Really, truly for the 50+ set: When /why did we need to start ripping out our pubes, too ?!

[Anonymous]

I know this thread will get overtaken by girls young enough to be my daughter, but I'm only interested in replies from my peer group: women born before 1965.


Why? Because I am absolutely, positively certain that we were not brought up to think that pubic hair must completely disappear and bald is the way to go. We may have trimmed, we may have groomed for a bikini, but nobody in the US was mandating the pre-pubescent look in 1980, 1990 and so on. (look at some porn if you don't believe me)

So my question is, why do 50- and 60-something men from Match.com world expect our age cohort to retroactively adopt this bald look (after 40 years of not doing it) and mimic young women? This really is happening in the online dating world. Newly single, divorced 57-year old men expect something they never grew up with, either.

It's not a great analogy, but I feel like it would be similar for me to expect a 55 yr old dude who has spent a lifetime of being clean-shaven to do this with his own body hair -- since that's the current fashion, he should get with the times.

[Anonymous]

God I'm glad that I'm married. How on earth can some weirdo on match.com tell you what to do...down there? eek.

[Anonymous]

What do they say to you?

[Anonymous]

Not one of the late-40s/50-ish men I've been with recently has cared one whit that I have a trimmed & contained, but mostly untouched bush. Not one has been surprised by my pubic hair or been stupid enough to comment about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not one of the late-40s/50-ish men I've been with recently has cared one whit that I have a trimmed & contained, but mostly untouched bush. Not one has been surprised by my pubic hair or been stupid enough to comment about it.

How many guys are seeing your bush?

[Anonymous]

They're probably getting these ideas from porn, but that doesn't mean you have to follow the trend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not one of the late-40s/50-ish men I've been with recently has cared one whit that I have a trimmed & contained, but mostly untouched bush. Not one has been surprised by my pubic hair or been stupid enough to comment about it.

How many guys are seeing your bush?

Not a large number, but I've had a few lovers since I became single again.

[Anonymous]

I know I shouldn't comment, but as a 35-year-old, I'm right there with you. Luckily, my DH isn't a huge porn viewer, so he's fine with my trimmed situation down there.

I roll my eyes SO OFTEN at friends my age who have convinced themselves they love to do brazilians "for themselves" when really it's being driven pretty much 100% by the porn industry brainwashing guys into thinking it's the norm, who then pressure women to do it, who then rationalize that they just love ripping all their hair off their vulva. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

I'm curious how these men being this up to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not one of the late-40s/50-ish men I've been with recently has cared one whit that I have a trimmed & contained, but mostly untouched bush. Not one has been surprised by my pubic hair or been stupid enough to comment about it.

How many guys are seeing your bush?

Not a large number, but I've had a few lovers since I became single again.

Ugh, I'm sorry, I feel like I'm watching an episode of The Love Boat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Ugh, I'm sorry, I feel like I'm watching an episode of The Love Boat.

lol, relax...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this thread will get overtaken by girls young enough to be my daughter, but I'm only interested in replies from my peer group: women born before 1965.


Why? Because I am absolutely, positively certain that we were not brought up to think that pubic hair must completely disappear and bald is the way to go. We may have trimmed, we may have groomed for a bikini, but nobody in the US was mandating the pre-pubescent look in 1980, 1990 and so on. (look at some porn if you don't believe me)

So my question is, why do 50- and 60-something men from Match.com world expect our age cohort to retroactively adopt this bald look (after 40 years of not doing it) and mimic young women? This really is happening in the online dating world. Newly single, divorced 57-year old men expect something they never grew up with, either.

It's not a great analogy, but I feel like it would be similar for me to expect a 55 yr old dude who has spent a lifetime of being clean-shaven to do this with his own body hair -- since that's the current fashion, he should get with the times.

I feel like I can smell vagina through the screen. I'm sorry. That is just so much bush if that is the analogy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know I shouldn't comment, but as a 35-year-old, I'm right there with you. Luckily, my DH isn't a huge porn viewer, so he's fine with my trimmed situation down there.

I roll my eyes SO OFTEN at friends my age who have convinced themselves they love to do brazilians "for themselves" when really it's being driven pretty much 100% by the porn industry brainwashing guys into thinking it's the norm, who then pressure women to do it, who then rationalize that they just love ripping all their hair off their vulva. Ugh.

I'm 33, watch probably an average amount of porn, and I'm a big fan of my wife's "trimmed situation down there". BIG. FAN.

She got a brazilian once, at her friend's recommendation. She had a really bad reaction to it. She mentioned trying it again and I told her she didn't need to do that to herself on my account.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It's not a great analogy, but I feel like it would be similar for me to expect a 55 yr old dude who has spent a lifetime of being clean-shaven to do this with his own body hair -- since that's the current fashion, he should get with the times.

I feel like I can smell vagina through the screen. I'm sorry. That is just so much bush if that is the analogy.

Way to miss the point …

[Anonymous]

I'm 52 and a woman. I keep my pubes very closely clipped because it just feels better. The few times I've gotten lazy I've laughed at how much gray there is (and why are some of the hairs growing straight now vs. curly???) but there is no way I'm letting the hedge go wild. But if you're happy, why worry? Flip off he match.com losers and you do you. At our age, if someone doesn't like it they can do without.