does your husband initiate or plan "date nights"?
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Anonymous
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Does your husband plan date nights?
Make reservations, buy tickets, make plans, (whatever the evening entails) etc? |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
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lol no, absolutely not.
But he is often open to my suggestions, and he suggests things spontaneously sometimes, which I like. Sure, it would be great to have your husband do this, but if I were you I wouldn't make a big deal out of it if he doesn't. I think that's just looking for unhappiness. |
Anonymous
| Yes. I'd say we are 30% him, 30% me, and 40% us doing the planning together. |
Anonymous
| Nope |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| I'm usually the one who initiates in the sense of seeing an open evening on the calendar and telling him we should do a date night, but he's usually the one who plans them. |
Anonymous
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OP here.
just wondering! Lol. In 13 years of marriage my husband has planned exactly ONE night out. That was dinner for our 10th wedding anniversary. |
Anonymous
| I wonder how many of the "no" answers don't do it either and thus no date nights happen purely out of spite. |
Anonymous
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He hasn't done it in a decade+, but he does pay for everything that I plan for us to do. I ALWAYS get the sitter, buy tickets, make reservations, etc.
It used to make me very angry and resentful. But then I decided that I'd rather go on date nights than fume about why it's my job. He's not a multi-tasker, not a planner, prone to indecision, can't think into the future more than a day, or even a few hours. Also, this board has some great ideas for fun things to do: do a forum search for 'date night.' |
Anonymous
OP here. My husband has never done this. Not once. I would like it too! |
Anonymous
| Ha ha no. His idea of date night is having sex. |
Anonymous
Prior to getting married, did he ask you on dates or plan them? You could try telling him that what you want (for an anniversary, for a birthday, whatever) is for him to surprise you. May work, may not. |
Anonymous
I'm the poster who said my husband spontaneously suggests things sometimes - lol, well, if it helps you feel a bit better, by spontaneously suggest things sometimes I mean about 5 times a year he'll say "hey, wanna go eat at x nice restaurant tonight?" and 5/10 they are already booked up 
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Anonymous
| lol. No. This thread is actually making feel better. |