how do you go over your kids' grades together?
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Anonymous
| Kids are young, 9 and 7. My younger child's 1st grade teacher suggested we go through the progress report with our child, and I think that's a good approach. We go through each item, and emphasize the "effort" marks and the citizenship marks. We try to emphasize the connection between effort/hard work and results. But, we also make it clear that if effort is a "4" but marks for the subject are lower, it's completely ok. We want them trying their best/putting the effort in, no matter the subject. We also ask the children to set one specific goal that they want to work toward, e.g., work on listening when the teacher is talking to improve in that area |
Anonymous
i think it sounds nice! |
Anonymous
"clearly placing the parent as the dominant person in the conversation". This is a parent and child we're talking about. Are you under the odd impression that they are equals? My guess is that the purpose for making the child guess the grade first is to make him think about what he did and take responsibility for it, before seeing the result. Otherwise the child just focuses on the grade, as opposed to how he got it. Sounds reasonable to me. |
Anonymous
| My children get their report cards at school and go over them with their teachers. I wait until that happens before I go over their report cards with them. I ask them if they agree/disagree with grades/scores/comments. We talk about what they think they did well on, and where they think they can improve. I ask if there are areas I could be of help. I point out areas of new-found success where they'd previously struggled, because they often seem to miss that now they're getting positive comments in areas where they used to get negative ones. If scores seem out of line with what I know of their abilities or how they've performed in the past, we talk about it. For one of my children, it's another opportunity to hash out how to handle teachers because he has a hard time doing work for teachers he dislikes. |
Anonymous
| They get $1 for each 4. |
Anonymous
To me too. Although I have never heard of that restaurant and pictured it like someplace such as Uncle Julio's - my favorite family type restaurant. Is it like Ruth Christ or something? |
Anonymous
More like a Clydes, with $20 hamburgers. But there's no reason this couldn't be done at Five Guys or Chipotles. |