Jen Hatmaker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The truth will have to come out at some point. I think he was cheating and drained the bank accounts doing so...

agree

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jen shared today about having sleep issuesagain and this statement stuck out to me:.

"But I can't unsee what I've seen and unhear what I've heard and unknow what I know, and this shit circles back. It actually comes in waves. It is so brutal. It visits me at night. "

I'm assuming she's referencing what happened with Brandon to cause the divorce. Any ideas on what happened? Is he seeing anyone?

Classic signs of infidelity trauma.

+1

I’m almost 1 year out from discovering my husband’s affair and what she writes resonates. It is an emotional roller coaster with setbacks and triggers along the way. No sleep. I’m being treated for symptoms of ptsd.

+100

One year out and it comes in uncontrollable waves. The fixation. The mental movies. It’s awful. I can’t sleep. I’ll be fine , then a trigger will come and it’s 48 hours of intense pain/rumination/anxiety...hit repeat. Up and down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jen shared today about having sleep issuesagain and this statement stuck out to me:.

"But I can't unsee what I've seen and unhear what I've heard and unknow what I know, and this shit circles back. It actually comes in waves. It is so brutal. It visits me at night. "

I'm assuming she's referencing what happened with Brandon to cause the divorce. Any ideas on what happened? Is he seeing anyone?

That quote was disturbing. It sounds like such trauma. For such a public couples it's so strange that we don't know what he did...$$$, Porn, Cheating, other far more egregious sins? I feel for her so much. What a shame. It is still hard to want to support her LC not knowing if he has also morally failed that group too.

Sounds like she’s leaving it purposefully vague so people’s imaginations will fill in details that are probably worse than reality. I suspect that if/when the truth comes out, people will say “That was it?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jen shared today about having sleep issuesagain and this statement stuck out to me:.

"But I can't unsee what I've seen and unhear what I've heard and unknow what I know, and this shit circles back. It actually comes in waves. It is so brutal. It visits me at night. "

I'm assuming she's referencing what happened with Brandon to cause the divorce. Any ideas on what happened? Is he seeing anyone?

That quote was disturbing. It sounds like such trauma. For such a public couples it's so strange that we don't know what he did...$$$, Porn, Cheating, other far more egregious sins? I feel for her so much. What a shame. It is still hard to want to support her LC not knowing if he has also morally failed that group too.

Sounds like she’s leaving it purposefully vague so people’s imaginations will fill in details that are probably worse than reality. I suspect that if/when the truth comes out, people will say “That was it?”

Interesting that the two older boys seem to be moving to Team Dad. Gavin got a long birthday post from his dad and one impersonal post on stories from his mom. She mentioned a writers retreat where her sister was doing the kid parenting — so the younger two might not be spending time with Dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jen shared today about having sleep issuesagain and this statement stuck out to me:.

"But I can't unsee what I've seen and unhear what I've heard and unknow what I know, and this shit circles back. It actually comes in waves. It is so brutal. It visits me at night. "

I'm assuming she's referencing what happened with Brandon to cause the divorce. Any ideas on what happened? Is he seeing anyone?

That quote was disturbing. It sounds like such trauma. For such a public couples it's so strange that we don't know what he did...$$$, Porn, Cheating, other far more egregious sins? I feel for her so much. What a shame. It is still hard to want to support her LC not knowing if he has also morally failed that group too.

Sounds like she’s leaving it purposefully vague so people’s imaginations will fill in details that are probably worse than reality. I suspect that if/when the truth comes out, people will say “That was it?”

Interesting that the two older boys seem to be moving to Team Dad. Gavin got a long birthday post from his dad and one impersonal post on stories from his mom. She mentioned a writers retreat where her sister was doing the kid parenting — so the younger two might not be spending time with Dad.

Jen posted a long and very sweet message for Gavin on his bday. Maybe you missed it?

[Anonymous]

I'm thinking that part of this has to do with the adoption. There was a lot of vaguebooking way back in April about 'people in this house not being kind to each other' and we never really saw much of the relationship between Brandon and the younger two. Or not as much as we did of Jen (and the younger two).

Jen was clearly the 'pusher' in the family. How on board was Brandon with the adoption ? Is it possible he said some very revealing things in haste regarding his feelings about adoption hence the reason why there doesn't appear to be any ongoing contact between them ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm thinking that part of this has to do with the adoption. There was a lot of vaguebooking way back in April about 'people in this house not being kind to each other' and we never really saw much of the relationship between Brandon and the younger two. Or not as much as we did of Jen (and the younger two).

Jen was clearly the 'pusher' in the family. How on board was Brandon with the adoption ? Is it possible he said some very revealing things in haste regarding his feelings about adoption hence the reason why there doesn't appear to be any ongoing contact between them ?

I don't. He has loving photos with both of his adoptive kids. If anything Jen has alluded to issues with her daughter's "neediness" early on.

Since Jen talks about detaching a lot lately, makes me think of addiction-gambling, alcohol, sex, etc.I suspected maybe he gamble and cheated or he had a porn addiction?

[Anonymous]

Did y’all see her recent post about being the 7th wheel? I’m sure all of those were her and Brandon’s friends pre split. What could he have done to alienate all his friends too? They all seem team Jen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did y’all see her recent post about being the 7th wheel? I’m sure all of those were her and Brandon’s friends pre split. What could he have done to alienate all his friends too? They all seem team Jen.

Yes, I saw that. I wonder if the husbands are still in touch with Brandon or if he has his own friend group. Eg the bikers. I'm surprised nothing has leaked. They're from a small town, how is it possible to have no rumors?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did y’all see her recent post about being the 7th wheel? I’m sure all of those were her and Brandon’s friends pre split. What could he have done to alienate all his friends too? They all seem team Jen.

Yes, I saw that. I wonder if the husbands are still in touch with Brandon or if he has his own friend group. Eg the bikers. I'm surprised nothing has leaked. They're from a small town, how is it possible to have no rumors?

NDAs. She keeps her circle pretty tight. Most friends are part of the collective, or her own company, and for sure have non-disclosure agreements. I think Brandon will start slowly bringing his significant other (and maybe love child) out in the open after a year has passed since the divorce is finalized. The pictures of Brandon with his boys never have anyone else around. I think he's still easing his kids into his new life.

[Anonymous]

Has someone confirmed he has a new love and love child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has someone confirmed he has a new love and love child?

No. It’s pure conjecture at this point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did y’all see her recent post about being the 7th wheel? I’m sure all of those were her and Brandon’s friends pre split. What could he have done to alienate all his friends too? They all seem team Jen.

Yes, I saw that. I wonder if the husbands are still in touch with Brandon or if he has his own friend group. Eg the bikers. I'm surprised nothing has leaked. They're from a small town, how is it possible to have no rumors?

I too am surprised nothing has leaked. I am from the small town they are in, and I have been told that no one has made a peep. No rumors, no ones been seen out with anyone else, nada.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did y’all see her recent post about being the 7th wheel? I’m sure all of those were her and Brandon’s friends pre split. What could he have done to alienate all his friends too? They all seem team Jen.

Yes, I saw that. I wonder if the husbands are still in touch with Brandon or if he has his own friend group. Eg the bikers. I'm surprised nothing has leaked. They're from a small town, how is it possible to have no rumors?

I too am surprised nothing has leaked. I am from the small town they are in, and I have been told that no one has made a peep. No rumors, no ones been seen out with anyone else, nada.

Buda is a small town, but it’s essentially an extension of Austin, a commuter town. It’s not like a small town in the traditional sense anymore. Not trying to be rude. While you may run into people you know at the store or gas station from to time, it’s not the sleepy little town we generally think of. That went away 20-30 years ago.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did y’all see her recent post about being the 7th wheel? I’m sure all of those were her and Brandon’s friends pre split. What could he have done to alienate all his friends too? They all seem team Jen.

Yes, I saw that. I wonder if the husbands are still in touch with Brandon or if he has his own friend group. Eg the bikers. I'm surprised nothing has leaked. They're from a small town, how is it possible to have no rumors?

I too am surprised nothing has leaked. I am from the small town they are in, and I have been told that no one has made a peep. No rumors, no ones been seen out with anyone else, nada.

Buda is a small town, but it’s essentially an extension of Austin, a commuter town. It’s not like a small town in the traditional sense anymore. Not trying to be rude. While you may run into people you know at the store or gas station from to time, it’s not the sleepy little town we generally think of. That went away 20-30 years ago.

I disagree. Every time I am there, I can't go anywhere without running into 5 people I know and hearing everyone's gossip. But even if it were a big town, to be relatively well known and not have anything at all leak is surprising to me.