Worried Sick...Cannot Eat, Sleep or Concentrate

[Anonymous]

I just have it on Facebook in case anyone wants to get in touch with me....Most specifically old high school buddies and such....

Of course bad idea in hindsight now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You changed some of the details, but my guess it is the boy that is broken hearted and doing the threats etc, -- please get him in to see a therapist.

Not OP, but why would you think that? Just because he's male?

NP. Maybe, given OP's high level of concern over her child's safety.

??? Parents of girls are supposed to be more concerned than parents of boys?

OP, why haven't you spoken with police about this yet? I don't think you are overreacting at all. Despite the fact that these threats are more likely to be meaningless. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't want to find out the hard way.

[Anonymous]

OP, before you go to the cops, just make sure that your son's not exposing himself to any liability.

I'm not saying you need to snitch on your son, but if your DS and his ex have done drugs together, done anything else illegal, or committed anything that might look like abuse, it will come out in the fulness of time if you bring the police in.

I am certain the ex or the mom will be singing like canaries trying to portray your DS as the crazy one. If their allegations are true to any degree, this complicates matters a LOT. They are likely to engage in lies of some sort or another but many of these lies are hard to keep up even over a 30-minute questioning.

Now if it's just a case of your DS not knowing any better, the ex being moderately levels of crazy but then suddenly ratcheting it up, etc., then yes, bring in the police.

But talk to your son first and maybe an attorney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, before you go to the cops, just make sure that your son's not exposing himself to any liability.

I'm not saying you need to snitch on your son, but if your DS and his ex have done drugs together, done anything else illegal, or committed anything that might look like abuse, it will come out in the fulness of time if you bring the police in.

I am certain the ex or the mom will be singing like canaries trying to portray your DS as the crazy one. If their allegations are true to any degree, this complicates matters a LOT. They are likely to engage in lies of some sort or another but many of these lies are hard to keep up even over a 30-minute questioning.

Now if it's just a case of your DS not knowing any better, the ex being moderately levels of crazy but then suddenly ratcheting it up, etc., then yes, bring in the police.

But talk to your son first and maybe an attorney.

You are watching too much TV.

This is borderline personality disorder 101. Don't tangle with those types.

[Anonymous]

There have been several murder/suicides lately involving young people that have broken up. DO NOT take this lightly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Block their numbers from your phones (I'm surprised you and your son haven't already done this). You are overreacting but you should take steps to reduce your anxiety.

This is dangerous. Do not bury your had in the sand. You need to also compile evidence if you decide to take this to police/court to get a restraining order.

[Anonymous]

My sister was murdered by an estranged husband. Take these threats seriously, even if it turns out they're full of hot air. Getting the police involved might scare them enough to leave you alone. My sister told my dad and older brother she though her husband was going to kill her and they blew her off and said no, he would t do that, you're being paranoid. My dad was never the same and his drinking escalated to a fifth of whiskey a day until he dropped dead six years later. Some people are bluffing, some are not. Don't sit around waiting to find out which these people are.

[Anonymous]

I watch enough ID channel to know that you should definitely take these threats seriously. There are several shows on parents that ended up murdered by their child's ex lover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, before you go to the cops, just make sure that your son's not exposing himself to any liability.

I'm not saying you need to snitch on your son, but if your DS and his ex have done drugs together, done anything else illegal, or committed anything that might look like abuse, it will come out in the fulness of time if you bring the police in.

I am certain the ex or the mom will be singing like canaries trying to portray your DS as the crazy one. If their allegations are true to any degree, this complicates matters a LOT. They are likely to engage in lies of some sort or another but many of these lies are hard to keep up even over a 30-minute questioning.

Now if it's just a case of your DS not knowing any better, the ex being moderately levels of crazy but then suddenly ratcheting it up, etc., then yes, bring in the police.

But talk to your son first and maybe an attorney.

You are watching too much TV.

This is borderline personality disorder 101. Don't tangle with those types.

The ex having borderline personality disorder and the son doing things he'd rather not be known to the wider world are not mutually exclusive.