Inviting the whole class except the bully?

[Anonymous]

Let's say you had a party planned for your child and intended to invite the entire class. Then one of your child's classmates started bullying him, to the point that the school has intervened. Do you still have to invite your child's bully to the party since you're inviting the rest of the class? Or do you get a pass on this rule?

I hate to completely change up a party my child has been looking forward to and make him invite only a small number of kids instead, but I can't imagine forcing him to have his bully present at the party given how much anxiety this kid causes him.

[Anonymous]

how old are they?

[Anonymous]

I would not invite the whole class minus one person, no matter how much of a bully he was. That's terrible to do to a kid. How old are the kids?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't ever invite a bully to my child's party. But, I also wouldn't invite the entire class. No way is my kid (even my highly social, popular two) friends with everyone in the class.

[Anonymous]

1. Don't invite any bully.
2. Don't exclude one person.
3. Only solution - don't invite the entire class.

I ask my kids to pick 10-15 children for their parties, and help them if they are having trouble.

[Anonymous]

The kids are six, in first grade. It's the beginning of the year and my kid knows almost no one in the class, so we had decided on a whole-class party rather than him trying to figure out which handful of kids he barely knows he should invite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
1. Don't invite any bully.
2. Don't exclude one person.
3. Only solution - don't invite the entire class.

I ask my kids to pick 10-15 children for their parties, and help them if they are having trouble.

There are only 15 kids in the class. It's pretty hard to cut that down without leaving out only a small number or only letting him have a small number.

[Anonymous]

6 is young enough for behaviour to change, but one way it isn't going to change is by being ostracized. Invite the bully, but ask his parents to stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:6 is young enough for behaviour to change, but one way it isn't going to change is by being ostracized. Invite the bully, but ask his parents to stay.

This. They are still young.

[Anonymous]

They're still little kids. I would hate for my son's behavior the first 2 weeks of school to hinder his social development for the rest of the year. Its so hard, he could be anxious, have ADHD, who knows....

[Anonymous]

You invite three families. Time for you to get to know some other parents in the class.

The whole class is nothing but pandemonium at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's say you had a party planned for your child and intended to invite the entire class. Then one of your child's classmates started bullying him, to the point that the school has intervened. Do you still have to invite your child's bully to the party since you're inviting the rest of the class? Or do you get a pass on this rule?

I hate to completely change up a party my child has been looking forward to and make him invite only a small number of kids instead, but I can't imagine forcing him to have his bully present at the party given how much anxiety this kid causes him.

I would invite everyone except the bully. He'll learn very quickly that his behavior will get him ostracized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not invite the whole class minus one person, no matter how much of a bully he was. That's terrible to do to a kid. How old are the kids?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's say you had a party planned for your child and intended to invite the entire class. Then one of your child's classmates started bullying him, to the point that the school has intervened. Do you still have to invite your child's bully to the party since you're inviting the rest of the class? Or do you get a pass on this rule?

I hate to completely change up a party my child has been looking forward to and make him invite only a small number of kids instead, but I can't imagine forcing him to have his bully present at the party given how much anxiety this kid causes him.

I would invite everyone except the bully. He'll learn very quickly that his behavior will get him ostracized.

No. This is wrong and you should feel bad. They are SIX years old. You don't fix a bully by bullying them back. OP shouldn't have to invite the kid if they don't want, but inviting everyone BUT that kid is shitty.

[Anonymous]

When you say"bully" what has he actually done and what has the school done to help?