A sensitive question about race?

[Anonymous]

This is a sensitive question, but I'm wondering if I can get some insight on my new situation. I am in financial trouble and need to move. I am a single mom and am looking into moving into a school district that the elementary school is a 2 on Greater Schools. It's primarily black and Hispanic students and 7% white. My son is in 2nd grade that would be leaving a affluent more evenly diverse school. I have heard black parents on here say that the discrimination will always be a problem. I have never really talked to my son about race issues. My question is this: how do kids treat white kids when the white students are the minority? When parents see a white kid hanging out with their kid, do they feel worried that they will be treated diffeently? Do you talk to your kids about racist stuff?

[Anonymous]

you are making an issue where there isnt one

[Anonymous]

You're overthinking.

[Anonymous]

Rather than asking this question broadly about race, how about posting it again as a question about the school in question? People may be inaccurate in their assessments of this racial hypothetical. People may be better able to help if you say "We are a white family looking at XXXX school and very open to friends of all backgrounds. Does anybody know the community there? Will we be welcomed?"

[Anonymous]

People are ignorant about real race issues, OP. You need to rephrase your question. In a nutshell, if you expect a kumbaya moment, as the only white kid, you are mistaken. A minority is a minority. There will be hazing, at best.

[Anonymous]

White parents are the ones who are uncomfortable with that situation, not anyone else. "Minorities" don't have the luxury of being uncomfortable with white people.

I'm sure OP will make a beeline for other white parents like they do at my school. It's kind of funny, it's so obvious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White parents are the ones who are uncomfortable with that situation, not anyone else. "Minorities" don't have the luxury of being uncomfortable with white people.

I'm sure OP will make a beeline for other white parents like they do at my school. It's kind of funny, it's so obvious.

Why exactly are you pointing this out. Because black parents don't make a beeline for other black parents? Asian parents don't make a beeline for other asian parents? Hispanic parents don't make a beeline for other hispanic parents? You need to get the racist stick out of your butt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:White parents are the ones who are uncomfortable with that situation, not anyone else. "Minorities" don't have the luxury of being uncomfortable with white people.

I'm sure OP will make a beeline for other white parents like they do at my school. It's kind of funny, it's so obvious.

Why exactly are you pointing this out. Because black parents don't make a beeline for other black parents? Asian parents don't make a beeline for other asian parents? Hispanic parents don't make a beeline for other hispanic parents? You need to get the racist stick out of your butt.

At my predominantly white high school, no, the black parents didn't make a beeline for one another -- not the way white parents seem to at my child's predominantly black school. In the US, generally speaking, most POC have more experience being in the minority than most white people do. Not that they don't notice, and not that it doesn't have an impact, but for the most part, i think they're less disconcerted by it than many white people are.

[Anonymous]

Why is it ok to bring up racism against blacks but not ok to bring up reverse racism??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it ok to bring up racism against blacks but not ok to bring up reverse racism??

Because black people cannot be racist against whites as a master of the historical and structural situation here. See eg Missouri, Yale and Claremont McKenna College.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it ok to bring up racism against blacks but not ok to bring up reverse racism??

Because black people cannot be racist against whites as a master of the historical and structural situation here. See eg Missouri, Yale and Claremont McKenna College.

You need to reeducate or rather educate yourself--start with a dictionary.

[Anonymous]

bump

[Anonymous]

OP,
There's no way to predict how individual minority children will respond to your individual white child and vice versa. What have you taught AND practiced with your DC wrt race, social class, and cultural diversity? Are minority children just another group of potential friends or an exotic novelty for your DC?
I'd be more concerned that the school is a 2.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's a little different, but I was one of just a few white women in a predominantly-black dorm floor in college. And I worked in a city jail later as an adult and was the only white employee out of hundreds. I was never treated poorly. Sometimes differently. But most people were friendly.

I was an adult in my experiences. Of my white friends who grew up in predominantly-black schools in PG counties, almost all my white friends are pretty racist. That could have been because of family beliefs at home, though. But if I were raising my white son in a predominately-black environment, it's something I'd keep an eye out for and not tolerate.

[Anonymous]

My child is white in a predominantly African-American school (9 on Great Schools). The only issue that ever arose was when my son was in kindergarten and one of the girls in the class told him that she did not want to be his friend because he didn't have brown skin. He was sad about it, and it made us have conversations about race earlier than we probably would have. Other than this one little incident, he has thrived there, and has a great group of friends.