Does anyone hate how competitive the world has become?

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

I'm guessing you are either Korean or Chinese?
Not all Asians have this same mentality.

I’m Korean and my kids are mixed. We absolutely do not all share the same mentality. My basketball playing son is really good at tennis and golf but he loves basketball more. My kids have all played soccer. I think Asian kids just aren’t as good or built for football or basketball. Our entire family watches football and we absolutely care about this sport. My dad also loves to watch baseball.

We are talking first gen parents here

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

I'm guessing you are either Korean or Chinese?
Not all Asians have this same mentality.

I’m Korean and my kids are mixed. We absolutely do not all share the same mentality. My basketball playing son is really good at tennis and golf but he loves basketball more. My kids have all played soccer. I think Asian kids just aren’t as good or built for football or basketball. Our entire family watches football and we absolutely care about this sport. My dad also loves to watch baseball.

We are talking first gen parents here

No one said anything about first gen parents. There are a ton of Asian Americans in this country. I was born in South Korea and came to America when I was a toddler so I’m technically first generation.

I still don’t agree with pp who said Asians only care about tennis and golf. I also have a tennis playing kid but he played soccer more before he specialized in tennis. My basketball kid also played soccer. Most Asian boys and any boy in America played soccer when they were in elementary school in America.

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Anonymous wrote:I said this before, and I'll say this again. In order to make a varsity team in expensive neighborhoods such as Langley, McLean, Potomac, kids, on average, are from either UMC or UC families, with extensive training when they were young.

You can, of course, point out a few exceptions here and there, but exceptions are not the norm.

So wealthier kids are more likely to make the teams at wealthier schools in wealthier neighborhoods than poor kids who can’t afford to live in those neighborhoods and therefore don’t attend those schools? Shut the front door! What an amazing insight!

She’s truly brilliant but can afford Larlos tennis lessons so he can play number 8 on Langley

Having money does not guarantee that your kids will make HS varsity teams in wealthy areas, but not having money guarantees that your kids will likely NOT make HS varsity teams due to lack of training. There are sports where not having money for training will hurt you, no matter how talented you are.

More importantly, not having money will guarantee that your kid won’t make varsity at the wealthy high schools because you can’t afford to live in the wealthy neighborhoods that feed those high schools.

Poor athletic talented kids will make varsity at poor high schools, get recruited, and eventually turn pro, while rich little Larlo is still going to be bragging at 40 about how he was a multi sport athlete because he played golf and water polo…

Most of the poor high schools have terrible sports teams. Nobody recruits from terrible teams and good players will do anything possible to get out of there.

The hope is you get connected to someone that can connect you to the sports privates. In the DMV, the WCAC teams for most sports…as well as STA, Landon, Georgetown Prep as well (though those are harder to gain acceptance).

The scenario you outlined is now almost extinct.

Herndon sent a kid to Princeton baseball this year. Seems like better ROI than Langley/McLean pyramids. 🤷‍♀️

His national level little league sent him to the team.

His academic record was sent by herdon OS

National level little league? Ha! He played Herndon Reston Cal Ripken Baseball and wasn’t on some national level team as a 12yo. He is 6’7” though.

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​Take a look at the varsity golf or tennis roster of any wealthy areas and see how many Asians there are on the team.

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Anonymous wrote:​Take a look at the varsity golf or tennis roster of any wealthy areas and see how many Asians there are on the team.

And coccy Indians

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Anonymous wrote:OP’s post makes me think they probably had everything handed to them as they grew up, and does not realize/appreciate it. For those of us that didn’t, it is no harder now than it was for us then. My kid will likely have it better than I did.

I do wish we had a better safety net that would make opting out easier. Obviously if you do not want to be a part of the rat race, maybe you are not owed a SFH in a prone neighborhood, regular restaurant meals, or other trimmings of UMC lifestyle. But you should be able to work a chill regular job or something that gives back to society, and have a safe pleasant place to live, and access to health care. The fact that those things have become so unaffordable has raised the stakes and that is why we see people climbing on top of each other to try and be king of the hill. Progressive policies aren’t necessarily the solution since they tend to throw more money at housing/higher ed/health care, making them even less affordable to those who have to pay their own way.

You can. There are many many parts of the US where you can live a happy and safe life with a decent job, health care insurance, basic public schools, own a home. You just might have to leave DC

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Anonymous wrote:Listen folks. When we’re talking about natural elite athletic talent, NO ONE is talking about tennis.

Send your little phenom out onto the basketball court and get back to us. Until then, stop embarrassing yourselves.

I don’t get this either. Kids have been training at basketball starting at very young ages. Basketball is very similar to soccer in terms of needing tons of muscle memory and technical skills.

You know a kid will hit a certain height by the parents, but there isn’t any “natural ability” that gets ro the upper echelons without tons of practice.

Yeah, of course. This is all obvious. Literally NO ONE is making the case that athletes turn pro without lots of practice. The point is that rich parents can spend thousands of dollars getting little Larlo all the private basketball coaching the DMV has to offer starting at the age of 5, they can get him on the very most elite travel team at 10, and if by 14 he’s not tall and only an average athlete, IT DOESN’T MATTER in the least how “skilled” he is. HS coaches will drop him like a hot potato in favor of the 6’3” reasonably athletic freshman who has never played competitive basketball in his life. Because believe it or not, there is still plenty of time to teach a 14 year old how to play basketball.

LOL No. They will drop the hypothetical kid like a hot potato in favor of a 6'3" kid who has been in basketball since age 5. The tall kid is out of luck if he doesn't have any skills. In fact, the tall kid with no skills and experience is less desirable than the short kid who can hustle on the court.

I have an average height very skilled kid who has tried out for competitive basketball teams and never picked. They will not pick the short kid ever.

Only in the DMV...you people have issues.

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Op, this working for someone else is a fairly new thing in history. It has never been easier to go back to working for oneself,MHO.
I had three bosses contact me last month to 'help' them. I just blocked two of my managers contacting me. Work has not disappeared; it comes looking for good workers.
I'm not pushing my kid so they can work for someone else. I think they can come up with something to do on their own or with friends skipping companies altogether.
We also have an investment account for them. It has done great since 2020 and the kids is only 10.
I found investing so much easier than being competitive or making sure they get into a good school or soccer team.

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

Not just Asians. No one with very smart kids that have a bright academic future without a sports scholarship is putting their kid into football or basketball

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Anonymous wrote:​Take a look at the varsity golf or tennis roster of any wealthy areas and see how many Asians there are on the team.

They know what’s up

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

My Indian friend says they all choose tennis or golf because you can direct the coach and training times and not mess around with teams, fields, and others.

Or swim because the young Asian friend follow directions so much and do the daily training.

Then there are all the violin and piano kids.

This is true. Tennis is an independent sport. You have control over your practice and tournament schedule. Plus you don’t have to interact with annoying suburban mothers

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

My Indian friend says they all choose tennis or golf because you can direct the coach and training times and not mess around with teams, fields, and others.

Or swim because the young Asian friend follow directions so much and do the daily training.

Then there are all the violin and piano kids.

This is true. Tennis is an independent sport. You have control over your practice and tournament schedule. Plus you don’t have to interact with annoying suburban mothers

+1

The same with golf. You do not need to rely on anyone and to avoid annoying parents. In golf and tennis, coaches can not cut you from the team due to favoritism and nepotism because it shows up in the tryout results.

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian and in my circle of Asian friends, nobody cares about having their kids play soccer, football, or basketball. We only care about golf or tennis. That is because most, not all Asians, consider soccer, football, and basketball a low class, while it takes a lot of money to get good at golf or tennis.

If you look at the golf and tennis roster at Langley, McLean, Oakton HS, they are mostly Asians.

Not just Asians. No one with very smart kids that have a bright academic future without a sports scholarship is putting their kid into football or basketball

That's just silly. Basketball is an extremely popular sport, kids play it for fun even if they're not trying to get a sports scholarship.

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I can eat that Indian for lunch