Attraction at the gym

[Anonymous]

Not sure if it is enhanced by the pheromones or the adrenaline, but I (yes, a married woman) have this crazy attraction to a man at the gym. We have not spoken, and I really don't want to...in fact, I am almost afraid of him in that way. It started with a passing look that was electric, and ever since then there has been these knowing exchanges of looks at the gym. I know this is insane. I have a great husband, and I would not cheat on him. But, this is such an intense attraction -- completely physical, but the kind that stays with you all day. I have never looked forward to the gym so much, but when I go I feel both guilty and almost skittish. It's like a magnetic pull to this person, and I think he feels it too. He gets closer and closer...

Do any of you have similar experiences?

[Anonymous]

I know what you mean but in my case it is at the office.

[Anonymous]

It's happened to me a few times in my life. Both were men at work and I avoided both like thr plague. I'm happily married and being around either of them would have meant disaster for my marriage.

I wish I knew what was behind these sort of strong attractions. Must be chemical.

[Anonymous]

It's a little crush. Normal. Avoid the person and try to imagine that they have normal issues like everyone else (their farts don't smell of roses, despite the chemical attraction).

[Anonymous]

This is what your wives are doing at the gym, boys.

[Anonymous]

I have a gym crush. We ended up being introduced by one of his friends after about 6 months of dancing around one another. Now we chat every morning and he spots me when I need it. We are both in very happy and secure relationships, but it's nice to have someone else to interact with. I think it's better than going to a bar and chatting up random guys who come in just because it is a controlled environment, there's no alcohol haze, and there's no expectation to try to interact outside of the gym.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? Switch gyms. The more energy you put into this, the less you have for your marriage. You promised your husband to be faithful. Imagine if he was thinking so much about another woman?

[Anonymous]

Fantasies are harmless. Enjoy them and bring the sexual energy home to your DH. I would be thrilled if something sparked my wife's desire.

[Anonymous]

It's possible these people are your true soulmates. Your psyche knows more than you are aware.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's possible these people are your true soulmates. Your psyche knows more than you are aware.

no there is nothing about the soul here unless its soul cycle. its all about fxxking and that's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Switch gyms. The more energy you put into this, the less you have for your marriage. You promised your husband to be faithful. Imagine if he was thinking so much about another woman?

I agree. I had a crush at church of all places. My dh and I have different religious backgrounds so I go alone. Once I started feeling how you do, I made sure that I changed my seat so that I am on the other side of the sanctuary. It is a big church, so I don't see him as often. The spark is still there, but has died down to a little glimmer. Not worth ruining a marriage and family over.

[Anonymous]

Women are never happy with what they have - always looking for a new guy to excite them.

[Anonymous]

Haha, it's just a crush. I have one who has a similar metro schedule to me. Sometimes I change my walk a little so I can be behind him on the escalator and check out his butt! Yay!

Anyway, the "magnetic pull" is just the allure of someone new and shiny. As long as you don't let it turn into something (I would avoid actually talking) you are fine. Eventually you will notice he smells or picks his teeth and that will be the end of it. You are married, not dead!

[Anonymous]

I think it's the spice of married life and you should enjoy it without crossing any boundaries.

You're married - not dead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure if it is enhanced by the pheromones or the adrenaline, but I (yes, a married woman) have this crazy attraction to a man at the gym. We have not spoken, and I really don't want to...in fact, I am almost afraid of him in that way. It started with a passing look that was electric, and ever since then there has been these knowing exchanges of looks at the gym. I know this is insane. I have a great husband, and I would not cheat on him. But, this is such an intense attraction -- completely physical, but the kind that stays with you all day. I have never looked forward to the gym so much, but when I go I feel both guilty and almost skittish. It's like a magnetic pull to this person, and I think he feels it too. He gets closer and closer...

Do any of you have similar experiences?

These attractions are what make the routine boredom of monogamy bearable.

Is the crush married? You may not be able to tell by whether he has a ring. I do not wear my ring at the gym because it cuts into my finger when I am lifting weights. Do you wear your ring? Point being, if he knows you are married (and if he is married) he will assume this is harmless but fun flirtation. If on the other hand he thinks or would have reason to believe you are single, you may be giving him false signals.

I say enjoy the crush, flirt all you want - it motivates you to get in shape and you will have a sex drive for your husband. I would be totally fine with my wife flirting at the gym if I got the benefits. Heck, I would role play being your gym crush and fuck my wife senseless.