Which Top 20 has the right vibe for a social but smart non drinker kid?

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t think my kids drank in High School. I don’t know if my parents were aware that I did. Is it the kid’s desire to not drink in college, or the parent’s projection?

Since the OP wants "non woke" and non drinking, I assume this is the parents projection.

[Anonymous]

I dont know kids who care about the "woke thing", but if you're worried about pronouns, it's just not that big of a deal. Really, you kid can live using his preferred he/him pronouns and everyone will be fine with it. If you're worried about gay people being in the dorms .. yeah, you're too late. You were ALWAYS too late.

[Anonymous]

How about Biola or Liberty U?

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Anonymous wrote:What do you consider to be a woke vibe, OP? Please define what your kid is trying to avoid.

Columbus

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you consider to be a woke vibe, OP? Please define what your kid is trying to avoid.

Columbus

Auto correct - Columbia

[Anonymous]

Based on what I have seen over the last 15 years, drinking among incoming college students is down significantly. Not completely obviously, but I think more and more schools will be a good fit for a nondrinker.

The schools such as Bucknell that have a huge Greek system influence will still be a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:CMU

Not T20

[Anonymous]

What do you consider to be a woke vibe, OP? Please define what your kid is trying to avoid.

Not OP, but I assume anti-semitic protesters dressed as furries and simulating s3x acts (i.e., Columbia).

And yes, that really happened.

[Anonymous]

“My kid doesn’t drink . . .”

Said one million parents, 99.9 percent of whom know their kids less than they think they do.

[Anonymous]

Notre Dame

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I didn't drink in college and still don't. I just don't like it, but no judgement at all for those who do.

I don't think drinking should matter to their choice of school. Alcohol exists in the real world and you just have to learn to deal with it in whatever environment you're in. It's not that big a deal. Go to parties. Have fun. Hold a cup. Leave before it gets too sloppy. No big deal. At any school that's not tiny, your child will find their people. All of my friends drank in college but it wasn't their entire personality or social life.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't drink in college and still don't. I just don't like it, but no judgement at all for those who do.

I don't think drinking should matter to their choice of school. Alcohol exists in the real world and you just have to learn to deal with it in whatever environment you're in. It's not that big a deal. Go to parties. Have fun. Hold a cup. Leave before it gets too sloppy. No big deal. At any school that's not tiny, your child will find their people. All of my friends drank in college but it wasn't their entire personality or social life.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Kid is extremely bright, likes to have fun, gets along with everyone but is not into the bro culture. Looking for colleges that don’t have a strong woke vibe where your social life and options won’t be impacted by not drinking.

Curious when you guys say you want to avoid a strong woke vibe if that means you don’t ever want to be confronted with the existence of racism, systemic or otherwise, misogyny, etc., or do you want to be in an environment where you can casually drop the N word without any fear of pushback? Just wondering.

Probably wants freedom of thought where there is not an enforced orthodoxy.

Oh, my bad. I must be overreacting to the outlawing of so-called DEI initiatives, programs and scholarship at institutions across the country. That seems more like enforced orthodoxy to me than the kid giving the college tour who introduces themselves with pronouns. But yes, your kid should feel butthurt if the ladies don’t want to hear about the Fountainhead. Mind you, the primary question of this thread is a question about inclusion- the I in DEI. You can’t even see that hypocrisy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont know kids who care about the "woke thing", but if you're worried about pronouns, it's just not that big of a deal. Really, you kid can live using his preferred he/him pronouns and everyone will be fine with it. If you're worried about gay people being in the dorms .. yeah, you're too late. You were ALWAYS too late.

Let me guess, you live in the DMV bubble. Haven't you read any polls? Gen Z is extremely anti-woke.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont know kids who care about the "woke thing", but if you're worried about pronouns, it's just not that big of a deal. Really, you kid can live using his preferred he/him pronouns and everyone will be fine with it. If you're worried about gay people being in the dorms .. yeah, you're too late. You were ALWAYS too late.

Let me guess, you live in the DMV bubble. Haven't you read any polls? Gen Z is extremely anti-woke.

I live in nyc. what can "anti-woke" possibly mean in real terms that impact people.

I know some people really hate those half a dozen athletes so much they've made it their whole personality.. But beyond that? We really taking away gay marriage? Because that's actually extremely anti-woke. It's not pronouns people.