Divorced women - how is your love life today?

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I always wonder how many of the "never remarry" women who post here have alimony from their ex that would terminate if they remarried. I really feel like they should disclose this when arguing that life is just as good for divorced women with or without a husband who has similar or great financial resources. And women whose family will leave them a sizeable inheritance post-divorce should also disclose that. I am a professional woman with a high income and divorced. Even so, my financial situation was significantly improved when I remarried. It's simple math. Two can live better on two similarly sized nest eggs than one person on one nest egg. But then again, I didn't qualify for alimony since I earned more than enough to support myself and children after my divorce.

Why does my financial situation interest you so much? I do not get alimony. I do not have a sizeable (or any) inheritance. I do not consider doubling, tripling, or whatevering my income compensation enough to marry again.

[Anonymous]

I'm in the never remarry category and do receive alimony, but that's not the reason for my position. After being blindsided, I doubt I will ever fully trust my gut in that department. Was he particularly stealthy or did I not want to know? Either way, I never saw it coming and was devastated. I love my kids, family, and friends – that's more than enough.

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Anonymous wrote:Zero. I don’t have time I’ve been divorced for six years and I’m in my late 40s. I have a regular job and I also have a side business and I have two kids technically it’s 50-50 custody, but I’m really doing most of it. I don’t have time to date nor do I have the interest men have only complicated in my life made it terrible. When I feel like seeing someone, I see a 30 year-old, but it’s temporary and it’s just physical and yes, it is exclusive (until he finds someone he wants to marry), but I wouldn’t call it a love life.

Oh, girl. I hate to break it to you. But it is not exclusive. Not on his end, at least.

It is. He is from a conservative country and lives with his parents.

I have dated younger men. I would agree with you with anyone except this guy. He is not sleeping around. He has only had two partners. His last arrangement like this lasted 5 years.

I would like a whole thread on this, please,

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Anonymous wrote:Married to my AP. Ten years later. Not saying it was easy, any of it. But the sex is incredible.

After 10 years I would hope there's more to your relationship than great sex. Doesn't sound like it!

Can you really have great sex in a 10 year relationship without the rest being good? Luckily I don’t know the answer

Seriously. PP sounds like a bitter person.

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Anonymous wrote:Zero. I don’t have time I’ve been divorced for six years and I’m in my late 40s. I have a regular job and I also have a side business and I have two kids technically it’s 50-50 custody, but I’m really doing most of it. I don’t have time to date nor do I have the interest men have only complicated in my life made it terrible. When I feel like seeing someone, I see a 30 year-old, but it’s temporary and it’s just physical and yes, it is exclusive (until he finds someone he wants to marry), but I wouldn’t call it a love life.

Oh, girl. I hate to break it to you. But it is not exclusive. Not on his end, at least.

It is. He is from a conservative country and lives with his parents.

I have dated younger men. I would agree with you with anyone except this guy. He is not sleeping around. He has only had two partners. His last arrangement like this lasted 5 years.

His last arrangement like this? What is he, a gigolo?

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Anonymous wrote:Zero. I don’t have time I’ve been divorced for six years and I’m in my late 40s. I have a regular job and I also have a side business and I have two kids technically it’s 50-50 custody, but I’m really doing most of it. I don’t have time to date nor do I have the interest men have only complicated in my life made it terrible. When I feel like seeing someone, I see a 30 year-old, but it’s temporary and it’s just physical and yes, it is exclusive (until he finds someone he wants to marry), but I wouldn’t call it a love life.

Oh, girl. I hate to break it to you. But it is not exclusive. Not on his end, at least.

It is. He is from a conservative country and lives with his parents.

I have dated younger men. I would agree with you with anyone except this guy. He is not sleeping around. He has only had two partners. His last arrangement like this lasted 5 years.

His last arrangement like this? What is he, a gigolo?

A long term exclusive situation. That is what I mean.

[Anonymous]

46 years old, F. Divorced for 6 years. Have two teens. Love life is mostly nonexistent because I don’t try to meet anyone. I did OLD for a brief time, met a few nice guys and ended up with a boyfriend for a few years. I did not want to commit in any way to him other than exclusive sex so we eventually downgraded our relationship to FWB for a while. I then became less interested in that so now we are just friends. I’m not really interested in looking again. I’d rather do projects around my house or clean it. Lately I’ve been doing a lot of gardening. All of that sounds better than entertaining men. Plus, I have a ton of friends and my kids like me.

[Anonymous]

I love it. I am extremely financially independent and the youngest of my 3 kids is a hs junior. I am in a long term relationship with someone who also has 3 kids the same ages. We get a long great but are independent. I look forward to traveling and doing fun things with my SO in the coming years. I don't really want the day to day drudgery though so who knows how much we will end up living together. I am 50.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in the never remarry camp and do not receive alimony.

I make enough and live very comfortably. The man I've been dating is in the top 1% and I won't marry him. Living a dignified peaceful life is worth more to me than material wealth.

Same with me. No alimony. My boyfriend is fantastic and in the 0.5% income wise but meh, im good with how things are.

Top percentages for earnings but what about size? Where does homeboy stack up?

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Anonymous wrote:Zero. I don’t have time I’ve been divorced for six years and I’m in my late 40s. I have a regular job and I also have a side business and I have two kids technically it’s 50-50 custody, but I’m really doing most of it. I don’t have time to date nor do I have the interest men have only complicated in my life made it terrible. When I feel like seeing someone, I see a 30 year-old, but it’s temporary and it’s just physical and yes, it is exclusive (until he finds someone he wants to marry), but I wouldn’t call it a love life.

Oh, girl. I hate to break it to you. But it is not exclusive. Not on his end, at least.

It is. He is from a conservative country and lives with his parents.

I have dated younger men. I would agree with you with anyone except this guy. He is not sleeping around. He has only had two partners. His last arrangement like this lasted 5 years.

I would like a whole thread on this, please,

What do you mean you want a whole thread on this?

[Anonymous]

It’s great. Opened up and tried women for the first time a few years back and it was amazing. Never looked back.

[Anonymous]

Nonexistent. Still in grief over his ongoing affair. Not sure I’ll ever trust anyone again.
So busy working full-time and being a single mom, since he wanted almost no time with kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s great. Opened up and tried women for the first time a few years back and it was amazing. Never looked back.

Oh do tell.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s great. Opened up and tried women for the first time a few years back and it was amazing. Never looked back.

Oh do tell.

Please please tell where you meet hot women who want to date women ! I’m
attracted to attractive people of both genders. Most men look so old, out of shape and outright repulsive after 45! I’m not attracted to 99% of them

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s great. Opened up and tried women for the first time a few years back and it was amazing. Never looked back.

Oh do tell.

Please please tell where you meet hot women who want to date women ! I’m
attracted to attractive people of both genders. Most men look so old, out of shape and outright repulsive after 45! I’m not attracted to 99% of them

I have had a lot of luck as a woman meeting other like-minded ladies at several places. Jackson’s in Reston and Patsy’s by Tysons is a great place. I’ve walked out of patsy’s with 4 or 5 numbers on a typical Friday evening.