Divorced women - how is your love life today?

[Anonymous]

Zero. I don’t have time I’ve been divorced for six years and I’m in my late 40s. I have a regular job and I also have a side business and I have two kids technically it’s 50-50 custody, but I’m really doing most of it. I don’t have time to date nor do I have the interest men have only complicated in my life made it terrible. When I feel like seeing someone, I see a 30 year-old, but it’s temporary and it’s just physical and yes, it is exclusive (until he finds someone he wants to marry), but I wouldn’t call it a love life.

[Anonymous]

50s. Most divorced women I know didn’t remarry. The ones who did settled- a lot

[Anonymous]

Dating brings no value. It’s just another person sucking up all your energy and constantly talking about their needs.

Get a toy and travel, get hobbies, hang with friends.

When women are sick guess who cares for them … friends. Guess who supports them … friends. Guess who understands them … friends. Guess who doesn’t get annoyed by the time they spend with children and grand children… friends.

[Anonymous]

I got out of a horrific marriage (cheating, abuse) at 31 and very glad I did. I remarried in my late thirties and while we have some blended family challenges (financial, logistical) there’s a lot of love and a much better life now than I ever could have dreamed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married to my AP. Ten years later. Not saying it was easy, any of it. But the sex is incredible.

After 10 years I would hope there's more to your relationship than great sex. Doesn't sound like it!

Can you really have great sex in a 10 year relationship without the rest being good? Luckily I don’t know the answer

I’d ask the opposite: can everything else in a (romantic) relationship be good without the sex being good?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dating brings no value. It’s just another person sucking up all your energy and constantly talking about their needs.

Get a toy and travel, get hobbies, hang with friends.

When women are sick guess who cares for them … friends. Guess who supports them … friends. Guess who understands them … friends. Guess who doesn’t get annoyed by the time they spend with children and grand children… friends.

Love this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll be the odd one out. Nonexistent.

+1

Not that I'm looking yet though. I feel like I need to work on myself and improve my mental and physical health before I open myself up to dating.

I'd like to meet someone someday, but will probably just date casually for a while once I'm ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Zero. I don’t have time I’ve been divorced for six years and I’m in my late 40s. I have a regular job and I also have a side business and I have two kids technically it’s 50-50 custody, but I’m really doing most of it. I don’t have time to date nor do I have the interest men have only complicated in my life made it terrible. When I feel like seeing someone, I see a 30 year-old, but it’s temporary and it’s just physical and yes, it is exclusive (until he finds someone he wants to marry), but I wouldn’t call it a love life.

Oh, girl. I hate to break it to you. But it is not exclusive. Not on his end, at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dating brings no value. It’s just another person sucking up all your energy and constantly talking about their needs.

Get a toy and travel, get hobbies, hang with friends.

When women are sick guess who cares for them … friends. Guess who supports them … friends. Guess who understands them … friends. Guess who doesn’t get annoyed by the time they spend with children and grand children… friends.

Love this.

+1.

Not sure why other PPs are wondering why the one PP mentioned sex and sex only. What else is there that dating can offer a woman who is not looking for marriage? Other than sex, whatever dating has to offer, her friends can offer better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married to my AP. Ten years later. Not saying it was easy, any of it. But the sex is incredible.

What makes the sex with him incredobke after so long together?

[Anonymous]

I remarried (almost 60) and DH is better looking, kinder/more generous, funnier, smarter, more emotionally mature, and he even earns more than my first husband.

Neither of us has kids living at home any longer, so we don't have to spend our energy caring for anybody but one another. We have a loving and peaceful home together and we're looking forward to being retired so we can spend more time traveling and just hanging out together. My friends and family adore him for me, and the same is true on his side.

Because we both know how lucky we are to have found one another, we go out of our way to make sure the other feels cherished and loved. This is by far the healthiest and most satisfying relationship I've ever had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dating brings no value. It’s just another person sucking up all your energy and constantly talking about their needs.

Get a toy and travel, get hobbies, hang with friends.

When women are sick guess who cares for them … friends. Guess who supports them … friends. Guess who understands them … friends. Guess who doesn’t get annoyed by the time they spend with children and grand children… friends.

Love this.

+1.

Not sure why other PPs are wondering why the one PP mentioned sex and sex only. What else is there that dating can offer a woman who is not looking for marriage? Other than sex, whatever dating has to offer, her friends can offer better.

What if your bf is a great cook and takes shopping/cooking off your plate, and you are glad to never cook again? What if he fixes 90% of the broke stuff? What if he is your plus 1 to everything? What if he’s big and strong and makes you feel safe? What if you like to be picked up off the floor and lifted up into the air?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Zero. I don’t have time I’ve been divorced for six years and I’m in my late 40s. I have a regular job and I also have a side business and I have two kids technically it’s 50-50 custody, but I’m really doing most of it. I don’t have time to date nor do I have the interest men have only complicated in my life made it terrible. When I feel like seeing someone, I see a 30 year-old, but it’s temporary and it’s just physical and yes, it is exclusive (until he finds someone he wants to marry), but I wouldn’t call it a love life.

So if you don't have time for a relationship post-divorce, does that mean you didn't have time for DH while you were married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Zero. I don’t have time I’ve been divorced for six years and I’m in my late 40s. I have a regular job and I also have a side business and I have two kids technically it’s 50-50 custody, but I’m really doing most of it. I don’t have time to date nor do I have the interest men have only complicated in my life made it terrible. When I feel like seeing someone, I see a 30 year-old, but it’s temporary and it’s just physical and yes, it is exclusive (until he finds someone he wants to marry), but I wouldn’t call it a love life.

So if you don't have time for a relationship post-divorce, does that mean you didn't have time for DH while you were married?

I'm not that PP, but my life is dramatically different post-divorce. I have almost zero time now. I was a SAHM and now I work full time in an office and still do all of the kid-related stuff. Who knows what PP's life looked like. You can't just extrapolate like that, but you know that and were just going for the zinger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Zero. I don’t have time I’ve been divorced for six years and I’m in my late 40s. I have a regular job and I also have a side business and I have two kids technically it’s 50-50 custody, but I’m really doing most of it. I don’t have time to date nor do I have the interest men have only complicated in my life made it terrible. When I feel like seeing someone, I see a 30 year-old, but it’s temporary and it’s just physical and yes, it is exclusive (until he finds someone he wants to marry), but I wouldn’t call it a love life.

Oh, girl. I hate to break it to you. But it is not exclusive. Not on his end, at least.

It is. He is from a conservative country and lives with his parents.

I have dated younger men. I would agree with you with anyone except this guy. He is not sleeping around. He has only had two partners. His last arrangement like this lasted 5 years.