Son moved out, started lifting… now he’s huge. Not sure I like it.

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As a parent, if there's such a big change in a short period of time, I'd be concerned about juicing, 'roids, HGH, and a bunch of other things.

My 20 year old is ripped. But it's lean muscle from his insane workouts and running. It's hard to get bulk and super big at that age unless you are willfully supplementing with crap.

Do a little deep dive into the effects of all these supplements - tiny balls, low sperm count, performance issues, rage, mood disorders. And really explain it to him.

Tell him to be clean, because the costs are really high if he's not.

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Anonymous wrote:Your son voted for Trump.

NP here and OP, my son is younger than yours (still in college) but I've noticed the same thing.

I see no problem with any of this, and absolutely he voted for Trump. So did I, by the way.

It's much better than the video game crowd.

OP here, thanks for the decent response. Yes, I agree that this is better than him being addicted to sports betting or video games.

I find the Trump comments funny because yes he did vote for him but so did myself and my husband. My husband is 5'11' and 200lbs and isn't out of shape, I guess I can see the genetics things but its just crazy seeing him get that big. He is not using supplements and does not look like he uses supplements (you can usually tell). He eats tons of food (which I'm happy to serve him when he visits).

So where do all of you deplorables live? Clearly not in the DMV.

I’m in NW DC. You, OP?

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The bulking doesn’t make much sense to me unless you are an actual athlete.

My 6’3” actual college athlete kid on a strict training routine wants to maintain at around 200-205 based on the college trainer advice.

[Anonymous]

Can someone explain supplements to avoid and are those the same or different than steroids?

[Anonymous]

This is a perfect example of how mothers hate their own sons. He is getting into good shape and taking care of himself. Lifting weights helps build self confidence which I bet OP hates. She has probably been undermining him his entire life.

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6'1 and 225 isn't that huge - not like some of the more grotesque body builder physiques.

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If my 20 year old is buying his own clothes and taking care of himself, I wouldn’t say a word. But I’m not one to comment on appearances in general.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a perfect example of how mothers hate their own sons. He is getting into good shape and taking care of himself. Lifting weights helps build self confidence which I bet OP hates. She has probably been undermining him his entire life.

Well OP is a Trump voter, so she’d probably prefer if he was a fat, orange, incoherent rapist.

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Anonymous wrote:My brother did this in his 20s. He was huge. Then he decided that the cost of food and extra big clothes was too expensive. He stopped bulking and slimmed down some, not a ton, but some.

The tipping point for my brother was when he had to get a custom shirt and suit for a wedding because his neck was the size of most people's waist. It was $$$$. Just ridiculous.

This is what my son (college senior) is facing. He's 6'4" and 280. Hr also is having trouble finding a spotter when he benches 315.

He must be able to bench more than 315 if he is that weight and it’s muscle.

I mean…I am a relatively old man (42) at 200 and I can do 5 reps at 300.

I guess if he’s doing 20 reps.

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That son of yours is dopin’ up on roids. Eww

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Anonymous wrote:6'1" and 225lbs with him not being fat is impressive. Maybe give yourself some credit for good genetics (unless he is abusing supplements) and lay off of him.

Yeah this isn't even a problem. You want him to stay permanently 18, not going to happen.

Also your son 100% voted Trump lol.

I dont think this is necessarily true. Weight lifting is a huge thing with the sporty kids and young men right now. They’re all doing it. Many are also taking creatine and other supplements. That part isn’t great but the lifting as a hobby isn’t tied to any political ideology, except that they are jocks or wannabe jocks. And it does seem that girls like it better.

Sorry but OP said it IS true. The whole family voted for the idiot. They live in Loudoun and I’m sure they’re thrilled with the federal takeover of DC.

Where is that in her post? I can’t find it. Was it deleted?

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Anonymous wrote:I know kids change a lot in their 20s, but this one really caught me off guard.

My son is 25 and doing great. He’s got a solid job in his field, just moved out with a good friend from high school, and seems happy. Since moving out, he’s been working out a ton (5–6 days a week, lifting heavy) and eating a lot. He says he’s “bulking” before leaning out.

He’s always been lean and athletic, but now he’s built like a linebacker. The last time he was home I found out he’s 6’1” and about 225 lbs. He still dresses well, takes care of himself, and it’s not like he’s let himself go. It’s just a lot more mass than I’m used to.

I think part of my reaction is that I’m so used to seeing him as my lean, wiry kid. It’s a big mental adjustment to see him looking like a pro football player. I’ve made a few comments to him about it, but he just laughs and says he’s fine. My husband thinks I’m overreacting and actually says it’s impressive, so I’m the odd one out here.

It’s not that I think he’s unhealthy, it’s more that I’m surprised at how much he’s changed in such a short time. Has anyone else been caught off guard by their adult kids’ appearance changing, especially when it’s not related to anything bad, just… different? How did you get used to it?

Is he using steroids? That would be my concern. Haven’t read other replies.

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I think he’s probably gay. Doing that starting at 25 years old screams gay guy to me.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of male fitness influencers are also MAGA which is why this happened and people are making the connection. Fitness is just popular now in general.

A lot of male fitness influencers are also gay... and not Republican!

Fitness has been popular for a while, nothing to do with MAGA....

Increased strength is associated with right-wing views. Gym bros did not vote for Harris.

As for OP, good for your son. No idea why you'd think his taking charge of his physique is bad.

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Anonymous wrote:The OPs son probably gets increased attention from women after bulking up and its making Mom mad that shes no longer the center of his attention LOL

+1

Imagine if the roles were reversed? “I went to college and my mom got fat. It caught me off guard.”