Son moved out, started lifting… now he’s huge. Not sure I like it.

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Anonymous wrote:6'1" and 225lbs with him not being fat is impressive. Maybe give yourself some credit for good genetics (unless he is abusing supplements) and lay off of him.

Yeah this isn't even a problem. You want him to stay permanently 18, not going to happen.

Also your son 100% voted Trump lol.

I dont think this is necessarily true. Weight lifting is a huge thing with the sporty kids and young men right now. They’re all doing it. Many are also taking creatine and other supplements. That part isn’t great but the lifting as a hobby isn’t tied to any political ideology, except that they are jocks or wannabe jocks. And it does seem that girls like it better.

Sorry but OP said it IS true. The whole family voted for the idiot. They live in Loudoun and I’m sure they’re thrilled with the federal takeover of DC.

Where is that in her post? I can’t find it. Was it deleted?

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Anonymous wrote:I know kids change a lot in their 20s, but this one really caught me off guard.

My son is 25 and doing great. He’s got a solid job in his field, just moved out with a good friend from high school, and seems happy. Since moving out, he’s been working out a ton (5–6 days a week, lifting heavy) and eating a lot. He says he’s “bulking” before leaning out.

He’s always been lean and athletic, but now he’s built like a linebacker. The last time he was home I found out he’s 6’1” and about 225 lbs. He still dresses well, takes care of himself, and it’s not like he’s let himself go. It’s just a lot more mass than I’m used to.

I think part of my reaction is that I’m so used to seeing him as my lean, wiry kid. It’s a big mental adjustment to see him looking like a pro football player. I’ve made a few comments to him about it, but he just laughs and says he’s fine. My husband thinks I’m overreacting and actually says it’s impressive, so I’m the odd one out here.

It’s not that I think he’s unhealthy, it’s more that I’m surprised at how much he’s changed in such a short time. Has anyone else been caught off guard by their adult kids’ appearance changing, especially when it’s not related to anything bad, just… different? How did you get used to it?

Is he using steroids? That would be my concern. Haven’t read other replies.

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I think he’s probably gay. Doing that starting at 25 years old screams gay guy to me.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of male fitness influencers are also MAGA which is why this happened and people are making the connection. Fitness is just popular now in general.

A lot of male fitness influencers are also gay... and not Republican!

Fitness has been popular for a while, nothing to do with MAGA....

Increased strength is associated with right-wing views. Gym bros did not vote for Harris.

As for OP, good for your son. No idea why you'd think his taking charge of his physique is bad.

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Anonymous wrote:The OPs son probably gets increased attention from women after bulking up and its making Mom mad that shes no longer the center of his attention LOL

+1

Imagine if the roles were reversed? “I went to college and my mom got fat. It caught me off guard.”

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s gay

This made me lol - thank you

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s gay

This made me lol - thank you

Me too! LOL

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Either gay or maga.

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It’s totally normal and you’ll adjust. I have teen boys and getting jacked is a normal part of their vocabulary. It has nothing to do with any political party. It’s very much a part of their social influencers. Creatine is popular so steroids might not be at play.

He won’t be able to maintain it for forever. It takes constant work and attention so as soon as that slips, he’ll go back to his baseline, which also sounds healthy.

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Anonymous wrote:I know kids change a lot in their 20s, but this one really caught me off guard.

My son is 25 and doing great. He’s got a solid job in his field, just moved out with a good friend from high school, and seems happy. Since moving out, he’s been working out a ton (5–6 days a week, lifting heavy) and eating a lot. He says he’s “bulking” before leaning out.

He’s always been lean and athletic, but now he’s built like a linebacker. The last time he was home I found out he’s 6’1” and about 225 lbs. He still dresses well, takes care of himself, and it’s not like he’s let himself go. It’s just a lot more mass than I’m used to.

I think part of my reaction is that I’m so used to seeing him as my lean, wiry kid. It’s a big mental adjustment to see him looking like a pro football player. I’ve made a few comments to him about it, but he just laughs and says he’s fine. My husband thinks I’m overreacting and actually says it’s impressive, so I’m the odd one out here.

It’s not that I think he’s unhealthy, it’s more that I’m surprised at how much he’s changed in such a short time. Has anyone else been caught off guard by their adult kids’ appearance changing, especially when it’s not related to anything bad, just… different? How did you get used to it?

Get your husband to bulk out, too and see what you think then.

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Anonymous wrote:The OPs son probably gets increased attention from women after bulking up and its making Mom mad that shes no longer the center of his attention LOL

This. God forbid a man try to pick up a woman who isn't his mother.

OP chill. Your lean wiry kid isn't gonna pick up strange at the bars in Clarendon. Which is almost assuredly what he's trying to do.