Sleep separately? If so, how's that working out?

[Anonymous]

Maybe it started as co-sleeping kids or a reaction to snoring, but now it's been years.

Working? Or another source of tension in your relationship?

[Anonymous]

Works great! It's not like we were going to have sex anyway..

[Anonymous]

DW and I would like it, except our bed in MBR is much more comfortable than the guest bed, and there is no TV in that room.

As for sex, We have not had sex in 2015, so that is not the issue

[Anonymous]

I have been sleeping in guest room for about a year or so. Started when the youngest would come into our room everynight. Eventually, I gave up and slept in guest room. It's fine for now. My DW has low libido anyway so it gives me a chance to get off in privacy (we have sex once per week). I wouldn't want this to be forever, either the libido issues or separate bedrooms. But it works for now and I don't see an adverse effect on the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Have my own room, own nice bed and fantastic mattress, own tv and love it. Opposite sides of the house. We have sex in his room then I go to my room.


Happy marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have my own room, own nice bed and fantastic mattress, own tv and love it. Opposite sides of the house. We have sex in his room then I go to my room.


Happy marriage.

Is he happy with it too? Enough sex and touch for him? I'm so jealous of you! Would love to have my own room, get better sleep and have some privacy, but I think that if we didn't sleep in the same bed, we'd probably grow apart, since snuggling up together and having pillow talk and sex barely happens enough as it is, due to schedules, fatigue, and illness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have my own room, own nice bed and fantastic mattress, own tv and love it. Opposite sides of the house. We have sex in his room then I go to my room.


Happy marriage.

I need this!

[Anonymous]

Our sex life took off once we started sleeping in separate rooms. Both of us are well rested and have more space. We go to each other's bed to have sex and frankly it feels very illicit and exciting. Hearing my DH slip into my room turns me on instantly because I know that he wants sex and has made the effort to come to me. Earlier, when we were sharing a room and a bed, sex felt monotonous because we were already in the bed.

Also, for us, sex is happening more and more in the early morning hours after both of us have had a restful night of sleep.

I would absolutely recommend it.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I dream of a separate room. We have separate offices, separate bathrooms and closets...why not?

I love my DH dearly and enjoy "adult time" with him but he is hot like a furnace. He also does this thing where he doesn't actually snore its just this little guttural gurgly almost a snore but not quite. SO. ANNOYING. I'd rather he just freaking snore.

[Anonymous]

I'm sleeping in the guest room tonight. Last night DH kept me up all night with some heavy snoring and I'm exhausted. We probably sleep separately one night a week, usually when one of us needs to catch up on sleep. We love our guest bedroom mattress, so we kind of fight on who gets the guest room.

[Anonymous]

Great for getting a good night's sleep. Not so great for sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have my own room, own nice bed and fantastic mattress, own tv and love it. Opposite sides of the house. We have sex in his room then I go to my room.


Happy marriage.

Super weird, like a business arrangement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our sex life took off once we started sleeping in separate rooms. Both of us are well rested and have more space. We go to each other's bed to have sex and frankly it feels very illicit and exciting. Hearing my DH slip into my room turns me on instantly because I know that he wants sex and has made the effort to come to me. Earlier, when we were sharing a room and a bed, sex felt monotonous because we were already in the bed.

Also, for us, sex is happening more and more in the early morning hours after both of us have had a restful night of sleep.

I would absolutely recommend it.

+1, minus the early mornings. When we started sleeping in separate bedrooms we started having so much more and so much better sex. It is more exciting because one of us has to actively go to the other, something about that feels more special and like you're more wanted. Not sure how to explain it, but it's a sexier scenario for sure than when we shared a bed. Highly recommend, and wish there wasn't such a stigma. Our marriage is fantastic, and I'm really reticent to ever admit to people that we mostly sleep apart, because people always assume it means problems in the marriage or that we never have sex. Couldn't be further from the truth.

[Anonymous]

It works for us. It's easier to have a happy marriage when we both get enough sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been sleeping in guest room for about a year or so. Started when the youngest would come into our room everynight. Eventually, I gave up and slept in guest room. It's fine for now. My DW has low libido anyway so it gives me a chance to get off in privacy (we have sex once per week). I wouldn't want this to be forever, either the libido issues or separate bedrooms. But it works for now and I don't see an adverse effect on the relationship.

Once a week is pretty normal, not "low libido".