I eat organic the boyfriend does not

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is adamant about not eating organic food since he thinks it's all about slapping a label on a product to charge people more money for it. I try to eat organic because I want the best food possible. When we go grocery shopping he throws a fit about how he doesn't want to buy the more expensive chicken and then when I say I'll pay for it, he goes ahead and buys it and then gives me a lecture about how he cannot afford it. I'd rather be just let me buy my expensive organic chicken.

How should we deal with this?

[Anonymous]

Break up seriously

[Anonymous]

Just be f--k buddies?

[Anonymous]

He may not have all of the information he needs to make a different decision about the food he buys and eats. Maybe you could give him something to read about the benefits of eating organic.
If he already has this background, then break up immediately. Your values are too different.

And, btw, is English your second language? Just wondering b/c you referred to him as "the boyfriend" instead of "my boyfriend."

[Anonymous]

Break up. If you can't come to a compromise on this on your own you will never be able to handle the bigger decisions in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He may not have all of the information he needs to make a different decision about the food he buys and eats. Maybe you could give him something to read about the benefits of eating organic.
If he already has this background, then break up immediately. Your values are too different.

And, btw, is English your second language? Just wondering b/c you referred to him as "the boyfriend" instead of "my boyfriend."

Not OP. How old are you, PP. She's just writing with flava.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend is adamant about not eating organic food since he thinks it's all about slapping a label on a product to charge people more money for it. I try to eat organic because I want the best food possible. When we go grocery shopping he throws a fit about how he doesn't want to buy the more expensive chicken and then when I say I'll pay for it, he goes ahead and buys it and then gives me a lecture about how he cannot afford it. I'd rather be just let me buy my expensive organic chicken.

How should we deal with this?

He might not be 100% wrong. Do a little research and then pick your battles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He may not have all of the information he needs to make a different decision about the food he buys and eats. Maybe you could give him something to read about the benefits of eating organic.
If he already has this background, then break up immediately. Your values are too different.

And, btw, is English your second language? Just wondering b/c you referred to him as "the boyfriend" instead of "my boyfriend."

Not OP. How old are you, PP. She's just writing with flava.

+1
I'm quite certain English is not her second language

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend is adamant about not eating organic food since he thinks it's all about slapping a label on a product to charge people more money for it. I try to eat organic because I want the best food possible. When we go grocery shopping he throws a fit about how he doesn't want to buy the more expensive chicken and then when I say I'll pay for it, he goes ahead and buys it and then gives me a lecture about how he cannot afford it. I'd rather be just let me buy my expensive organic chicken.

How should we deal with this?

He might not be 100% wrong. Do a little research and then pick your battles.

Why don't you tell us about your 'research', PP?

[Anonymous]

FWIW, I'm with him. I think it's a waste of money. However, you're an adult and you can eat what you like. Buy your own food and let him buy his. Or, you can pay a larger share of the grocery bill.

[Anonymous]

Break up. This is a lifetime of fighting ahead. And then fighting on what and how to feed the kids (if you choose to have them). It's not worth it, just leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Break up. If you can't come to a compromise on this on your own you will never be able to handle the bigger decisions in life.

Agree.

Eating organic or not is a trivial issue. It is not a moral issue. It is not a character issue. It is not a fault or a flaw. It is not a political or religious conflict or a disagreement on the role of family, kids and inlaws. At most, it is a preference issue, along the lines of I like the thermostat set at 76 in the summer and my husband likes it set at 79.

If you cannot manage this one or give a little (as he apparently at least trying to meet you half way) then you are in for a long struggle.

Better rip the bandaid off now vs the long painful slow death of a relationship with kids, property and more.

[Anonymous]

It actually turns out that eating organic may be exposing you to more dangerous chemicals than traditional produce (see https://www.ocf.berkeley.edu/~lhom/organictext.html)

C'mon, this doesn't matter. Whatever type you buy be sure and wash it thoroughly and you'll be fine.

[Anonymous]

Another vote to break up.

It doesn't matter whether he is right or not. The way he is handling it is f'd up. He's creating drama and attempting to change your behavior indirectly. He will do this with bigger issues later on if you stay together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It actually turns out that eating organic may be exposing you to more dangerous chemicals than traditional produce (see https://www.ocf.berkeley.edu/~lhom/organictext.html)

C'mon, this doesn't matter. Whatever type you buy be sure and wash it thoroughly and you'll be fine.

Maaaan, this sucks. Do I have to grow everything myself?