Would you refuse to date someone based on their first name?

[Anonymous]

My best friend married a widower whose deceased wife's name was Denise. My friend's name was also Denise. That was a big weird I have to admit. I remember one time I accompanied her to the State FArm office because she needed to get on his insurance. She brought all of the paperwork with her and said she needed to take Denise Smith off and add Denise Smith to the policy. The look she got from the lady was half confusion, half anger because she couldn't decide if were were messing with her. His kids also hated her for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date someone with the same name as either of my children, I just think it would be weird. For the same reason I probably would not date someone with the same name as my sibling or my parents.

Edit: I read the post and thought it meant any name and then I saw the subject said last name. I don't think a last name would affect my choice of whether to date someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date someone with the same name as either of my children, I just think it would be weird. For the same reason I probably would not date someone with the same name as my sibling or my parents.

What if your child, sibling or parent legally changed their name to the name of your fiance or spouse?

If you're ending the relationship over this, that's crazy. If you're not ending the relationship over this, why let it prevent you from starting the relationship?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date someone with the same name as either of my children, I just think it would be weird. For the same reason I probably would not date someone with the same name as my sibling or my parents.

What if your child, sibling or parent legally changed their name to the name of your fiance or spouse?

If you're ending the relationship over this, that's crazy. If you're not ending the relationship over this, why let it prevent you from starting the relationship?

That would be really weird and I just don't see that ever happening.

To be honest, when I hear the name of my children I fondly think about my children. Obviously they are not the only ones in the world with that name but I don't interact with very many people that have that name and when I do, I smile a little and think of my children which isn't what I want to do with someone I'm dating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date someone with the same name as either of my children, I just think it would be weird. For the same reason I probably would not date someone with the same name as my sibling or my parents.

What if your child, sibling or parent legally changed their name to the name of your fiance or spouse?

If you're ending the relationship over this, that's crazy. If you're not ending the relationship over this, why let it prevent you from starting the relationship?

That would be really weird and I just don't see that ever happening.

To be honest, when I hear the name of my children I fondly think about my children. Obviously they are not the only ones in the world with that name but I don't interact with very many people that have that name and when I do, I smile a little and think of my children which isn't what I want to do with someone I'm dating.

Oh sorry, I want to add a little more to your question. Yes, it would be super weird if it happens but it's also not the same. I remember them as babies with their names so when I hear that name I think of all the fond memories collectively from raising them. It wouldn't be the same if they changed their name to my spouse's name because there wouldn't be a history with that name.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM doesn't hesitate to pump out babies with abusive losers and unmediated mental health cases.

But first names? We're drawing the line at first names.

Would you marry and Adolf?

No problem with Adolf but problem with Hitler. No problem with Osama but problem with Bin Laden. The last names are more specific.

[Anonymous]

There is one name that gives me pause when I'm on dating apps. I have two exes with the name, my sister's ex has the name and my deadbeat dad has the name. So I'd like to avoid it if possible but it's not a dealbreaker.

[Anonymous]

It might be confusing to be dating someone with the same first name as mine.

[Anonymous]

I’m having incredible sex with Sheldon Momoa

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Anonymous wrote:I’m having incredible sex with Sheldon Momoa

You scream oh mama in bed?

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Anonymous wrote:Some names are pretty bad. I tend not to like dumb woman names. You know. Stripper names.

I once had a really smart, really accomplished client whose first name was Bambi. I think when you get to know a person the name ceases to carry that much weight.

I used to work with an accountant named Honey. She was great, but her manager did ask her if he could call her by her middle name.

How did she take it?

She agreed, and over the years everyone at work switched to the middle name. When I joined, I had no idea, so also used her middle name, that’s how we were introduced. I don’t remember what triggered the explanation, but she laughed when she told me the story.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My friend Nimrod has been single for years. This could be why!

I would love to meet someone named Nimrod!

Lotta racists and shallow people on this thread.

I know two Brandys who are very accomplished, wonderful people. I used to date a sexy Ernest.

I am married to a Roscoe!

[Anonymous]

If I had a unisex name, I’d be hesitant to date someone with the same name as me.

[Anonymous]

Yes.
If it’s the same name as my mom or daughter I’m out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No but I definitely considered last name. I didn't want to be Mrs Butt for example.

Just to remind you: You never ever had to be Mrs. Butt, because you already have a last name. Keep the one your parents gave you.