My boyfriend loves me, but has no sex drive.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend loves me. We've been together for a year. We have never had sex. We didn't want to jump into it. Well, now I'm ready - and I've brought it up to him. He told me that he has zero sex drive. He feels empty and emotionless. He physically can't have sex. But he says that he loves me and wants a future with me. What do I do? Is there anything I can say/do to help him "snap out of this"?

[Anonymous]

He literally can't have sex.... ever?

If you ever want kids, that would be a no go.

If you dont care about kids, well- buy a dildo, I guess.

[Anonymous]

How old are you guys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you guys?

37. I have kids already, but would love another. He does not have any kids but would like one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He literally can't have sex.... ever?

If you ever want kids, that would be a no go.

If you dont care about kids, well- buy a dildo, I guess.

Right now, no...he physically CAN'T. It's been about 4 months now that he said he just can't and has zero desire to.

[Anonymous]

Have him see a doctor because this is a treatable medical condition. If he says "no", feel free to walk because you're not married, so you're free to go.

You're too young to be stuck with this, OP, good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He literally can't have sex.... ever?

If you ever want kids, that would be a no go.

If you dont care about kids, well- buy a dildo, I guess.

Right now, no...he physically CAN'T. It's been about 4 months now that he said he just can't and has zero desire to.

Then you've gotta dump him, before you get anymore attached. At 37, your fertility is already on a steep decline. You need to find someone who wants to have sex and can get you pregnant. Or get a sperm donation. Thems the breaks, sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He literally can't have sex.... ever?

If you ever want kids, that would be a no go.

If you dont care about kids, well- buy a dildo, I guess.

Right now, no...he physically CAN'T. It's been about 4 months now that he said he just can't and has zero desire to.

Is this a medical condition or mental?

[Anonymous]

He's given you all the information you need to make a decision. Take a look at these boards.

I can't imagine staying in a romantic relationship knowing that sex is off the table.

This is what I would call a friendship. And, it may be a great, great, great one! But, to me, a romantic partner is defined by the sex we have. If we're not having sex, we're friends.

You'll have to decide for yourself, but ooooh boy think it through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He literally can't have sex.... ever?

If you ever want kids, that would be a no go.

If you dont care about kids, well- buy a dildo, I guess.

Right now, no...he physically CAN'T. It's been about 4 months now that he said he just can't and has zero desire to.

Is this a medical condition or mental?

I think it's mental because of stress...and causing physical. He has never had a problem with this area before (per him telling me).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
He's given you all the information you need to make a decision. Take a look at these boards.

I can't imagine staying in a romantic relationship knowing that sex is off the table.

This is what I would call a friendship. And, it may be a great, great, great one! But, to me, a romantic partner is defined by the sex we have. If we're not having sex, we're friends.

You'll have to decide for yourself, but ooooh boy think it through.

We do everything together...we love each other, talk have talked about marriage. I just want him to get past this...somehow...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He literally can't have sex.... ever?

If you ever want kids, that would be a no go.

If you dont care about kids, well- buy a dildo, I guess.

Right now, no...he physically CAN'T. It's been about 4 months now that he said he just can't and has zero desire to.

Is this a medical condition or mental?

I think it's mental because of stress...and causing physical. He has never had a problem with this area before (per him telling me).

Then maybe its you? Maybe he settling with you but isnt finding you physically attractive to have sex with

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He literally can't have sex.... ever?

If you ever want kids, that would be a no go.

If you dont care about kids, well- buy a dildo, I guess.

Right now, no...he physically CAN'T. It's been about 4 months now that he said he just can't and has zero desire to.

Is this a medical condition or mental?

I think it's mental because of stress...and causing physical. He has never had a problem with this area before (per him telling me).

Then he can still get treated for it by any number of medications, exercise, relaxation, etc... all he has to do is consult a physician.

[Anonymous]

So if you marry him you would likely never again have sex? Could you handle that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
He's given you all the information you need to make a decision. Take a look at these boards.

I can't imagine staying in a romantic relationship knowing that sex is off the table.

This is what I would call a friendship. And, it may be a great, great, great one! But, to me, a romantic partner is defined by the sex we have. If we're not having sex, we're friends.

You'll have to decide for yourself, but ooooh boy think it through.

We do everything together...we love each other, talk have talked about marriage. I just want him to get past this...somehow...

What you want and reality are two different things. Don't settle for a sexless life with this man. It will destroy you.