If you are a straight woman and a female friend hit on you
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Anonymous
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...what was your reaction? Or how do you think you would react to heavy flirting, particularly if the friend who hit on you was presumably straight (happily married, etc.) and someone you had liked a lot?
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Anonymous
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I would create some distance, for one of two reasons:
1. It wouldn't interest me at all, no attraction to women, and I wouldn't feel comfortable with the flirting. 2. If I did find it intriguing, I think it's very easy for women to mentally justify "experimenting" as not cheating (I am married). I wouldn't want to be put in a situation of temptation. So I'd definitely avoid any drinking together, etc. I'd be willing to say, Hey, it seems like you're flirting, and I'm not comfortable with that. If she backed off - cool, boundaries respected, no problem. But otherwise... distance. |
Anonymous
| Sounds enticing ......... |
Anonymous
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As I always point out to DW: All women are inherently bi-curious.
She says that's not so, but I know that it is. 
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Anonymous
You would be wrong. |
Anonymous
Yeah, that's what she said. Oh well. |
Anonymous
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I would be flattered. Maybe she's curious, and she's testing boundaries with you. There's no rule saying you have to act on every amorous advance. If it continues, you are in your rights to ask her about it and state your level of interest as well (sounds like it's nil). I wouldn't freak out though - it sounds like your friend really trusts you.
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Anonymous
| I'd treat it the same way I'd treat it if a male friend hit on me. Because it's the same thing. If you're not interested, say you're not interested, but you hope it won't affect your friendship. It might. And if telling people would have ripple effects on her life, don't tell anyone in your circle. There can be negative consequences of outing someone, even if they're just bi-curious and not actually bi or gay. |
Anonymous
| Spread your legs and enjoy the mind blowing experience! |
Anonymous
This. OP, same thing happened to me about a year and a half ago. I'd love to explore further, but the right opportunity hasn't presented itself. |
Anonymous
| No thank you. I don't eat fish. |
Anonymous
| Are you married ? If so, it's cheating. Also If you pursue it your marriage will end. |
Anonymous
mm'Kay. |
Anonymous
The thought of being with another woman is totally repulsive to me. Sorry. |
Anonymous
I heard after a couple of drinks, it's not as repulsive... |