Do you think we will see a massive uptick in women choosing to stay home after this?

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Anonymous wrote:I am losing my sh!t at home. Flame me, I care not.

Totally cool to be losing your shit!!! It’s HARD! I won’t flame you for that and let’s not flame PP when she says she loves it, WTF just let her love it and move along.

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Anonymous wrote:I am losing my sh!t at home. Flame me, I care not.

Totally cool to be losing your shit!!! It’s HARD! I won’t flame you for that and let’s not flame PP when she says she loves it, WTF just let her love it and move along.

Oh stop. No one is flaming PP for “loving it.” We’re flaming her for saying we all “know in our hearts” that having a SAHP (and let’s all call it what it is - a SAHM) is the “natural order.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love love love staying home with my kids and cannot understand women crawling out of their skin taking care of their kids all day and working. I working from home, while my husband is the main breadwinner by a lot, and he helps with the kids and home as well. This quarantine has made us both SO thankful that I CAN stay home with the kids, that I have a purposeful job from home, that I enjoy all the time with the kids and in the home, and that we have adapted well to this new temporary life. It is really ideal for kids to be met by a parent after school, spend the bulk of their free time with their family, this is the natural order of life and you can feel it’s true in your heart.

Your lack of a brain is astounding. Enjoy your natural order of life.

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Anonymous wrote:I love love love staying home with my kids and cannot understand women crawling out of their skin taking care of their kids all day and working. I working from home, while my husband is the main breadwinner by a lot, and he helps with the kids and home as well. This quarantine has made us both SO thankful that I CAN stay home with the kids, that I have a purposeful job from home, that I enjoy all the time with the kids and in the home, and that we have adapted well to this new temporary life. It is really ideal for kids to be met by a parent after school, spend the bulk of their free time with their family, this is the natural order of life and you can feel it’s true in your heart.

Lol, I love being with my kids and agree that kids should spend the bulk of their time at home with their family (if DH and I didn’t have flexibility and family help I’d have SAH).

BUT, taking care of young kids WHILE WORKING is not fun for anyone unless you have a really lame job. Do you?

No way! My job in international development communications is rad and fulfilling and yes it’s hard to manage both! Kids are 7 and 4.5 and able to hang out on their own for lego time, reading etc. don’t get all het up!!! No need to get angry. It’s okay for me to share my own perspective, it is time
Management and acknowledging that there are ups and downs.

You are definitely a troll. From the 1980's apparently. No one talks like this.

[Anonymous]

You know what, I love it. I’d rather my kid came home to grandparents and my wife or me too instead of our Indonesian nanny, hours of Kumon and playing on his iPad but it’s just not a life we can afford. Why are we so pissed at this woman for thinking it’s best if families can spend time together? Are you so morally bankrupt you’d argue against this? What’s one coherent argument against it? And yes we are happy with our set up and our kid is happy and thriving. Thank

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe! I'm not thinking of SAH but I am definitely debating on going to 80% and asking for a day or two to work remotely. It's been nice to be at home more, my husband and kids are happier as well. But overall I don't really want to step all the way out of my career (not sure it would ever really recover if I stepped out at my current level) nor do I want to rely on my husband to be the provider.

Why? Is he unreliable?

NP here. Don’t be a jerk. Two incomes are twice the security of one.

This. So many people’s industries are being hit hard it’s important to have a second source of income when possible. I think the better question would be if more people will switch to a more stable industry or reliable job after this.

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Anonymous wrote:You know what, I love it. I’d rather my kid came home to grandparents and my wife or me too instead of our Indonesian nanny, hours of Kumon and playing on his iPad but it’s just not a life we can afford. Why are we so pissed at this woman for thinking it’s best if families can spend time together? Are you so morally bankrupt you’d argue against this? What’s one coherent argument against it? And yes we are happy with our set up and our kid is happy and thriving. Thank

This. The women jumping all over her feel guilty, and that leads to all sorts of defensiveness and nastiness.

[Anonymous]

I suspect we’ll see fewer SAHMs as the value of having two paychecks will become more apparent. All those women married to high earning lawyers who thought they were set are going to realize how quickly that big paycheck can disappear.

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Anonymous wrote:I love love love staying home with my kids and cannot understand women crawling out of their skin taking care of their kids all day and working. I working from home, while my husband is the main breadwinner by a lot, and he helps with the kids and home as well. This quarantine has made us both SO thankful that I CAN stay home with the kids, that I have a purposeful job from home, that I enjoy all the time with the kids and in the home, and that we have adapted well to this new temporary life. It is really ideal for kids to be met by a parent after school, spend the bulk of their free time with their family, this is the natural order of life and you can feel it’s true in your heart.

Your lack of a brain is astounding. Enjoy your natural order of life.

I feel so sorry for your children to have such a selfish, narcissist mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suspect we’ll see fewer SAHMs as the value of having two paychecks will become more apparent. All those women married to high earning lawyers who thought they were set are going to realize how quickly that big paycheck can disappear.

+1 funny how ladies of HHI $500k + have not been posting their HHI much these days. I have a feeling there are going to be a bunch of divorces after this.

[Anonymous]

It's going to go back to 1960's thinking. Hire men because they don'tge pregnant. Hire single women because they don't have childcare problems. You'd better get used to living on one salary. Nannies now know they need jobs with security. The coronovirus has changed the world.

[Anonymous]

Nannies better get used to being quarantined with their owners!!! The two working parent family can’t make it without them or without a truly damaging amount of screen time. Kids will fully be plugged into the matrix just like mommy and daddy. All hail the big paychecks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suspect we’ll see fewer SAHMs as the value of having two paychecks will become more apparent. All those women married to high earning lawyers who thought they were set are going to realize how quickly that big paycheck can disappear.

Yes agree times a million!!! Security will be needed in the months to come. Amazing how many families found out this hit them the worst when they felt so secure. I think if anything this will cause families to rethink the one income concept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suspect we’ll see fewer SAHMs as the value of having two paychecks will become more apparent. All those women married to high earning lawyers who thought they were set are going to realize how quickly that big paycheck can disappear.

It’s not like a new paycheck can just magically appear either - especially since most of these women were working low wage jobs like preschool teacher, nonprofit, creative fields. If they have more than one kid, her salary wouldn’t even cover childcare.

[Anonymous]

It's odd and sad how many of you can't express your happiness or struggles with the current situation or a different one without building in a vicious slam of other people into it.

Pro-tip: It makes you come across as dishonest and insecure. Natural order lady, you are the most recent, but there are plenty of others in this thread from both sides. You all sound desperate for validation and I flat-out think you are lying.