Disagreement over breast implants

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

Complications can lead to death or not being able to be an active participant in your childrens lives. Why are you discounting that elective surgeries have a lot of risks?

You’re still not answering the question. Why are you engaging in irresponsible fear mongering?

[Anonymous]

Women with breast augmentations have a higher risk of suicide, cancer and general complications needing more surgery (and thus more risks). All because you wanted bigger boobs? Too many women afraid their husbands will leave them if their bodies don't "bounce back" so they go under the knife. So sad that we cant just encourage self esteem in grown women the way we do with children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

Complications can lead to death or not being able to be an active participant in your childrens lives. Why are you discounting that elective surgeries have a lot of risks?

You’re still not answering the question. Why are you engaging in irresponsible fear mongering?

irresponsible fear mongering? Wtf? If you don't want to hear the potential downsides of vanity surgery that's fine, but no need to derail the thread with your pro-fake boob narrative.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife wanted them, I was reluctant to insert myself into the decision as I both thought I'd enjoy them (and thus self-interested) and was concerned about the risks. Also in case she decided against I never wanted her to think her current body was displeasing.

She was adamant and it worked out well.

Yeah I think the DH can never good give a good answer beyond “whatever you want, dear.”

Your kids will tell everyone, just FYI. A neighbor got hers done (into a B cup) after having four kids and it was all we could talk about for months. And her kids made sure to mention it when meeting new people a decade later.

False! Keep kids outta' grown up - adult conversations and business and they won't.

You really think kids are that dumb? C'mon now. They know when mommy gets surgery and can't lift anything for months.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy because we know they make you sick. Best case they just cause inflammation throughout your body. Also, fake boobs look fake no matter where they are placed or how small they are. Team DH.

This. No fake boobs look real. And your body will treat them as the foreign substance they are. Gravity will continue to work, resulting in the need for additional surgeries to keep lifting/replacing.

Just love your damn body. Your spouse does. You can too. It's pathetic that women feel the need to cut themselves apart to "feel better". Feeling better is a choice you can make right now, with respect for the body you have.

You don't owe the world some kind of stupid beauty ideal.

Yes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

Complications can lead to death or not being able to be an active participant in your childrens lives. Why are you discounting that elective surgeries have a lot of risks?

You’re still not answering the question. Why are you engaging in irresponsible fear mongering?

irresponsible fear mongering? Wtf? If you don't want to hear the potential downsides of vanity surgery that's fine, but no need to derail the thread with your pro-fake boob narrative.

You're talking about the "risk of leaving your kids motherless" without any data whatsoever on what this risk actually is. Seems pretty irresponsible to me. Most things in life have risks. I run multiple mornings each week, mostly so my body will continue to look good. Runners get hit by cars every day of the week. I bet the chances of that are higher than dying from a breast implant procedure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

Complications can lead to death or not being able to be an active participant in your childrens lives. Why are you discounting that elective surgeries have a lot of risks?

You’re still not answering the question. Why are you engaging in irresponsible fear mongering?

irresponsible fear mongering? Wtf? If you don't want to hear the potential downsides of vanity surgery that's fine, but no need to derail the thread with your pro-fake boob narrative.

You're talking about the "risk of leaving your kids motherless" without any data whatsoever on what this risk actually is. Seems pretty irresponsible to me. Most things in life have risks. I run multiple mornings each week, mostly so my body will continue to look good. Runners get hit by cars every day of the week. I bet the chances of that are higher than dying from a breast implant procedure.

Err ok. Glad you like your fake boobs and congrats on running?? Not sure the point of this post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think vanity is worth the risk of leaving your kids motherless.

What percentage of women who get breast implants die from the procedure?

30% experience complications.

Complications are not death. You cited the risk of leaving the kids motherless. So again, what percentage of women die?

Complications can lead to death or not being able to be an active participant in your childrens lives. Why are you discounting that elective surgeries have a lot of risks?

You’re still not answering the question. Why are you engaging in irresponsible fear mongering?

irresponsible fear mongering? Wtf? If you don't want to hear the potential downsides of vanity surgery that's fine, but no need to derail the thread with your pro-fake boob narrative.

You're talking about the "risk of leaving your kids motherless" without any data whatsoever on what this risk actually is. Seems pretty irresponsible to me. Most things in life have risks. I run multiple mornings each week, mostly so my body will continue to look good. Runners get hit by cars every day of the week. I bet the chances of that are higher than dying from a breast implant procedure.

Err ok. Glad you like your fake boobs and congrats on running?? Not sure the point of this post.

I don't have implants. The point is to call out people like you who make ridiculous unsupported claims.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally would never do it. It’s a major surgery and they have to be redone every 10 years. I would be upset if my dh did an elective surgery and I had to pick up all the slack while he recovered.

I wonder if this is the root of his issue? She wont be able to do much of anything for a few months. But at least she'll have nice shiny new boobs!

[Anonymous]

They won't make your DH more desirous of you. And you'll have to be embarrassed about them if you get a new partner someday. Especially because you will eventually need to have them removed. So, you know, have fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife wanted them, I was reluctant to insert myself into the decision as I both thought I'd enjoy them (and thus self-interested) and was concerned about the risks. Also in case she decided against I never wanted her to think her current body was displeasing.

She was adamant and it worked out well.

Yeah I think the DH can never good give a good answer beyond “whatever you want, dear.”

Your kids will tell everyone, just FYI. A neighbor got hers done (into a B cup) after having four kids and it was all we could talk about for months. And her kids made sure to mention it when meeting new people a decade later.

False! Keep kids outta' grown up - adult conversations and business and they won't.

So you're gonna lie to your kids about why you can't lift anything for months?

Sooooo what else do you share with your minor age kids?
Tell us how your kids BLAB all your family business and embarrass you to everyone on a regular.

You have problems. There's a massive gap between lying to your kids about the elective surgery you chose to have, and whatever it is you're alleging here. I wouldn't lie to my kids about having surgery. Maybe you would.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're 48. Get a good bra. Not worth messing with your overall health for this.

I sort of wish I'd gotten mine done at 35, but now I'm 53 and let's just say the importance of looking cute naked has gone down for me.

But glad I don't have another thing in my life to be worried about health-wise. Also, not a great example for my daughter. (My mom got implants when I was a teenager, and it was weird and made me judge her and my own situation differently - which is probably why I didn't do it.)

This is often underlooked as a side effect of these surgeries. We spend so much time teaching our children (daughters especially) that their worth is not in their looks and their body. That they don't need to alter their body to appeal to other people. So what kind of message does it send when they see their parents doing all sorts of different surgeries to alter themselves to make them more attractive to other people? It's totally backwards.

Personally, I think a one off surgery to correct something you dislike is ok and can be rationalized, but I do think about this with people who are constantly going under the knife and tweaking themselves in an endless pursuit of some kind of perfection. I always think about this looking at pics of Ivanka with her constantly changing face and body. Poor Arabella looks a lot like her originally before the gazillion surgeries and has to be getting the message that's totally unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife wanted them, I was reluctant to insert myself into the decision as I both thought I'd enjoy them (and thus self-interested) and was concerned about the risks. Also in case she decided against I never wanted her to think her current body was displeasing.

She was adamant and it worked out well.

Yeah I think the DH can never good give a good answer beyond “whatever you want, dear.”

Your kids will tell everyone, just FYI. A neighbor got hers done (into a B cup) after having four kids and it was all we could talk about for months. And her kids made sure to mention it when meeting new people a decade later.

False! Keep kids outta' grown up - adult conversations and business and they won't.

So you're gonna lie to your kids about why you can't lift anything for months?

Sooooo what else do you share with your minor age kids?
Tell us how your kids BLAB all your family business and embarrass you to everyone on a regular.

You have problems. There's a massive gap between lying to your kids about the elective surgery you chose to have, and whatever it is you're alleging here. I wouldn't lie to my kids about having surgery. Maybe you would.

Bet you'd lie to those kid about remaining in that unhappy marriage though.

[Anonymous]

Plastic surgery should be treated like the obvious sign of mental disorders it obviously is. Nobody with a healthy relationship to their own meatsuit wants to cut it apart. While we may fall victim to the narrative of what's "beautiful" and realize that none of us will ever meet it, no normal person wants to risk scars, pain, further disfigurement, and possibly death just to look a little bit better. It's not normal. It has been normalized, or at least some people have tried to normalize it, but it's not normal.

Correcting dysfunction or true disfigurement is a perfectly legitimate use of plastic surgery. Inflating T&A is vanity, and many people suffer serious consequences for these procedures. In the time it takes a human body to recover from a surgical procedure, and for far less expense, the average human mind can be retrained to reject commercialize beauty standards and appreciate natural diversity.

If it ain't broke...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife wanted them, I was reluctant to insert myself into the decision as I both thought I'd enjoy them (and thus self-interested) and was concerned about the risks. Also in case she decided against I never wanted her to think her current body was displeasing.

She was adamant and it worked out well.

Yeah I think the DH can never good give a good answer beyond “whatever you want, dear.”

Your kids will tell everyone, just FYI. A neighbor got hers done (into a B cup) after having four kids and it was all we could talk about for months. And her kids made sure to mention it when meeting new people a decade later.

False! Keep kids outta' grown up - adult conversations and business and they won't.

So you're gonna lie to your kids about why you can't lift anything for months?

Sooooo what else do you share with your minor age kids?
Tell us how your kids BLAB all your family business and embarrass you to everyone on a regular.

You have problems. There's a massive gap between lying to your kids about the elective surgery you chose to have, and whatever it is you're alleging here. I wouldn't lie to my kids about having surgery. Maybe you would.

Bet you'd lie to those kid about remaining in that unhappy marriage though.

Bet you'd make up any derail to avoid facing the fact that you're flagrantly wrong, eh? What a clown!