How to make friends who aren’t into drinking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your college kid has to ask his mommy how to make friends with kids who don't drink he has bigger problems.

Not everyone has a perfect outgoing [drinking] kid like yours! Pat yourself on the back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your college kid has to ask his mommy how to make friends with kids who don't drink he has bigger problems.

He didn't ask. He told me about the situation he's experiencing. I was hoping for some good suggestions I might pass along if he brings it up again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is at an Ivy and none of his friends drink. They play a club sport. They go to the gym, do a lot of pick up basketball, etc. Play poker, get together, etc.

This is what my kid does.

[Anonymous]

Clubs, outdoor activities, d&d and gaming groups.

Stay away from Greek life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Baptist Student Union?

Oh so different than mormons

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your college kid has to ask his mommy how to make friends with kids who don't drink he has bigger problems.

He didn't ask. He told me about the situation he's experiencing. I was hoping for some good suggestions I might pass along if he brings it up again.

Good advice to try going for the first hour, before people get drunk. Especially good if he has a friend with him who also doesn’t drink. They can go together, hang out with people for a bit, and then move on to somewhere else.

They may meet other non-drinkers this way, and those kids may move on to the next thing with them, growing their group.

This is how my friend met her husband of 30+ years. They were two non-drinkers at a fraternity/sorority mixer!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Singing club? You can't sing when you are drunk. Same for dancing club.

Anything related to healthy lifestyles, hiking, rockclimbing.

You think people who go hiking don’t get drunk? I’d ask you to meet most New England lacs.

This. I was talking to a friend and they all get high before hiking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS has noted that all the social events for incoming freshmen have revolved around drinking. He’s not really into that (yet). He’s wondering how to meet other guys who aren’t into it.

Don’t say “the Mormons” because we’re not Mormons. 😃

Only need to make Mormon friends. You don’t have to be Mormon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Board Games. We would stay up until 2 AM playing Catan and Risk.

My kid and his friends workout, club sport, pick up basketball and lots of late night poker games.

He did not have any big Greek or big football drinking schools on his list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get into weed.

Big link to schizophrenia now in kids that do it a lot before age 20. Weed today is different than weed pre-2000.0

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Alcohol culture is pervasive in our country. Pps are not concerned whatsoever about minors drinking/being drunk/not fitting in due to not drinking. It's sad, really, and sets these kids up for a lifetime of alcohol dependence for social and professional life.

Kids in the HS/college demographic are drinking significantly less than prior generations. My 17 and 20 year old don’t drink. Older one is an athlete and health obsessed. Even in Europe now where he could legally drink - still doesn’t.

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Anonymous wrote:You still attend the drinking events

You stand and sip. Sip whatever, non alcoholic if you want. No one cares.

Be social

+1 My kid is very social and still doesn’t drink. He’s usually designated driver for college friends in the summer.

We had two teen drunk driving deaths at our high school recently. Thank goodness for the safe drivers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Board Games. We would stay up until 2 AM playing Catan and Risk.

My kid and his friends workout, club sport, pick up basketball and lots of late night poker games.

He did not have any big Greek or big football drinking schools on his list.

My kid would hang out w your kid !

[Anonymous]

Clubs.

[Anonymous]

gaming, volunteering and similar clubs
my DS is in the same boat.