Does anyone hate how competitive the world has become?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

I'm guessing you are either Korean or Chinese?
Not all Asians have this same mentality.

I’m Korean and my kids are mixed. We absolutely do not all share the same mentality. My basketball playing son is really good at tennis and golf but he loves basketball more. My kids have all played soccer. I think Asian kids just aren’t as good or built for football or basketball. Our entire family watches football and we absolutely care about this sport. My dad also loves to watch baseball.

No Asian is putting their kid in football

+1 my kid attends a high school where the majority are Chinese, Korean or Indian. There is NO football team at his high school because not enough students were interested in playing.

The music, tennis and golf programs are thriving though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I already accepted that my kids are average and might have to go to community college or a lower tier state school. I know they have the skills to be successful even if they aren’t in a stereotypical UMC profession.

My kid too. He is average and below average in almost everything. Truly.

He will be fine I believe. He may not be CEO, but we are teaching him to be smart with money, invest and save. To marry well (I don’t mean rich, but someone with good values and work ethic). He will have job, maybe own a small business and be happy.

You don’t need a huge house with trips to Europe to be Happy and healthy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

Not just Asians. No one with very smart kids that have a bright academic future without a sports scholarship is putting their kid into football or basketball

WTF. Why wouldn’t you put your kid who loves basketball in basketball?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

Not just Asians. No one with very smart kids that have a bright academic future without a sports scholarship is putting their kid into football or basketball

What about track & field?

Are asians just avoiding sports with athletic, well-trained Black kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

My Indian friend says they all choose tennis or golf because you can direct the coach and training times and not mess around with teams, fields, and others.

Or swim because the young Asian friend follow directions so much and do the daily training.

Then there are all the violin and piano kids.

This is true. Tennis is an independent sport. You have control over your practice and tournament schedule. Plus you don’t have to interact with annoying suburban mothers

+1

The same with golf. You do not need to rely on anyone and to avoid annoying parents. In golf and tennis, coaches can not cut you from the team due to favoritism and nepotism because it shows up in the tryout results.

Yes we know; it’s not a team ball sport.

Is that the magic catch for Asian and SE Asian families?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

Not just Asians. No one with very smart kids that have a bright academic future without a sports scholarship is putting their kid into football or basketball

What about track & field?

Are asians just avoiding sports with athletic, well-trained Black kids?

No they focus on life long sports with no favoritism

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

My Indian friend says they all choose tennis or golf because you can direct the coach and training times and not mess around with teams, fields, and others.

Or swim because the young Asian friend follow directions so much and do the daily training.

Then there are all the violin and piano kids.

This is true. Tennis is an independent sport. You have control over your practice and tournament schedule. Plus you don’t have to interact with annoying suburban mothers

+1

The same with golf. You do not need to rely on anyone and to avoid annoying parents. In golf and tennis, coaches can not cut you from the team due to favoritism and nepotism because it shows up in the tryout results.

Yes we know; it’s not a team ball sport.

Is that the magic catch for Asian and SE Asian families?

Idk. We are a mixed Indian/ middle eastern family and our kids play soccer and field hockey. We purposely got them involved in team sports vs individual ones because we felt it provides more benefits- learning how to work together and collaborate with others, supporting teammates, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

Not just Asians. No one with very smart kids that have a bright academic future without a sports scholarship is putting their kid into football or basketball

What about track & field?

Are asians just avoiding sports with athletic, well-trained Black kids?

No they focus on life long sports with no favoritism

With that personable, team player attitude we can see why!

[Anonymous]

Always good to know some stereotypes are well-earned. Thx DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

Not just Asians. No one with very smart kids that have a bright academic future without a sports scholarship is putting their kid into football or basketball

What about track & field?

Are asians just avoiding sports with athletic, well-trained Black kids?

No they focus on life long sports with no favoritism

With that personable, team player attitude we can see why!

Who are these odd Asian posters posting?

We live in McLean and plenty of Asian kids play basketball and run track.

[Anonymous]

White people are obsessed with team sports and “teamwork”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

My Indian friend says they all choose tennis or golf because you can direct the coach and training times and not mess around with teams, fields, and others.

Or swim because the young Asian friend follow directions so much and do the daily training.

Then there are all the violin and piano kids.

This is true. Tennis is an independent sport. You have control over your practice and tournament schedule. Plus you don’t have to interact with annoying suburban mothers

+1

The same with golf. You do not need to rely on anyone and to avoid annoying parents. In golf and tennis, coaches can not cut you from the team due to favoritism and nepotism because it shows up in the tryout results.

Yes we know; it’s not a team ball sport.

Is that the magic catch for Asian and SE Asian families?

So when people are tossing around "Asian" do they just mean recent immigrants?
And really can you tell?

My Asian kids aren't into team sport much to the chagrin of DH who is naturally athletic and has been pretty much awesome at any sport he tried. He's been pushing soccer and other team sports since they were little kids only to have them decide that they wanted more independent activities, like my DD liking to run but after trying track, she decided to run 5Ks by herself instead.

I forced them into marching band (and yes it's not a sport, blah, blah, blah) but they love the teamwork aspect of it now. We don't all flee from teamwork.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White people are obsessed with team sports and “teamwork”

Asian American here. I have posted a few times on this thread. I am a child of poor immigrants. I did not grow up playing sports. I did do well in school, attended Ivy schools and met Dh in grad school.

Americans love sports. I still don’t love sports but I have a DH who absolutely loves sports and kids who love sports. Dh and sons bond over watching and playing sports. This is very much a large part of American culture.

In his spare time, Dh watches and rewatches clips of various super bowls or tennis highlights. This seems really boring to me but he loves it. He will watch, listen and read commentary before football games and watch the game live and repeat watching, listening and reading about the same game. His friends watch games together, talk about upcoming games and past games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

Not just Asians. No one with very smart kids that have a bright academic future without a sports scholarship is putting their kid into football or basketball

What about track & field?

Are asians just avoiding sports with athletic, well-trained Black kids?

No they focus on life long sports with no favoritism

Running is a life long sport

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

My Indian friend says they all choose tennis or golf because you can direct the coach and training times and not mess around with teams, fields, and others.

Or swim because the young Asian friend follow directions so much and do the daily training.

Then there are all the violin and piano kids.

This is true. Tennis is an independent sport. You have control over your practice and tournament schedule. Plus you don’t have to interact with annoying suburban mothers

+1

The same with golf. You do not need to rely on anyone and to avoid annoying parents. In golf and tennis, coaches can not cut you from the team due to favoritism and nepotism because it shows up in the tryout results.

Yes we know; it’s not a team ball sport.

Is that the magic catch for Asian and SE Asian families?

So when people are tossing around "Asian" do they just mean recent immigrants?
And really can you tell?

My Asian kids aren't into team sport much to the chagrin of DH who is naturally athletic and has been pretty much awesome at any sport he tried. He's been pushing soccer and other team sports since they were little kids only to have them decide that they wanted more independent activities, like my DD liking to run but after trying track, she decided to run 5Ks by herself instead.

I forced them into marching band (and yes it's not a sport, blah, blah, blah) but they love the teamwork aspect of it now. We don't all flee from teamwork.

We can always tell their family culture when they do hours of tutoring a week to be ahead in math.