GF asked me to take her to a strip club

[Anonymous]

She is trash, get away and cut contact. Try to meet someone quality next time.

[Anonymous]

I went to strip clubs a few times in my twenties/early thirties. They are seedy, but the girls look beautiful. I went to one that seemed like a straight up brothel - in Miami on my honeymoon, lol - but otherwise enjoyed them. (I am married to a man but am bisexual.) I’m nearly 40 now and have no interest in going to any strip clubs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does one "keep walking by a couple of strip clubs?"

In any case, it's interesting that your gf kept bringing this up though you were uncomfortable with the idea. Why didn't she just go with her friends? Seems like she's not ready to fully explore her sexuality and she's trying to tell you something.

I don't know about a couple...but of course there is the Good Guys strip club in Glover Park DC which is right next to the Whole Foods, Guy Mason Park, etc.

It seems very out-of-place, but if you live in that area you would walk by it all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does one "keep walking by a couple of strip clubs?"

In any case, it's interesting that your gf kept bringing this up though you were uncomfortable with the idea. Why didn't she just go with her friends? Seems like she's not ready to fully explore her sexuality and she's trying to tell you something.

I don't know about a couple...but of course there is the Good Guys strip club in Glover Park DC which is right next to the Whole Foods, Guy Mason Park, etc.

It seems very out-of-place, but if you live in that area you would walk by it all the time.

A lot of the DC strip clubs are places you'd walk past. Camelot and mPire are both on M Street by office buildings, Archibald's is downtown on K, whatever the new name for the spot at Connecticut and Florida. They're not out of the way.

[Anonymous]

Strip clubs are seen as spaces where traditional gender roles are played out, with men as the primary customers and women as the primary performers, often in a way that reinforces male dominance and female subservience. Why would any decent man or woman would want to support it?

[Anonymous]

The very nature of strip clubs involves the display and commodification of female bodies, reducing women to their physical attributes and sexual performance, which can be seen as a form of objectification and exploitation.

Men who go there aren't respectful of women outside the club either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Strip clubs are seen as spaces where traditional gender roles are played out, with men as the primary customers and women as the primary performers, often in a way that reinforces male dominance and female subservience. Why would any decent man or woman would want to support it?

Because sex sells? JFC it's not rocket science.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Strip clubs are seen as spaces where traditional gender roles are played out, with men as the primary customers and women as the primary performers, often in a way that reinforces male dominance and female subservience. Why would any decent man or woman would want to support it?

Since this post is about a woman wanting to go, you've basically answered your own question. It's subversive. By inverting the traditional gender norm aspects, it inverts the power dynamics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The very nature of strip clubs involves the display and commodification of female bodies, reducing women to their physical attributes and sexual performance, which can be seen as a form of objectification and exploitation.

Men who go there aren't respectful of women outside the club either.

In this instance, it was a woman who wanted to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The very nature of strip clubs involves the display and commodification of female bodies, reducing women to their physical attributes and sexual performance, which can be seen as a form of objectification and exploitation.

Men who go there aren't respectful of women outside the club either.

Honestly, men in the club are way more respectful than men on the street, mostly because there are other men there who are paid to make sure there's no BS.

It's almost like men policing other men's behavior works...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The very nature of strip clubs involves the display and commodification of female bodies, reducing women to their physical attributes and sexual performance, which can be seen as a form of objectification and exploitation.

Men who go there aren't respectful of women outside the club either.

In this instance, it was a woman who wanted to go.

Yes but mainly women are there to serve and men to pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The very nature of strip clubs involves the display and commodification of female bodies, reducing women to their physical attributes and sexual performance, which can be seen as a form of objectification and exploitation.

Men who go there aren't respectful of women outside the club either.

Honestly, men in the club are way more respectful than men on the street, mostly because there are other men there who are paid to make sure there's no BS.

It's almost like men policing other men's behavior works...

Yes but mental impact of seeing women as subservient sex objects stays with them even after they leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's probably bi.

Or not. There may be something else at work here.

Two of my long-term ex GFs both had had part time jobs during university as art class models (yes, nude models). This respectable employment has nothing whatsoever in common with women employed by strip clubs,

- other than being nude in front of strangers.

Both my exes really wanted to be naked in front of other people. It’s not unusual; in Europe and the USA, there are all sorts of “clothing optional” venues for people; even families. And that’s totally fine for those people.

But coming back to OP: both my exes made me take them to strip clubs. Both were straight; now both happily married with kid(s).

Don’t read too much into her desires; just be considerate, run with them, and enjoy each other as you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The very nature of strip clubs involves the display and commodification of female bodies, reducing women to their physical attributes and sexual performance, which can be seen as a form of objectification and exploitation.

Men who go there aren't respectful of women outside the club either.

Honestly, men in the club are way more respectful than men on the street, mostly because there are other men there who are paid to make sure there's no BS.

It's almost like men policing other men's behavior works...

Yes but mental impact of seeing women as subservient sex objects stays with them even after they leave.

This is far from the only place where that dynamic exists. The vast majority of all cultural programming promotes this trope. Acting like it's a big deal in one of few places where women have the agency to choose to participate for pay is a bit much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The very nature of strip clubs involves the display and commodification of female bodies, reducing women to their physical attributes and sexual performance, which can be seen as a form of objectification and exploitation.

Men who go there aren't respectful of women outside the club either.

I wouldn't want my wife, girlfriend or daughter dancing at a strip club for the reasons listed in the first paragraph--plus they seem gross--but I've noticed that some of the women dancing seem to be controlling and manipulating the men, not the other way around.