Would you refuse to date someone based on their first name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my father was born he got named Sheldon. After a few months his name got changed to something else. My mother said she never would have married him had his name stayed Sheldon. Do/did you ever automatically dismiss anyone just based on their first name?

No. My late husband and every other man I’ve seriously dated have had what I call old man names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a POC with a very ethnic name. I love it! So unique and interesting.

Lotta racists outing themselves in the comments here lol.

Ok, here's one just for you .... Mohammed, hard pass. Not a chance.

What?! How about Moe? 🙄

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM doesn't hesitate to pump out babies with abusive losers and unmediated mental health cases.

But first names? We're drawing the line at first names.

Would you marry and Adolf?

Does Adolf display all the criteria of being a good husband and father, including the intention to change his name to something not "Adolf" like a sane person? Yes I'd consider it.

Is Adolf a genocide committing psychopath? No, because I'd never be able to compete with all the DCUM women trying to have children with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No but I definitely considered last name. I didn't want to be Mrs Butt for example.

I grew up with friends with the last name Butts. For the longest time my friend understandably hated her last name (her twin brother owned it proudly). By the time we were in college she'd decided she didn't want to change it when she got married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a POC with a very ethnic name. I love it! So unique and interesting.

Lotta racists outing themselves in the comments here lol.

Ok, here's one just for you .... Mohammed, hard pass. Not a chance.

So ignorant? Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend Nimrod has been single for years. This could be why!

I would love to meet someone named Nimrod!

Lotta racists and shallow people on this thread.

I know two Brandys who are very accomplished, wonderful people. I used to date a sexy Ernest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a POC with a very ethnic name. I love it! So unique and interesting.

Lotta racists outing themselves in the comments here lol.

Ok, here's one just for you .... Mohammed, hard pass. Not a chance.

So ignorant? Why?

Most women outside of that religion/culture do not want to marry into that religion/culture. The ones who do are the ignorant ones!

[Anonymous]

Only if they had the same first name as my dad and refused to go by a nickname. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a POC with a very ethnic name. I love it! So unique and interesting.

Lotta racists outing themselves in the comments here lol.

Ok, here's one just for you .... Mohammed, hard pass. Not a chance.

So ignorant? Why?

Most women outside of that religion/culture do not want to marry into that religion/culture. The ones who do are the ignorant ones!

Some more bigotry from you. Not because you don't want to marry a Muslim man (though I know plenty of Mohammeds who are not Muslim) but because you are calling women who do ignorant.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't date someone with the same name as either of my children, I just think it would be weird. For the same reason I probably would not date someone with the same name as my sibling or my parents.

[Anonymous]

My best friend married a widower whose deceased wife's name was Denise. My friend's name was also Denise. That was a big weird I have to admit. I remember one time I accompanied her to the State FArm office because she needed to get on his insurance. She brought all of the paperwork with her and said she needed to take Denise Smith off and add Denise Smith to the policy. The look she got from the lady was half confusion, half anger because she couldn't decide if were were messing with her. His kids also hated her for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date someone with the same name as either of my children, I just think it would be weird. For the same reason I probably would not date someone with the same name as my sibling or my parents.

Edit: I read the post and thought it meant any name and then I saw the subject said last name. I don't think a last name would affect my choice of whether to date someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date someone with the same name as either of my children, I just think it would be weird. For the same reason I probably would not date someone with the same name as my sibling or my parents.

What if your child, sibling or parent legally changed their name to the name of your fiance or spouse?

If you're ending the relationship over this, that's crazy. If you're not ending the relationship over this, why let it prevent you from starting the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date someone with the same name as either of my children, I just think it would be weird. For the same reason I probably would not date someone with the same name as my sibling or my parents.

What if your child, sibling or parent legally changed their name to the name of your fiance or spouse?

If you're ending the relationship over this, that's crazy. If you're not ending the relationship over this, why let it prevent you from starting the relationship?

That would be really weird and I just don't see that ever happening.

To be honest, when I hear the name of my children I fondly think about my children. Obviously they are not the only ones in the world with that name but I don't interact with very many people that have that name and when I do, I smile a little and think of my children which isn't what I want to do with someone I'm dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date someone with the same name as either of my children, I just think it would be weird. For the same reason I probably would not date someone with the same name as my sibling or my parents.

What if your child, sibling or parent legally changed their name to the name of your fiance or spouse?

If you're ending the relationship over this, that's crazy. If you're not ending the relationship over this, why let it prevent you from starting the relationship?

That would be really weird and I just don't see that ever happening.

To be honest, when I hear the name of my children I fondly think about my children. Obviously they are not the only ones in the world with that name but I don't interact with very many people that have that name and when I do, I smile a little and think of my children which isn't what I want to do with someone I'm dating.

Oh sorry, I want to add a little more to your question. Yes, it would be super weird if it happens but it's also not the same. I remember them as babies with their names so when I hear that name I think of all the fond memories collectively from raising them. It wouldn't be the same if they changed their name to my spouse's name because there wouldn't be a history with that name.