Game is rigged

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is applying to a single digit selective college.
In her school there are two boys who are also applying, both from very wealthy families. One is legacy and heavily donates, another donates seven digit donations.

My kid has no chance.

During Oligarchic regime it’s common…

This.

[Anonymous]

OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

[Anonymous]

You are where you are because your forebearers thought it was rigged too. Stop making excuses and modeling loser behavior for your kid. A whole generation (maybe two?) is growing up to think that everything is rigged. Compared to what? Were there no differences or barriers thirty or forty years ago? No disadvantages? No Vietnam for kids who could not go to college? No discrimination against women or Blacks or Hispanics in admissions or the workplace? How dumb can all of you be to buy this kind of claptrap? Being first-generation is a huge advantage in admissions. Most kids I see going to Ivies and MIT/Cal Tech are not children of wealth, and most kids who destroy Ivy grads in professional school generally come from modest means. There has never been a better time to have kids from modest means with a shot to do what they want. Get over this crap and stop kvetching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

If your kid is similarly focused on these perceived injustices, she probably won’t be happy at this school anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

It depends on the college, whether you are at an elite (t10 nationally) feeder....what does "top stats" mean to you? What major? What ECs? What else?

Also, a legacy male applying to classics, who has a summer program at Paideia and Certamen is getting in early to Yale or Princeton if a donor/legacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

Quit whining and get on with it. Famine mentality is bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are where you are because your forebearers thought it was rigged too. Stop making excuses and modeling loser behavior for your kid. A whole generation (maybe two?) is growing up to think that everything is rigged. Compared to what? Were there no differences or barriers thirty or forty years ago? No disadvantages? No Vietnam for kids who could not go to college? No discrimination against women or Blacks or Hispanics in admissions or the workplace? How dumb can all of you be to buy this kind of claptrap? Being first-generation is a huge advantage in admissions. Most kids I see going to Ivies and MIT/Cal Tech are not children of wealth, and most kids who destroy Ivy grads in professional school generally come from modest means. There has never been a better time to have kids from modest means with a shot to do what they want. Get over this crap and stop kvetching.

+1

[Anonymous]

I’m begging to like the lottery admissions system they’re trying in Europe

[Anonymous]

Life is not fair. There must be another school your kid would love that has no kids with similar hooks applying early next year.

[Anonymous]

Whining in advance?

Prepping your excuses?

Are you teaching your kid all this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

It depends on the college, whether you are at an elite (t10 nationally) feeder....what does "top stats" mean to you? What major? What ECs? What else?

Also, a legacy male applying to classics, who has a summer program at Paideia and Certamen is getting in early to Yale or Princeton if a donor/legacy.

+1 Legacy kids are not automatic admits anywhere. Legacy is a light thumb on the scale, that's it. The application has to otherwise be strong as well and likely strategic (unsaturated major focus etc.)

[Anonymous]

It's as if OP has forgotten that we live in a country that operates under capitalism.

[Anonymous]

Keep an open mind. This goes for parents and kids. There are unhappy students at HYPMS and happy people at colleges that none of us have heard of. It’s become a parenting competition but I don’t know what parenting prize is reserved for parents of T-10 admits. (The occasional “Wow” reaction from strangers? bumper sticker?)Try to focus on raising happy, healthy well-adjusted kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is applying to a single digit selective college.
In her school there are two boys who are also applying, both from very wealthy families. One is legacy and heavily donates, another donates seven digit donations.

My kid has no chance.

She basically had no chance anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

Of course not, and it never has. It has never been the case that these shcools you covet have only and all of the top stat students. Never. That is group-think fueled by marketing.