much less about grades and much more about DD's effort. We don't really have big talks about her grades.
Although once I yelled at her when everything was an A+ except one grade. But I couldn't finish yelling before DD and I were laughing. |
Anonymous
| I look at it and tell my DS7 that his teacher sent a report that he's working hard (true) and it shows (also true). He's not particularly interested yet. |