Worried Sick...Cannot Eat, Sleep or Concentrate

[Anonymous]

Please be kind everyone, I am in a lot of anguish right now.

I have to switch a few details here due to the sensitive nature of this story, but I promise the integrity will not be compromised at all.

My son who is 23 1/2 broke up with his girlfriend in October. They were together 3 1/2 years and lived together the last year. She is a year younger than he is.

Anyway needless to say his girlfriend was devastated when they broke up. First she begged him over and over to come back to her, then when that didn't work, she began threatening him via text. I.e., saying she still had his car keys and could take his car anytime, that she had his SSN# and could steal his identity if she wanted to, etc. Dumb move on her part using text to say this...

A few weeks ago her mom texted me, threatening me and my son with physical threats. We both chose to not respond and thought they were over it.

Not so fast. Four days ago the mother texted us both again and told is her daughter was now being hospitalized due to my son breaking up with her.
She threatened us that if my son doesn't contact her soon with an apology then we will be VERY VERY sorry in the end. That no one will break her daughter's heart and walk free.

I am so worried for my son's safety each and every single second of the day. I can barely concentrate at work, cannot sleep well at night and have lost my appetite. I have a knot in my stomach all the time and have let the house go due to how I feel.

My son on the other hand tells me he refuses to live his life in fear and doesn't understand my anxiety issues.

Am I overreacting on this or is there a strong possibility these people may act on their words??

I feel a little better already getting this all off my chest.
When I discuss this with other people it seems they automatically began questioning their safety when in contact with me which only makes me feel more alone.

[Anonymous]

I think given your state of mind you should pay a few hundred dollars to have an attorney send a "cease and desist" letter.

[Anonymous]

Contact the police today.

[Anonymous]

First of all, they're crazy and full of shit. They can't do anything.

Second of all, let your son handle it. It's his life.

Third of all, if it continues, tell him to file a report with police for harassment. He can include the texts and threats and file a restraining order, if he chooses.

[Anonymous]

By the way I remember your earlier post and these people are nuts.

[Anonymous]

Block their numbers from your phones (I'm surprised you and your son haven't already done this). You are overreacting but you should take steps to reduce your anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Physical threats - call police nonemergency, consider filing restraining order. You can do it yourself or with a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

I think if the mother were going to do something, she'd have done it already. Be grateful your son broke up with the girl. I think you are overreacting.

[Anonymous]

I'd document everything, just to be safe. Then I'd get to a therapist to talk all this through. It's unlikely anything will come of this, but hearing that from non-anonymous internet ppl should help. I agree with your son, but obviously you are struggling, so getting some help is never a bad idea. If you really feel it will help your state of mind, take your documentation to a lawyer and have them write a cease and desist letter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By the way I remember your earlier post and these people are nuts.

Link? I'm just curious.

[Anonymous]

That sounds terrible. Have you considered going to your PCP for (short term only) anxiety medication?

[Anonymous]

I am really confused how you came to be involved at all. How would the girl's mother know who you are let alone how to reach you let alone feel compelled to threaten you? This just doesn't track.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By the way I remember your earlier post and these people are nuts.

Link? I'm just curious.

I don't remember the title, but there was detail of the girlfriend and her parents tiring to pressure op into convincing her son to move back in with the gf and op wondered if this was normal. We assured her it was not.

[Anonymous]

Tiring = trying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By the way I remember your earlier post and these people are nuts.

Link? I'm just curious.

I don't remember the title, but there was detail of the girlfriend and her parents tiring to pressure op into convincing her son to move back in with the gf and op wondered if this was normal. We assured her it was not.

Think I found it - http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/514442.page