Do you have regrets about your Gender Reveal or any about waiting and being “Team Green”?

[Anonymous]

We waited until birth for all 3 kids. Drove our friends and family crazy, but it truly was special for us. I enjoyed dreaming of boys and girls for 9 months. I like gender reveal parties too and don’t mind attending.

[Anonymous]

We found out at ultrasound, no reveal party. I think finding out helps my DH feel more connected to the baby, it's hard being the dad and being on the outside when the mom experiences the pregnancy with the baby. Finding out the gender allows us to pick a name and use it and for whatever reason this helps DH connect.

We don't do super gendered nurseries or clothes so the sex doesn't really matter for that. It's just for picking the name and getting to know the baby a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this logic that it “helps with names.” it’s not like there are a million outcomes to prepare for? Pick a name for a girl and a name for a boy and be done.

Some people agonize over names or struggle to agree with their partner. It's easier to do this just once instead of twice.

But also I think it's nice to have the name picked out before the baby is born. I liked talking to the baby in utero using the name. It made it feel like we were already friends by the time the birth happened.

[Anonymous]

We found out.

Don't understand waiting to find out that crucial news.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We found out.

Don't understand waiting to find out that crucial news.

Crucial? How was the news of the (forever) status of a healthy babies xx or xy chromosomes crucial? Would your child have been the same gender if you didn’t get the news?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this logic that it “helps with names.” it’s not like there are a million outcomes to prepare for? Pick a name for a girl and a name for a boy and be done.

Some people agonize over names or struggle to agree with their partner. It's easier to do this just once instead of twice.

But also I think it's nice to have the name picked out before the baby is born. I liked talking to the baby in utero using the name. It made it feel like we were already friends by the time the birth happened.

Right, like your friend your son or daughter. The one you’d already named.

I found the opposite/ I wanted to get to know my baby without assigning gender norms to them even in utero. It was such a seeet time where I was the only one who “knew” them in feeling their impact on by body from near conception to feeling their kicks to being their partner in delivering them safely.

I found it to be a sweet bond without assigning gender norms to a baby who was just mine to love, before the world threw its pink or blue and various associated assumptions at them upon birth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like waiting is often something people do for attention. Given that it's so easy to know these days it feels like made up drama.

We found out and sent pink or blue flowers to the grandparents and great grandparent. They were super surprised and each called us to celebrate. It was very fun to share with them, even if long distance. We didn't do a gender reveal. If I had older kids, I'd probably do something special just with them, like pink or blue filled cupcakes after dinner.

This.

[Anonymous]

I love how we can see the world in such different ways.
I didn’t get genetic testing either. I was going to love the baby no matter what so if they had downs or if they were a boy or a girl or …..whatever…….i was just going to love them. I didn’t have their whole life dreamed out as a ballerina or a football player or whatever in my head.

I found the social trend at the time (2010 or so) was to have gender reveals, set up hashtags unique to baby, call them by name, get monogrammed things and post their pottery room “boy” nursery to the facebooks to be attention seeking.

20 weeks or 40 weeks: same result.

Frankly I find adulthood pretty tedious. Mail comes. Taxes get paid. Electric bill. Red lights.

For me- it was more fun seeing them and meeting them and finding out their sex at birth in that amazing post delivery oxytocin rush. I loved it.

I don’t diminish those who choose otherwise. But I do hope you give your kids their Christmas presents as soon as you buy them. Otherwise you’re just being dramatic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how we can see the world in such different ways.
I didn’t get genetic testing either. I was going to love the baby no matter what so if they had downs or if they were a boy or a girl or …..whatever…….i was just going to love them. I didn’t have their whole life dreamed out as a ballerina or a football player or whatever in my head.

I found the social trend at the time (2010 or so) was to have gender reveals, set up hashtags unique to baby, call them by name, get monogrammed things and post their pottery room “boy” nursery to the facebooks to be attention seeking.

20 weeks or 40 weeks: same result.

Frankly I find adulthood pretty tedious. Mail comes. Taxes get paid. Electric bill. Red lights.

For me- it was more fun seeing them and meeting them and finding out their sex at birth in that amazing post delivery oxytocin rush. I loved it.

I don’t diminish those who choose otherwise. But I do hope you give your kids their Christmas presents as soon as you buy them. Otherwise you’re just being dramatic

The passive aggression with this one. Holy cow.

[Anonymous]

Tot. Meet tat. The only name calling or psych evaluations have been bobbed against those who prefer to wait. It’s weird. Why do you care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tot. Meet tat. The only name calling or psych evaluations have been bobbed against those who prefer to wait. It’s weird. Why do you care?

Wut

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like waiting is often something people do for attention. Given that it's so easy to know these days it feels like made up drama.

We found out and sent pink or blue flowers to the grandparents and great grandparent. They were super surprised and each called us to celebrate. It was very fun to share with them, even if long distance. We didn't do a gender reveal. If I had older kids, I'd probably do something special just with them, like pink or blue filled cupcakes after dinner.

This.

really? we didn't find out, just said so when people asked, and moved on. A few people really harped on how they couldn't believe we were waiting. A gender reveal party or sending people flowers 100 % for attention, no? live and let live people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure why you finding out the sex of your child means you have to have a gender reveal party. Why can't you jut find out the sex of your baby and go on with your life like a normal person?

Because you cant make viral influencer content out of being a normal parent who finds ou the sex at the ultrasound appointment.

[Anonymous]

Fourth child .. Yeah no.

[Anonymous]

We found out at 20 weeks so we could pick a name, but that wasn't a huge issue between us. Deciding on a name was just a fun thing to do and we could tell the grandparents as part of that fun, but we didn't tell anyone else or have a gender reveal party or even worry about particular clothes. We had a ton of "boy" clothes for our girl.

The only crazy thing we did was get stationary in the baby's name, but that was because we thought it was fun, and we didn't use it until we were sending thank you notes after the birth.