It just sucks - not even offered internship - (sigh)

[Anonymous]

I hold a master's degree and had 10 years of experience in my field before leaving to become a SAHM.
I've been a SAHM mom for 13 years and for the last two years I've been doing what I can to get some skills to put on my resume.
I've held a PTSA board position, served on an HOA board (for 6 years), helped our state Senator run for reelection and took some very short term contracts in a similar field.

I've sent many, many resumes for positions at entry and mid-level and got called for three interviews but they were for the entry level positions. Given my absence from the workforce, I understand I have to start at the bottom and am willing to do so.

Two weeks ago, I interviewed for a paying internship as the women admitted that with my background, she was curious as to why I was even applying. I would have loved the position because it would have allowed me to brush off the dust and learn the job without feeling like such an ol' fart.

Well.... i get the email saying they went with another candidate.

I have been doing a lot of reading about interviewing and DH has been practicing with me. I know I don't do a very good job selling my skills as talking about myself has never been a strong suit of mine. I wish someone would realize my passion and my ability to be a good worker and just give. me. a . chance!

sigh

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP, but I don't feel bad. This is a conscious choice you made, to give up your career and be supported by your husband, and you are now perceived as always putting career on the back burner. PTSA and HOA simply don't translate to the real world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, but I don't feel bad. This is a conscious choice you made, to give up your career and be supported by your husband, and you are now perceived as always putting career on the back burner. PTSA and HOA simply don't translate to the real world.

^^ burned by the ex-wife for alimony, are ya?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP! Something will come along! Do not feel bad or worry about PPs reply.

I've interviewed people before and sometimes it truly is a tough decision. Maybe they loved you but for one reason they went with the other candidate. Keep your chin up.

[Anonymous]

It's not you op

[Anonymous]

I think you are shooting too low. I wouldn't hire someone with your education and experience for an entry level job (and certainly not am internship), but I have hired many mothers returning to the workforce for mid level jobs with lots of flexibility.

You don't lose all your education and experience due to a career break, so stop acting apologetic and willing to start from the bottom. My guess is you are not portraying confidence and are seeming maybe a bit meek because you are over compensating for the time off. The self doubt about the break shines through in interviews, so work on your own paradigms and perception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, but I don't feel bad. This is a conscious choice you made, to give up your career and be supported by your husband, and you are now perceived as always putting career on the back burner. PTSA and HOA simply don't translate to the real world.

^^ burned by the ex-wife for alimony, are ya?

Uh, hardly. I'm a (female, with young kids) hiring manager who would never pass up a motivated young recent grad for someone who quit voluntarily and is now out of the game. Harsh but true. Based on OP's post I'm not alone.

[Anonymous]

Given my absence from the workforce, I understand I have to start at the bottom and am willing to do so

This should be enough

But nasty people don't think this is enough. How dare you be out of the workforce
I'm sorry op. I really am. People are ugly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, but I don't feel bad. This is a conscious choice you made, to give up your career and be supported by your husband, and you are now perceived as always putting career on the back burner. PTSA and HOA simply don't translate to the real world.

Alimony = a woman without pride

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, but I don't feel bad. This is a conscious choice you made, to give up your career and be supported by your husband, and you are now perceived as always putting career on the back burner. PTSA and HOA simply don't translate to the real world.

^^ burned by the ex-wife for alimony, are ya?

Uh, hardly. I'm a (female, with young kids) hiring manager who would never pass up a motivated young recent grad for someone who quit voluntarily and is now out of the game. Harsh but true. Based on OP's post I'm not alone.

I hope one day you get sued for ageism. It's women like you who give female managers such the bitchy reputation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are shooting too low. I wouldn't hire someone with your education and experience for an entry level job (and certainly not am internship), but I have hired many mothers returning to the workforce for mid level jobs with lots of flexibility.

You don't lose all your education and experience due to a career break, so stop acting apologetic and willing to start from the bottom. My guess is you are not portraying confidence and are seeming maybe a bit meek because you are over compensating for the time off. The self doubt about the break shines through in interviews, so work on your own paradigms and perception.

+1. When I returned to working FT after a 7 us break I initially applied for jobs a step below where I'd been when I left. I got little response. Had a conversation with a former colleague who wanted to refer me for a position a step above where I'd been. That job didn't work for me because it was a different city but the convo helped me see I was selling myself short. Started applying at the manager level I'd been at and quickly found a job that was a great fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, but I don't feel bad. This is a conscious choice you made, to give up your career and be supported by your husband, and you are now perceived as always putting career on the back burner. PTSA and HOA simply don't translate to the real world.

^^ burned by the ex-wife for alimony, are ya?

Uh, hardly. I'm a (female, with young kids) hiring manager who would never pass up a motivated young recent grad for someone who quit voluntarily and is now out of the game. Harsh but true. Based on OP's post I'm not alone.

Just another example of women attacking other women for making different choices. Women are so much worse to other women that men every have or ever will be. Shameful.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP! It's hard today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, but I don't feel bad. This is a conscious choice you made, to give up your career and be supported by your husband, and you are now perceived as always putting career on the back burner. PTSA and HOA simply don't translate to the real world.

^^ burned by the ex-wife for alimony, are ya?

Uh, hardly. I'm a (female, with young kids) hiring manager who would never pass up a motivated young recent grad for someone who quit voluntarily and is now out of the game. Harsh but true. Based on OP's post I'm not alone.

Just another example of women attacking other women for making different choices. Women are so much worse to other women that men every have or ever will be. Shameful.

This is true.

[Anonymous]

I can tell you that my workplace is full of women who stayed home or seriously cut back for a while to be with their children. Unfortunately, we aren't hiring. But I know other places are. Are you looking at any nonprofits, especially those with a high proportion of women in management?