Not letting mother have a plus one to wedding

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being the last married doesn’t give you less of a right to have an adults-only wedding. But any bride or groom must accept that more parents will send regrets if accommodations aren’t made for kids. More, not all.

On the matter of plus ones…yeah, it stinks. It absolutely stinks to be the child of divorce whose parents playacted a family unit at your siblings wedding and now are bored of the act when its your turn. BIL needs to have an honest discussion with his parents about how he feels, though, not throw a petulant fit.

When we got married, FIL was not yet married. MIL did not have a boyfriend back then. It isn’t like we didn’t give them a plus one. We gave everyone a plus one or I’m pretty sure people just RSVPd a plus one.

Yeah I get it— you got to have your wedding without any step parents and random partners because you got married first. Your in laws played happy families for your spouse.

It doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck for your BIL that they don’t do the same for his. Perhaps these family dynamics are why he doesn’t have a good relationship with either parent. I’d stay out of it, but maybe consider having empathy rather than scorn.

When I first heard that BIL didn’t want his parent’s significant others and some/most children not to come, I thought it was ridiculous. It has been a week and now I feel bad for both DH and BIL. The most happy day will be straining for both of them if both parents are there and be that much more stressful if the wife and boyfriend come.

In the entire time I have been with DH, I have only seen both parents together at my wedding and DH and BIL’s graduations. I have been with DH for almost 20 years. We all live in different states that requiring flying.